tiberius g Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Hi. New here. Thanks for any advice I Met a girl while ballroom dancing. In some ways she seemed interested in me though I didn't do anything. She gave me a few hints including saying she liked my shirt, suggesting we meet another time to dance, telling me she was having fun as well as always smiling, though some of these she May have done with other guys since I only spent some minutes with her. I asked her number. The next day she messaged me first asking if I would like to dance with her again. I told her about an event. I have 2 questions. 1 since all we are doing is meeting to dance, where we will mix with lots or other people, the friends/ romance line hasn't been crossed. Do I ask her out for a separate date or treat this as one? 2. She is here on Erasmus and will leave in 3 weeks. how does the dynamic differ when there is a timelimit. Dates are for potential gfs no?, and she can't be one since she'll leave soon. Should I still go through the whole date process, or be more direct?
joseb Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Hi. New here. Thanks for any advice I Met a girl while ballroom dancing. In some ways she seemed interested in me though I didn't do anything. She gave me a few hints including saying she liked my shirt, suggesting we meet another time to dance, telling me she was having fun as well as always smiling, though some of these she May have done with other guys since I only spent some minutes with her. I asked her number. The next day she messaged me first asking if I would like to dance with her again. I told her about an event. I have 2 questions. 1 since all we are doing is meeting to dance, where we will mix with lots or other people, the friends/ romance line hasn't been crossed. Do I ask her out for a separate date or treat this as one? 2. She is here on Erasmus and will leave in 3 weeks. how does the dynamic differ when there is a timelimit. Dates are for potential gfs no?, and she can't be one since she'll leave soon. Should I still go through the whole date process, or be more direct? 1. it's up to you - you could at least be flirty and let her know you areinterested. If you feel it's going well, I'd ask her out to a separate event during the evening. 2. OK, yeah the dynamic is a bit different then - are you ok with a casual fling? Cause likely that's what it would amount to. If so, then yeah you probably need to be a little more direct than if looking for a LTR.
GoBlue Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 What do you want to do? There is nothing wrong with going dancing with someone you are interested in even if you know that she will be leaving soon. It wouldn't be wise to expect that a relationship will develop. Not all male/female interaction need be filled with the pressure of "is this a date or isn't it?" You both like dancing, you both seem to enjoy one another's presence, what's wrong with going out and having a fun evening and leaving it at that? Do you have something better to do? Maybe she just likes your moves!
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