veganpilot Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Months ago, I met this guy on Facebook through a mutual friend. Since we shared the same passion for our career, we hit it off really well. After a month of friendship, what seemed like a playful banter and mutual admiration evolved into something sexual. He initiated it first, saying he did... stuff to my photos for the past few weeks. I was flattered and turned on so we decided to have cybersex. We are both virgins. Wasn't entirely porn as there wad a lot of passionate kissing, emotiond and touching from what he wrote. Unfortunately, after the cybersex, we did regret it. We both felt awkward and he wanted to start over and see where this goes. I deleted my account a few days after that. I just made a new Facebook account today and decided to get over it and see if we can still salvage what we have. I added him on Facebook after months of disappearing without a trace and he messaged me "Hi..." but he did not accept my request yet. What does it mean? Is it all OVER? I mean, I still want to have sex with him. How Can I reel him back? I don't care if it's a one night stand.
Popsicle Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Maybe he's not into e-relationships. I know I'm not.
La.Primavera Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 It sounds like he is waiting for you to explain what happened before he accepts your friend request. Message him back and go from there.
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 It sounds like you bscly flat out rejected him before the account delete thing, is that right? Can't say I'm surprised at his reaction when you come back around. He's being polite but intends to keep you at arm's length. If all you want is sex, just message him that.
Author veganpilot Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 I did not reject him. I talked to him about a few normal things about our job until it got awkward. He did not read my message after a day so I deleted my account. However, due to the ambiguous nature of Facebook, he may havery thought I blocked him after reading my message later.
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 How long was it between the deletion and the new account?
Author veganpilot Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 How long was it between the deletion and the new account? It has been 4 months but we have known each other for 7 months on FB in total.
Gary S Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Waitaminite..... you had cybersex and then things got weird? It sounds weird from the start!
fred123 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 you are a virgin and just want a one night stand? i thought you girls want the opposite- a guy who doesn't just want sex fro you but you are happy with it? tell me I'm missing something
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 It has been 4 months but we have known each other for 7 months on FB in total. Well if you became friends, then deleted your account and didn't talk to him for 4 months, you pretty much rejected him. What did you expect he'd do after that, be all happy and care-free?
Author veganpilot Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 It was awkward after that day and he said he wanted to forget it ever happened and start over. We talked for a bit until he didn't look at my message for one day even when he was online. That's when I deleted my account and took a break from him. And he is also a virgin, so I don't mind losing it to a virgin. I just know if I don't lose it now, nobody will be a virgin anymore by the time I am in my twenties or older.
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 I'm confused ....you just want to have sex with him to lose your virginity?
Author veganpilot Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 I'm confused ....you just want to have sex with him to lose your virginity? You are right, Jen. He is keeping me at arm's length. I told him this:I was rude to leave without a trace, and shut down after that. But after that night when things were hot and heavy, things got awkward after that and I decided to take a break from this. But the reason I came back is because I still like you. Before that happened, I found you very interesting, cute and relatable. We both are very ambitious about aviation, and passionate about. You are also very intelligent. I still find you interesting, intelligent, etc. I was wondering if we can move on from that, if you are still interested. And he replied:Its ok. I think it would be best if we just keep it an intellectual relationship. Nothing more So if you have any questions about flying feel free to ask. But nothing more please
jen1447 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Well that's crystal clear - he's opted out. Nothing you can do but honor that. I don't mean to be hard on you but this was pretty much all your doing. You had him there, then got weirded out for whatever reason and pushed him away, and now here you are. Time to just put on your big girl panties and own this. 2
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