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Basically, started hanging out with the ex again recently. Things are pretty decent. She has a great job right now but wants more. Recently, she's been approached by tons of pyramid schemers/MLMers to seize an "opportunity", and I think its a load of horse****. (Correction: its a f*cking scam). I have been letting her know my skepticism of the "opportunity" in a detached manner, but not overbearingly, cos I don't want to overstep my boundaries. She is very enticed by the allure of "becoming a millionaire in a handful of years with a side career" said she wants to "make this decision herself", but it is very hard for me to bite my tongue, since I do care for her and don't want her to get hurt, and these schemes make me livid.

 

But again, shes my ex. What the right way to approach here?

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Ordinarily I would let her decide on her own and not interfere, but I feel there are real consequences to taking a gig like this, including "startup costs" (aka losses in this scenario) and the fact that it may preclude her from getting other (also better) jobs. So again, how do I proceed?

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You have already done your part. You have told her about your concerns right and she didnt listen? At the end of the day it is her decision. I dont think there is anything you can do. Maybe prepare some money to loan her once shes broke?

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You have already done your part. You have told her about your concerns right and she didnt listen? At the end of the day it is her decision. I dont think there is anything you can do. Maybe prepare some money to loan her once shes broke?

 

OP please, oh please don't give her money. This is her own stupidity, and she needs to learn from the consequences.

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OP please, oh please don't give her money. This is her own stupidity, and she needs to learn from the consequences.

 

I was being sarcastic...

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You have already done your part. You have told her about your concerns right and she didnt listen? At the end of the day it is her decision. I dont think there is anything you can do. Maybe prepare some money to loan her once shes broke?

True, but the point is I feel I was very softspoken on the matter. I didn't let her know all my thoughts, only the fact that I advised her to proceed w caution because in my experience it was all bull****. But I didn't really go into the "why" behind it for fear of overstepping my boundaries.

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She probably won't go looking for the negatives but obviously there's plenty of material on the interwebs about how people's lives have been decimated by pyramid schemes (unless they've got a whole slew of willing enablers who will also buy in to whatever scheme it is they get involved in).

 

Salty Droid website is particularly good reading once you pick through the posts about some of the well known scams doing the rounds, and as always some of the comments from folk who have been scammed out of their life savings are very sobering.

 

But if she makes her own mind up to go for it then there's not a lot you can do about it.

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