lollipopspot Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Learned this from "Dear Abby" - 'Why do you want to know?', then discuss their 'whys'. It's a great way to change the subject and shine the light on the person seeking out the information. Well, it wouldn't be so much someone digging for info, but about telling them what you did during the day, that clearly involves some money (like if you were managing your properties or something).
JuneJulySeptember Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 I have seen instances of this, but only with children. SAHD who makes nothing and his wife makes loot. I can't recall any guy who just had no job, and lived off his wife while never looking for a job or putting in steps to obtain a job. OTOH, I do know 3 or more women in this situation. They live off their husbands, have no kids, and haven't looked for a job in many years. I think it's OK for a gal to do that. For a guy, it's way below socially acceptable.
Hopeful30 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Oh definitely. I can count 3 off the top of my head.
jay1983 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Yeah, they usually have criminal records, don't like to work and date unattractive women they can take advantage of.
jay1983 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I have seen instances of this, but only with children. SAHD who makes nothing and his wife makes loot. I can't recall any guy who just had no job, and lived off his wife while never looking for a job or putting in steps to obtain a job. OTOH, I do know 3 or more women in this situation. They live off their husbands, have no kids, and haven't looked for a job in many years. I think it's OK for a gal to do that. For a guy, it's way below socially acceptable. I know a couple of them. They have very heavy set women.
rosazara Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 There are def male gold diggers. I have a friend who isn't even rich or anything, but she makes good money. She met that guy a year ago, he lost his job over a year ago and is pretending ever since that he's really looking for a new job, while actually he's just at home playing Xbox all day and going out with friends. She loves him so much that she literally pays everything- Their rent plus utilities (they live together), his food and every other expenses (even if he just wants new headphones). She even gave him an own credit card. He's not even treating her well, he's not a toy boy and not even attractive. I have no idea why she does all that for that guy, while he doesn't even try to find a job.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I think people are confusing "Opportunist" with "Gold digger"... People whom are gold digging, are intentionally seeking someone out for their assets or own personal gain for monetary reasons, or luxury, gifts, a well established lifestyle they could not provide for themselves. This is not the same as your average guy with limited options, ending up with a woman, even unattractive or overweight woman whom provides some level of comfort and therefore makes his life a bit easier or even much easier. Women and men have different motivations, why they are always slapped or made out to be "equals" is beyond me...the things that motivate women do not in general motivate men. A guy with a criminal record, or no job, doesn't have a lot of opportunities in the dating world...therefore any woman he is with could very likely not have a criminal record and has a job, that does not make the guy a "gold-digger"...she is a life-saver for a sinking ship. A guy who is with a woman, because she provides him with doggy treats to keep him around and involved in the relationship is being an opportunist, but chances are he didn't create his own luck...he's not like a woman who's going to want to stick around and make babies with a woman he isn't attracted to just because she has a big house and a few bucks, this guy has got to be quite desperate and dependent on her situation to do that. A guy with options is going to go for a better looking woman instead, the money isn't going to make up for the lack of attraction. But I doubt he intentionally sought this situation out, he could be a user but he's not going to stick around. That's a life many more women are comfortable with than men are...being with a man for the sake of security, comfort and because he is well established and reliable. The guy is sticking around merely out of the perks in the situation and personal benefit, if you give a guy a reason to hang out he will, but that doesn't mean it was his intention for pursuing this woman as if he screened her or sought her out. He may have recognized an opportunity to manipulate a woman, but chances are the guy would manipulate any woman, not just her. You don't see Oprah Winfrey with a million handsome men at her feet because she's rich, but I'd bet your @ss Scarlet Johanson or Jennifer Lopez (whom I think is ugly btw) would have men regardless of their status...a woman like Oprah has access to nearly the same pool of men she'd have access to before, except of course wealthier and in a different line of work, with them being just a bit better looking and a man seeing an opportunity to be married to one of the most wealthiest women around. But that's not a lure for the majority of men. It's not like with women, where they see a guy with status, money, and looks and their eyes lite up like diamonds...they see the "perfect man", and a lot of potential...potential to make their little dreams come true..and if he's easier on the looks as well as other things, then as you can easily see her pursuing that relationship based on what she exclusively wants in her life. In the real world with any ugly male celebrity out there, he will still have options because of the way women are, much more options than if he were a woman, these are one of the few exceptions where men are capable of outdoing women in the dating/casual sex world...and any successful guy who's got at least half of something going for him personality wise, will tell you that women gravitate towards men with money and status, it's practically a no-brainer...but a woman could be wealthy or make a good living and it wouldn't necessarily affect her dating life much, she could sleep with a younger hotter guy because of what men are willing to do, she doesn't need money to accomplish that as a woman but it's not necessarily going to land her a relationship or marriage. Men may be exploiting women for money, but you're a fool if you think they wouldn't be doing it anyway. They are opportunist, not gold-diggers...she could offer just a meal, a vagina, or a chance to bum it in life easier...it's not about what she has or how much and can have nothing to do with money, but what he can use. A man who is capable therefore, is generally going to go for looks/youth rather than assets. A woman who is capable is still looking for a man who is her equal or above, generally. I've been out here in Europe for a while now...I've noticed something interesting and it was even in the news or some report somewhere (if i can find it I'll link it) that western women who date abroad tend to go after men in the western world, whereas western men tend to date and be with women from poorer countries...it's not surprise there if you ask me. They date/have relationships/marry partners from completely opposite socioeconomic countries...it's basically flipped upside down when you compare the countries that men and women date whom live in the west, hmm wonder why that is!
smackie9 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Guys are not called gold diggers, they are called freeloaders. They con the money out of women by giving hard luck stories about being broke, or being robbed or some other kind of misfortune. Pulling on the woman's heartstrings. Women just con men (play on their penis) with their looks and sex....and they are stupid enough to shower them with gifts and money.
Gaeta Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I've been wondering about it. I never felt a man wanted to take advantage of me money wise but a few times I did feel taken advantage knowledge wise. A few men I dated were younger men wanting to make it big and I felt they were always probing my mind for free information like in what stock invest their money, how to obtain government grant, business bank loan etc. Another one wanted to probe my mind on the pharma company I manage. I may be naive in love but when it come to business he found another type of woman and hit a wall.
jaks Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Yes it certainly exists my ex has just gone back to his ex girlfriend he is just a gigalo He has gone back to his ex she paid for everything she is a millionairess he called her and her family for everything, i have nothing but i do have my pride & diginity reminded me of the man in coronation street audrey roberts tagged onto They are out there becareful.
Vercetti Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Well yeah all kinds of people. Know few women that had life savings burned through in just a few years from reckless uncouth men. Find those type of men useless...cause once get away from mooching money there is the sad fact did nothing productive with it. I like making money work so completely pathetic when someone is so worthless they can't get a return when all they have is time to calculate.
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