GoldenGirl2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 We've been talking on and off for about 1 year now and , he's always been hot and cold with me. Anyways this past Monday he text me with his new number, but didn't say anything further, so I figure I'd try to start a conversation by asking how his weekend went, since we hadn't talked all this past weekend. He didn't respond to me, so I waited 5 hours and then text him asking him was everything alright and did I do anything wrong? He ignored me again. Well I just came to realization that he may not be as into me as I am into him because this is a PATTERN of his. As far as talking to me and then ignoring me. So I decided to block his number, so that he can't call or text me, so I can try to move on. Did I go too far? What could he be thinking? I know he tried to text me the next day because I tested it out and it tells the person of the number I blocked (HIS), that "this person has decided not to receive text at this time". Then he tried to call me, but since I blocked his number my phone doesn't ring, it just sends him straight to vm, however it DOES show me on my call log that he called and it was rejected. Link to post Share on other sites
mammasita Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Nope, you did the right thing.... SCREW HIM and find someone who WANTS to make time for you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
misspond Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 On and off, hot and cold. For a year? Yes, you did the right thing by blocking his number. Now you just have to stop yourself from checking to see if he's tried to contact you and move on from thinking about him. Time and time again, you'll read this scenario here and the truth is, if someone is into you then they will put in the time and effort. Both parties have to be 100% "in" in order for something to work, and this sounds as though the equation was way off. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenGirl2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Author Share Posted June 10, 2015 Nope, you did the right thing.... SCREW HIM and find someone who WANTS to make time for you. Thanks for the link! Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Is this still the same guy you were dealing with that was out of town with his daughter who was also acting shady and inconsistent? If it is, I thought you would have stopped dealing with him by now. Link to post Share on other sites
Gary S Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 You should have blocked him 50 weeks ago. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 why block him? you are just friends and maybe you misunderstood him? he owes you nothing. i don't understand what he has done wrong Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Is this the loser you posted about back in March who has to use other people's cars to get around and doesn't even have his own place to live and doesn't have any type of custody at all to see his kids? The one you say lies so much? If it is the same charmer, you don't have to worry about him showing up at your house angry that you blocked him if none of his buddies will loan him their car for a couple of hours. Ugh. As someone else said, you should have blocked this loser 50 weeks ago. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 He's Mr Unavailable. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 You did the right thing. Because what if he actually is interested but just doesn't have his crap together enough to not offend people? Now, what you have is a guy who is inconsiderate. Who wants one of those. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 We've been talking on and off for about 1 year now and , he's always been hot and cold with me. Anyways this past Monday he text me with his new number, but didn't say anything further, so I figure I'd try to start a conversation by asking how his weekend went, since we hadn't talked all this past weekend. He didn't respond to me, so I waited 5 hours and then text him asking him was everything alright and did I do anything wrong? He ignored me again. Well I just came to realization that he may not be as into me as I am into him because this is a PATTERN of his. As far as talking to me and then ignoring me. So I decided to block his number, so that he can't call or text me, so I can try to move on. Did I go too far? What could he be thinking? I know he tried to text me the next day because I tested it out and it tells the person of the number I blocked (HIS), that "this person has decided not to receive text at this time". Then he tried to call me, but since I blocked his number my phone doesn't ring, it just sends him straight to vm, however it DOES show me on my call log that he called and it was rejected. All I had to read was the first sentence of this post to know that he's not emotionally available to you because his attention is on someone else. So, you need to keep his cellphone number blocked. Anyone who plays the hot and cold game where dating is concerned is not emotionally available. Avoid those types of men like the plague. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenGirl2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Share Posted June 11, 2015 Is this the loser you posted about back in March who has to use other people's cars to get around and doesn't even have his own place to live and doesn't have any type of custody at all to see his kids? The one you say lies so much? If it is the same charmer, you don't have to worry about him showing up at your house angry that you blocked him if none of his buddies will loan him their car for a couple of hours. Ugh. As someone else said, you should have blocked this loser 50 weeks ago. Yes. I'll admit it is him, but after almost 2 months of us not talking I ran into him at a party and while I was in a weak moment. I guess he managed to sweet talk his way back in. Promising things would change, he told me that he was much more stable and that he would start doing things with me more, but I wasnt patient enough. I belived him & gave it another shot. I know I was stupid for doing that now Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenGirl2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Share Posted June 11, 2015 All I had to read was the first sentence of this post to know that he's not emotionally available to you because his attention is on someone else. So, you need to keep his cellphone number blocked. Anyone who plays the hot and cold game where dating is concerned is not emotionally available. Avoid those types of men like the plague. I'm nor saying he's not seeing someone else I just find it hard to believe because he's always on the move and he goes back between the city we live in & the city he's from. However once I seen he had 2 numbers I did get a little suspicious, but my btother told me " oh thats normal, for ppl to have 2 phones". Link to post Share on other sites
Author GoldenGirl2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Share Posted June 11, 2015 why block him? you are just friends and maybe you misunderstood him? he owes you nothing. i don't understand what he has done wrong He ignored me. There was nothing to misunderstand. Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 Nope, you did the right thing.... SCREW HIM and find someone who WANTS to make time for you. Exactly that and leave him on block. Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 You did the right thing. His apparent lack on consistency without explanation says he's really not that pressed if he hears from you unless he wants to be bothered with you. I had a guy who I liked in high school show up out of the blue in my facebook "other" message box at the end of last year. Last I saw him, he did the exact same thing to me--on again, off again, disappear for weeks on end then reappear, blah blah blah. When he contacted me, he really wanted to explore getting together, but you know what? Right after saying all that, he started pulling the disappearing act again. So I put him on block. Might have been a cute look back in our 20's, but not in our 50's. OP, this guy is a waste of your time. I'd have done the same. Link to post Share on other sites
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