GorillaTheater Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Well I ended it today. Barely got anything from her last night and this morning, so just had enough. I don't think anyone should feel guilty for wanting to spend time with a significant other. Good move. Over time you'll meet some great women, and you'll be wondering why the hell you hung on so long to this one. 1
strawberryshortstack Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 or just be single and get a little more self respect This. I think my best course of action is to cut ties and find another girl and then this.
Lansing Posted June 16, 2015 Posted June 16, 2015 Good job. Hard to end things sometimes even if a trainwreck but definitely for the better.
Author rheinzman1985 Posted June 17, 2015 Author Posted June 17, 2015 Thanks guys for the feedback . It is hard and will be for a while but in the end it's for a reason. Just more experience for me to make me even better
Radu Posted June 17, 2015 Posted June 17, 2015 Since you ended it, the original purpose is gone, but i'd still like to ask you a few questions : - how old are you - how old was she - backgrounds ... college educated ? - were your parents together or divorces ?; raised by who ? What you went through is not normal. There were many red flags and i think i'm not the only one who got the impression [from your questions and how they worded] that you do not respect yourself as much as you should. Either you have no experience with relationships, or you are around a very bad crowd where her behaviour is acceptable, or you just plain think deep down that the one with the vagina makes the rules and you have no choice. The problem with respecting yourself is that if you do not respect yourself, than others won't do it either. I don't mean that you should be constantly on an ego trip, but you should have clear boundaries and enforcement of boundaries. When someone steps over a line, it should be clear you will act [in all relationships this is very important to understand in the initial negotiation stage of the relationship]. She wanted you gone, but she did not have the 'balls' to end it herself ... so she went and got you to do it. You did not end this relationship really ... she did. She might be back in the future, she might try to keep you as a backup ... bedwarmer for those lonely nights after she got dumped.
Author rheinzman1985 Posted June 18, 2015 Author Posted June 18, 2015 I'm 30, she is 26. She already has a college education, I'm working two jobs. Thing is I met her online, and she was not what she put down there after a while. I tried to set boundaries and told her things, but I should of dumped her after exposing herself. Problem is when I find a girl I stick with them and try to make things work. But clearly she crossed the line a few times and I didn't respect myself enough and say no more. yes my parents went thru a divorce when I was a kid, and I've never had a father figure, that has made me grasp on to relationships harder, but I'm learning as time goes. If she is lucky at all, down the road she might be my friend, but I won't let her in my life. Clearly doesn't have respect for me or what we had, so although this might be a bummer for me and feeling like I'm losing something I thought could be great, I can look at it as a learning lesson to also improve myself 2
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