moonlightshadow78 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 My ex gf left me for other man,she met him when we were together,played us both for some time and then finally engaged to him after dating him for 2 months only.It crushed me ... yet she is keeping tabs on me she was stalking my page at least few times per week for almost year and I suspect she still does.It was she who blocked me and removed me from all social apps I was foolish enough I wanted be friends but argued and she said she doesnt want me as friend.Despite what happened I still have some feelings and I let her view my page,should i tighten privacy settings and cut her off totally ? I will add she also have loose privacy settings on her page ,she left so I can check her out and yes I do check her out.Why she is doing this ? If she removed me from her life and moved on why she allows me to look through pinhole ? She unblocked me recently, but I maintained NC. I really miss her,so i torture myself and look at her page,Im afraid if i shut the door so she will and I never see her again. Please give me some harsh truth or reality check.
Yummm Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Let go, you are only hurting yourself by checking up on her and vice versa. I was 3 weeks NC and healing pretty well, I caved in and checked her on Facebook and got hurt, it set me back. Finally deleted & blocked her on FB and removed her from my phone, hurts like $hit but it will eventually aid my healing. 2
ZiggyZoo Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 The harsh truth is that she doesn't want to be together, doesn't even want to be friends, and nothing you post on facebook or whatever is going to change her mind. You're only hurting yourself by still peeking into her life, what do you think you're going to find? Her sitting there, missing you? You're only going to see her and this new guy having a great time and it's going to make you feel like crap even more. Block her, she's already gone. It won't make any bit of difference to her, I'm afraid. She's only looking at your page to satisfy a bit of idle curiosity. If she really wanted to be with you, she would be. So there's the harsh truth. I am truly sorry though, that you're going through this. For her to string you along like that wasn't right. But the fact that this happened a year ago, and you're still hurting like this means that something's got to change. It's normal to have a time or two where you miss the other person, but even looking at the facebook page can set you back. Block her, and if she really wanted to find you, she would. It'll be hard, but this is really the only way to move on. Hang in there, I know that I was where you are a time or two, and I healed my broken heart and moved on. You can too, you just need to give it time. 1
Mondmellonw Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 My ex gf left me for other man,she met him when we were together,played us both for some time and then finally engaged to him after dating him for 2 months only.It crushed me ... yet she is keeping tabs on me she was stalking my page at least few times per week for almost year and I suspect she still does.It was she who blocked me and removed me from all social apps I was foolish enough I wanted be friends but argued and she said she doesnt want me as friend.Despite what happened I still have some feelings and I let her view my page,should i tighten privacy settings and cut her off totally ? I will add she also have loose privacy settings on her page ,she left so I can check her out and yes I do check her out.Why she is doing this ? If she removed me from her life and moved on why she allows me to look through pinhole ? She unblocked me recently, but I maintained NC. I really miss her,so i torture myself and look at her page,Im afraid if i shut the door so she will and I never see her again. Please give me some harsh truth or reality check. How is that you know that she's the one stalking you? I think that knowing this and still putting so much energy in knowing that she might be stalking you is a serious waste of time for you and it won't let you move on. I would say: block her, that way she won't be able to block you - unblock you everyt ime she feels the need to see what's going on in your life. She's engaged, remember? She shouldn't care. YOU shouldn't care. Good luck! 1
DexterLS Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Dude, She is engaged to someone else. Your relationship is over. Stop torturing yourself. Delete her, block her. Do whatever you have to but do not stalk her anymore. Initiate NC now and NC includes no stalking as well. Good luck. 1
dumbass2 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 "Why she is doing this ?" You're doing it to yourself. You have total control. As long as you can still see her, she can still be a part of your life. You must block her from everything at this point. If I thought there was any hope I would say so. She is engaged, therefor you must disengage immediately and move on with your life. 1
minime13 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I don't know about you, but I can't tell who looks at my social media pages. There may be a couple of social media pages that tell you who is looking at your page, but none of the larger ones do. So, I'm not sure where you are getting this info from. Is it wishful thinking? Hoping that, since you have left your settings so open, she is glancing at them from time to time? Unless you are actively seeking out information from people who know her, there's no way for you to know this as a fact. I think that you're putting this in your mind so that you can maintain some kind of control over this former relationship with this person. The reality is that you have no control over her and her actions. You are not letting her do anything. That relationship is over. If it makes you feel better (and it seems like it may), block her from your social media pages. Remove any doubt you have or lingering thought. If you don't, you're going to keep sitting here spinning your wheels over something that you have no control over and may not even be happening. It's time to move on. She has, so you should, too. 1
kendahke Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Block her. Move on. She is engaged to marry another man. She's not coming back and even if she does, do you honestly want to go in behind the dude she got with? Really? That's messy and sloppy. Have some pride. She's shown you that she doesn't want a life with you or anything you have to offer, so quit putting it all on a platter for her to upend when it amuses her. It'll be you once again cleaning up the mess. 1
Poppyolive Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 How are you able to tell she's watching your page?
Author moonlightshadow78 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 I have special app so I know she was stalking me almost every day , I was stalking her too. Im mentally wasted after a year of this perverse watching and start to have some serious anxiety/mental problems from this addiction ... seeing pictures of her guy,reading how amazing happy is she now,I set the the privacy settings and I blocked her,feels like dropping huge stone from chest.If she is so happy as she claims she doesnt need me in any way.
minime13 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I have special app so I know she was stalking me almost every day , I was stalking her too. Im mentally wasted after a year of this perverse watching and start to have some serious anxiety/mental problems from this addiction ... seeing pictures of her guy,reading how amazing happy is she now,I set the the privacy settings and I blocked her,feels like dropping huge stone from chest.If she is so happy as she claims she doesnt need me in any way. There is no app that does this. Sorry. Those apps that claim this usually just throw back a list of users that you visit the most, as some sort of self-gratification. Lose that app, and move on. You're feeding yourself false hope, in the form of so-called technology that doesn't actually exist.
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