ThisisIt606 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I've been on 3 dates with a guy I met on Tinder. All have been good and ended in a kiss. We also kiss each other hello (minus the first date). He's paid of all dates even though I offered for dates 2 and 3 and he refused to let me pay. He's very respectful and hasn't tried anything beyond kissing. All of ourdates have been out of the home. He is usually the one to text me first and we literally text for hours. He also has read receipts. Most of the time as soon as I send, it says "read" so it seems he just has my chat open and then he responds right away. He texted last night which shocked me because I knew he has at a concert with friends. I told him I started to watch a new popular TV show (he watches/loves it) he said he was really excited I was watching and would be willing to binge watch (i'm assuming with me since he's already seen the season i'm on). I agreed it's great to binge watch and I would want to too. We talked for a bit about the show and then I ended the text saying I had to shower so I could finish watching and for him to enjoy the concert! (it was also getting kind of late) He said "yes, absolutely enjoy your fix:) " I replied "Thanks :)" and then some emjois themed with the TV show He replied "haha" and also used some emojis related to the TV show Today at work he texts me: HIM: I don't think there is enough coffee in the world to get me through this afternoon ME: haha maybe you need to try a couple expresso shots. How was the concert? It shows that he read my text at the exact time I sent it, but he didn't respond. It's been hours now which is extremely odd as the longest he has taken in the past has been 5 minutes. (however he usually doesn't text me at work, but when we HAVE texted during work hours, it's always been rapid responses from him) Since he obviously saw my text... I'm wondering why he didn't reply? He also texted me first this afternoon. So it wasn't like I was bothering him. What should I do now? Should I just wait for him to respond? We have plans to go to the movie on friday and I told him I'd get the tickets through work. Or should I just text him tomorrow saying I got the tickets and ask what movie time he wants to go to?
SomeDude16 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Probably just saw it, got distracted or busy, and forgot about it. He was at work, and his text seems to imply he is really busy. I would not worry about it, text him when you feel like doing so. Do it in the same manner you would normally text him. 3
losangelena Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Try and not read too much into this. Texting in and of itself is ... a rather one-dimensional form of communication. Remember, you've been out three times. You're not exactly well acquainted. Try not to get too invested too soon. 2
minime13 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Wait for him to respond. He initiated, at work (when he usually doesn't respond). Why would he initiate and then blow you off? 3 dates isn't long enough to know each others habits. Just calm down and let him get back to you. 3
fitnessfan365 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I am just glad that you came on here to vent, and you didn't send some lame clingy text asking if something was wrong. I usually try to respond to texts as quickly as I can. Especially if it's from a woman I am dating. But there are times when I am busy working or get caught up and won't be able to text back for hours. Sometimes life happens. Now based on how high his interest has been thus far, it wouldn't make much sense for him to ghost on you out of nowhere. So just relax, focus on other things, and let him get back to you. It will be fine. 1
empresario Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I see this thread all the time. Ignore all responses that have to do with passiveness. Ignore it all. Whether that passiveness is aggressive or just ignoring him to prove a point. The truth is in life, whether business or love, you have to take action if you'd like that action to result favorably. I doubt he's ignoring you from some personal vendetta...but if you'd like to know just ask. "Hey, you didn't answer! how was the concert? :)" Simple as that. There's your answer (if he ignores or not). I am a direct guy. Always have, always will. People never misinterpret because if we're honest with ourselves we all like confidence (as long as it doesn't cross into 'rudeness').
minime13 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I doubt he's ignoring you from some personal vendetta...but if you'd like to know just ask. "Hey, you didn't answer! how was the concert? :)" Don't. Do. That. Give him time to respond. What this is suggesting is tantamount to "hey, why aren't you answering?" And it becomes borderline accusatory, whether meant or not. 1
SunnySide0418 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Maybe he was turned off by you saying "expresso" .. It's espresso!! That would do it for me. Just being honest. 1
lana-banana Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Maybe he's like me and knows he can't be in a relationship with someone who says "expresso". Seriously, though, chill out. For all you know he just got a massive assignment and will be working late, or he has something else to do, or he just forgot. One text sans response is nothing. Go watch your TV show and get your mind off of him. 3
jen1447 Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 I texted my GF 2 hours ago and haven't heard back yet. Not panicking. Everything will be ok. 1
Fleur de cactus Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 No worries, jut wait if he does not respond, it just happens once, you can then text him later, dont ask why he did not respond. Just start a new conversation and see how it goes. 1
Author ThisisIt606 Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 Thanks everyone, he did end up responding early this evening. He answered how he liked the concert and went on to asked me about how I was liking the TV series. We talked/joked about the TV show for a bit and then a little about movie plans. I told him i picked up the tickets and he said "perfect thanks again". I wanted to go to a certain theater but he seemed a little iffy bc it was further than the one he was thinking of but "might be worth it for the comfortable seats". I told him the movie times will help us decide too once they come out and I was also flexible about which theater we go to. I told him I had to get to a class and he teased me a bit about something I said earlier (all in good nature) So yes, glad I came here to vent too Fitnessfan365! Oh and as far as the "expresso" comment, I just spelled it incorrectly here but spelled it correctly in the text to him. Thanks for the catch anyways.
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