HBK3317 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 (edited) 11 June. Mine is on 22 and I always used to think that it's such a big deal, because, you know, 1 1 2 2 ... So lame. I don't know what I am feeling. I mean I don't want to wish her or contact her in anyway or form, no sir, but still I can't seem to wrap my head around the reality that on this very day just a year back we were, at least I was, so happy. I always dreaded of this day after break up and now that it's finally here I don't know how to feel, what to feel... There are just random thoughts and images and memories of her filling up my brain right now. Damn it. Damn it all. Edited June 11, 2015 by HBK3317
Mr Scorpio Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Anniversaries can certainly hurt in situations like this. Anniversaries are a form of ritual, and rituals are important to human culture. At the same time, they are "merely" a human construct. They don't exist in a corporeal sense. You can't kick a holiday (believe me I've tried). What's my point? That you are essentially the same person in the same situation today that you were yesterday, and that you will be tomorrow. The difference that has you down? The position of the stars. Stars man! Don't let stars get you down. They're just . 1
aloneinaz Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Anniversaries can certainly hurt in situations like this. Anniversaries are a form of ritual, and rituals are important to human culture. At the same time, they are "merely" a human construct. They don't exist in a corporeal sense. You can't kick a holiday (believe me I've tried). What's my point? That you are essentially the same person in the same situation today that you were yesterday, and that you will be tomorrow. The difference that has you down? The position of the stars. Stars man! Don't let stars get you down. They're just . Wow.. I've read this a couple of times and feel like I need to blow the dust off my bong to understand it..lol
aloneinaz Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 11 June. Mine is on 22 and I always used to think that it's such a big deal, because, you know, 1 1 2 2 ... So lame. I don't know what I am feeling. I mean I don't want to wish her or contact her in anyway or form, no sir, but still I can't seem to wrap my head around the reality that on this very day just a year back we were, at least I was, so happy. I always dreaded of this day after break up and now that it's finally here I don't know how to feel, what to feel... There are just random thoughts and images and memories of her filling up my brain right now. Damn it. Damn it all. How long has it been since you broke up? Have you been dating at all? I'm assuming no GF? Anniversaries can be a challenge to navigate, especially if you haven't put the failed relationship behind you 100%. But, it's just a day of someone who didn't want you in their lives. It shouldn't really have that much significance to you anymore. This day will pass like any other. If you were in a relationship with a hot chick who rocked your world, I bet you wouldn't have even remembered this ex BD.
RedButton Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 This was hard for me too. I was about 8 weeks no contact when Xmas and her Birthday came up around the same time. I really really wanted to message her a simple best wishes message but I decided not to send anything. I felt like it was best, first for me and also for her. Even though she broke up with me, would she really feel better or worse getting a text from her ex when she's trying to celebrate with friends and family?
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