Is it right for parents to tell you to be independent, but tells you who you can date

[Bobbi7]

My parents tell me I need to learn how to live my own life, I'm independent. I have a job. However when it comes to dating, they like to butt in and tell me who I should date and not date! I'm not going to date some crack dealer. Geez. This makes me mad. They tell kids they need to pay their own bills, but when it comes to dating, it's ok for them to have a say???

[Torii]

My parents tell me I need to learn how to live my own life, I'm independent. I have a job. However when it comes to dating, they like to butt in and tell me who I should date and not date! I'm not going to date some crack dealer. Geez. This makes me mad. They tell kids they need to pay their own bills, but when it comes to dating, it's ok for them to have a say???

 

 

Honestly, all depends on your age. Parents are going to judge every person you date - they only want what is best for you, and best - to them - is staying out of trouble.

 

Some parents are just judgmental ; they aren't going to understand and know your partner like you will. Keep that in mind, and don't let them control you.

 

Be independent AND responsible. Date good people, people that are worthy of your respect and aren't into any drugs. Be with somebody that knows what they want in life, and more importantly - know what you want in life and go after your attractions.

[kdgsupermom]

Hi Bobbi7, I understand your frustration. When I was younger I felt the same way but as I got older I started to appreciate my parent's advice. I realized I thought I was making the right decisions in partners but then I would always end up hurt. My parents could see things that I couldn't see. So I started to see their butting in as love and wisdom. I didn't do everything they told me but I appreciated the concern and love. There are a lot people out there with parents who could care less what their children are doing. Would you really want them to butt completely out your life?

 

Hang in there,

kdgsupermom

[mystikmind2005]

I'm 43 years old, divorced, have a daughter..... parents moved in last week, and before my mom has even finished unpacking her stuff, she has started making comments on who i should date.

 

I do not have a huge amount of time left to enjoy dating, so i cannot at all afford to indulge her interference.