Dem Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Ok I know this sounds stupid and immature but i really really need some help trying to figure out if this guy i know likes me. He's in one of my classes at university but we only really stated talking about a month and a half ago when we met in a club and recognised each other from class. So now he sits beside me every day and we sometimes go to lunch/dinner together before/after classes, hang out almost every week day. I've been single for almost exactly one year now and i guess i've just been out of the dating circuit for a while, but then again so has he, for almost the exact same amount of time. Anyway, i just dont know if he likes me in that special way or not. When we hang out he's always tickling me or hugging me or leaning on me or finding someway to touch me (lol obviously in a completely non-sleazy way). We get on really well, same random taste in music, obviously do the same class, and whenever i am with him its a constant laugh and we are always smiling. I really quite like him but im not sure if he likes me enough in that way to take it to the b/f g/f stage. The biggest thing is that we've made our first official "outside uni outing with just the two of us" for a DJ gig thing at uni on sunday night. it was made in a totally friendly way coz both of us just really fancied going. But i assumed (as he seems to kno every1 at uni) he would kno some1 else going but he said its just the two of us and i dont kno if he wanted it that way or if it just happened that way. Anyway i think its now at the point that if we are every going to happen, itl happen on sunday night. it kinda feels like the make or break day and im just so nervous coz im really not in a good enough place to be messed abt AGAIN by a guy who doesnt really want a relationship. I know its hard to tell from jsut a one-sided veiw but i really need advice on this one b4 sunday! HELP! PLEASE! Any criticism is welcome! Demz xxx
Author Dem Posted April 27, 2005 Author Posted April 27, 2005 p.s. don't want to make an ass out of myself on sunday in case he's not feeling the same way but then again dont want to miss my chance just cause he mayb gets too shy! ARGH! so confused!
Merin Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 I think from what you've said it's obvious this Guy has an interest in you IMO if he didn't feel comfortable in taking just YOU to this event and wanted to make sure you knew this was a "Friend" thing only then he probably would have checked around to see whom else might want to come along... He ALREADY likes you for the person you are... so my advice is don't change a thing. Go out on Sunday with him and have a great time... let him do the persuing here... Good Luck
CurlyIam Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Wear something nice - read NOT EXTREMELY SEXY. Chances are if it's just the 2 of you, it's a date !!!. I actually read "Guy Required by Sunday Please" as the tittle of your thread. I was about to reply "Guy Required by Yesterday, Please", :bunny: .
TUDOR Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 First of all relax and have fun. Chances are he is just as nervous as you are. You can make a casual inquiry as to his intentions with out him even knowing it. In very friendly and almost giving him hard time kind of way but kind of flirty....just ask him, "so is this date or are we both going to be on the prowl Sunday". The idea is for him to not feel like you just put him on the spot but rather made a playful comment that may just get you the answer you are looking for. If you are too nervous to do that just wait and see what happens Sunday and see if you can pick up on any more than a friend vibes. But what ever you do, just keep being yourself and have fun!! Don't rush it and let it take its natural course if you are really interested.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 im just so nervous coz im really not in a good enough place to be messed abt AGAIN by a guy who doesnt really want a relationship. Go out, and enjoy it for the date that it is and try not to focus so hard on 'making it a relationship'. Take time to get to know the guy on a series of dates before fixating on the 'relationship'. That anxiety you have over it may be one thing that actually prevents it from happening. You know he likes you enough to go out, so go out and have fun.
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