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I got a meetup tomorrow with a girl I like but she wants her cousin and friend.....

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She said she wants to bring her cousin along because shes not familar with area sorry for such a strange request I said thats the cool the more the merrier and she said she will bring a friend so shes not the third wheel I met the girl at a wrestling show she likes wrestling as much as I do we talked ten minutes got her number we texted all night last night I feel good about it I just wonder about this? Also since its a public meeting and technically not an offical date what do I do for KINO touching for interaction? Keep it light someone told me but how much do i do? Hug tickle her tease pat her what is good?

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This sounds horribly awkward and uncomfortable.

 

 

Get ready to feel like the odd man out.

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Gary S Established Member

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Group dates are bad news. It's more difficult to judge their love level.

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I think if a girl wants to make it a group outing instead of one-on-one time, it's a sign she's not interested in anything romantic.

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what do I do for KINO touching for interaction? Keep it light someone told me but how much do i do? Hug tickle her tease pat her what is good?

 

It's not ideal, but if she is nervous, it may be ok. You will feel awkward, so expect that.

 

As far as touching, that won't be the focus of this particular date. This is going to be more about just getting to know who she is. The GOOD part about her friend and cousin being there is she will be showing you her real self, not putting on an act for a date.

 

If you want to try to get a little physical, focus on casually putting an arm around her while standing, holding hands while walking, etc. Don't be trying to tease or pat or kiss etc in front of her cousin and friend.

 

To test the waters, just get into her space. People have a natural "bubble" of space around them. If you get super close to her and she doesn't find a reason to back away to maintain that space, you are probably safe trying to touch her. If she leans INTO you when you get close, you are golden.

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I think if a girl wants to make it a group outing instead of one-on-one time, it's a sign she's not interested in anything romantic.

 

Not true for the young and inexperienced. If a 30 year old wants a group outing, that is true. But I am assuming this is a young woman.

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she is 33 years old and we met at a wrestling show i only talked to her for 10 minutes and got number and then texted her all night on tuesday and got the thursday meetup. she seems receptive to my texts smiling in them saying I hope it works out for you :) when i told her im going broadcast center and i told her a story about me being a kid and said lol... that was cute and she texted me morning yesterday. What do you think???

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I would just be a social/normal guy on the first outing. If she only met you once she might not be sure of you so best to just consider it a "meet" and use it to build comfort to ask her out one on one later. Interact with her friend and cousin and have fun as a group and then ask her out later for an actual date.

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thanks yeah thats what I was thinking she doesnt know me I literraly just ran up to her and wanted to talk really quick and get her number ( i was nervous n stuff and had sweat so i know i looked somewhat of an idiot ) but she seems receptive to me and replies quickly to texts so yeah.

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At 33 this is odd indeed. Grown women go places by themselves. If she doesn't know the area well she can take a dry run the day before with her cousin & friend.

 

Where are you meeting? If it's a public place like a bar I might be tempted to bring some buddies along.

 

I don't see this going well at all

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She said she wants to bring her cousin along because shes not familar with area sorry for such a strange request I said thats the cool the more the merrier and she said she will bring a friend so shes not the third wheel I met the girl at a wrestling show she likes wrestling as much as I do we talked ten minutes got her number we texted all night last night I feel good about it I just wonder about this? Also since its a public meeting and technically not an offical date what do I do for KINO touching for interaction? Keep it light someone told me but how much do i do? Hug tickle her tease pat her what is good?

 

On a first meet up, I wouldn't touch her at all. If anything, a light touch on the arm or shoulder to emphasize something you've said. If it's not a date, don't treat it as such. What you should do though, if you like her enough, is make sure to make an official date before you end the meet up. Ask for a specific day, time and place and confirm the day before. Keep up with light, regular communication until then.

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At 33 this is VERY odd.

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This sounds just plain weird - sorry.

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