mrmayhem675 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 So about a month ago I decided that I was completely done with my ex and wouldn't give her a chance even if she came back begging and I blocked her on everything for the final time. Deep down past anger and bitterness I still do care but logically I'll never give her another chance. I do still think about her sometimes but that's to be expected. But ever since I made the decision to block her out of my life and pretend like she doesn't exist I've started being anxious and having problems with anxiety. Which isn't like me, I ised to have anxiety attacks years ago but I've been nothing but calm since then. Has anyone else been through sonething like that? Is it normal?
amaysngrace Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I had an anxiety attack for the first time ever the same year I lost my dad so yeah....could be....
DexterLS Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Maybe it's just the withdrawal symptoms or your mind finally accepting that it really is all over.. Are you seeing a therapist?
ZiggyZoo Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I think it's perfectly normal. It's probably just your brain realizing that it really IS over and panicking. I can remember getting really depressed when I realized I was coming to terms with my ex being gone, even though I knew it was for the best. Breaking up is hard, not having someone who was such a big part of your life there anymore hurts. But I think you'll be ok. Just part of the fun fun fun rollercoaster of recovery! Oh, and congratulations on a month of NC! Not an easy thing to do.
Author mrmayhem675 Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 Maybe it's just the withdrawal symptoms or your mind finally accepting that it really is all over.. Are you seeing a therapist? No I'm not, I don't think I need to see one. The heartbroken stage is long past. Only thing I feel is some disdain for her and regret over what we had and she threw away.
aloneinaz Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Here's the deal about anxiety. Breaking up is VERY stressful. It's a big LIFE CHANGE for people. When you're overly stressed, your stress bucket overfills and you get anxiety symptoms due to extra adrenaline. Life changes can fire up anxiety in people who've never had it before. Examples- * Getting married * Buying a new house * Losing your job * Getting divorced Those are just some of the examples of major, stressful life changes that can cause anxiety outbreaks. If I was you, I'd simply try to exercise a bit more, avoid too much caffeine or other stimulants and give your brain and stress levels a chance to return to normal. It's very common, for sure.
Lappin1 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 I have the answer for you. I'm currently seeing a therapist because my break up was terrible for me (didn't see it coming at all, I was actually shopping for the wedding ring). Therapist told me not to shut her out of my head and not not pretend she doesn't exist. This is the worst thing you can do. Your subconscious is still thinking about her even if you actively block her. When you do that, it comes back in anxiety or worse. What you have to do is to accept that sometimes you will think about her. When it happens, let it be, but don't concentrate on it. 1
Recommended Posts