JOkER2 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I've been single for a little while. Last relationship was in February. And that only lasted about w month. But there r people at my work that keep asking me "don't u want a girlfriend" "y aren't u dating anyone" they could just b making conversations but it seems like some people always believe u should be dating. I over analyze everything because of my anxiety but idk just seems like some people think im a loser cuz I'm not dating anyone.
d0nnivain Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 When I was single in my mid through late 30s people would ask me why I wasn't dating. It annoyed me but I understood their Qs were borne of concern. They wanted me to be happy. I would usually reply that I wasn't dating because I had not yet me anybody who captured my interests. If I trusted them I would ask if they knew any cute single men who I would like. If they got annoying about it I'd ask if they were auditioning to be cruise director on Noah's Ark because I couldn't think of any other reason they would feel compelled to continuously inquire about my lack of coupledom. Most had the good sense not to ask again after that.
Author JOkER2 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 U don't think they think I'm a loser do u
SomeDude16 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Do what you want and what makes you happy. Don't worry about what they think, people come and go but in the end you're the one that has to live with your decisions. The decision to date effects you, therefore it is yours to make.
joseb Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 There seems to be a bit of an obsession that being single is something that needs to be "fixed". If you are happy being single then great. Don't worry about what they think 1
Author JOkER2 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Is that not normal to go a couple months w/o date?
SomeDude16 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Is that not normal to go a couple months w/o date? yep, completely.
NC-Thomas Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 There seems to be a bit of an obsession that being single is something that needs to be "fixed". If you are happy being single then great. Don't worry about what they think YES, this! Is was going to post this. Somehow society has been idealizing this whole image of dating, having flings and so on. Don't get sucked into it, it a just like buying that new iPhone 6... Live your life, get self-sufficient and work out. The right woman will show up in time. First create that healthy form of inner happiness, it attracts women! Never consider yourself a loser. 1
Author JOkER2 Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 Thanks nc thomas! That helps a lot! U made me feel a lot better, I appreciate it
KSCHV Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Is that not normal to go a couple months w/o date? I'm 27 and have been single for a couple years, no dates. It's what I've chose and has worked for me and my situation. I was in a long relationship that lasted half through high school and after for years. Played a lot of games with that and after that deal was over. I needed a damn vacation!
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 U don't think they think I'm a loser do u Just the opposite. I think they think you are a good person & they are surprised that you are single. People forget how hard it can be to date as an adult. Their Qs are born of kindness, not ridicule.
joseb Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 U don't think they think I'm a loser do u Do you feel like a loser because you have been 2 months not dating? 2 months is nothing. If you want to date, date. If you want to take a break, do that. If you want to stay single forever, that is a valid choice. Don't worry about what people think. If they are really annoying about it, maybe you should ask them if they are really happy in their marriages, cause you have heard married people have less sex, and you know a good divorce attorney.
Renton Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 There seems to be a bit of an obsession that being single is something that needs to be "fixed". If you are happy being single then great. Don't worry about what they think Had this for years and years, friends obsessed in trying to set me up all the time while they were getting married. Family members asking or telling me to settle down. All i hear is blah, blah, blah when its brought up these days. But i rarely hear it from them anymore, they seem to have gotten the message.
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