Mjm1014 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 So how do I handle this? We got into a relationship about two months ago, but a week ago I go on her Facebook and noticed that she's hidden her relationship status, and hid the post that also goes to your wall if you get into a relationship. Anyways I asked her about it, she said she didnt know what happened, and put the status back up. Tonight I noticed it was down again and questioned her about it. She blew up on me and said I need to trust her, she's a loyal person, and that maybe she should just get rid of her facebook all together. I told her not to, she went into her settings and told me it was switched to where she could only view the status. I really could care less about Facebook but I feel like something's up with her...why keep hiding it? maybe I'm over reacting but I don't understand why you would keep hiding it unless you're up to something. Thoughts??
minime13 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Let it be. You talked to her about it, then she updated it, and it still didn't show up. Sometimes FB does malfunction. Sometimes a new phone setting or update can switch certain things to private. Sometimes privacy settings will revert things to where they are hidden. If it is just an honest mistake, then watching it and asking her to look into it every time is going to make her think you don't trust her. If you don't trust her, then maybe you should break it off. Otherwise, let this issue be and if something else comes up to make you feel that something isn't right, then you'll have justification.
aussietigerwolf Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I don't have my relationship status on Facebook and neither does my bf but.... The people that matter know we are in a relationship. So is yours being hidden in other ways or do you just require it to be Facebook official? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Normally I would say it's not a big deal, and I don't announce my own relationship status on Facebook either. But since she had posted it, then removed it, and then again the same things happened .... yes, it looks a bit suspicious. Keep an eye open.
Author Mjm1014 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Yeah normally I don't really care about Facebook statuses, but it's weird how it keeps going hidden. Even when we became official, no one liked the status besides my friends which prob means it was hidden on her wall. I'm at the point in my life, if she doesn't want a relationship and wants to play the field she just needs to tell me. It's odd that she's hiding it from everyone...I have my doubts her family and friends even thinks we are dating, they prob think we are just friends. Again, not a huge deal but we are either in a committed relationship or we aren't..... Feel stupid for making a big deal about a Facebook status but something seems really fishy. My friend that's friends with her confirmed half our pics and status are hidden...nothing indicating we are in any type of relationship
UltimaWeapon Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 thats a huge red flag man. do not settle for that crap. shes feeding you. Call her out on it right away- if she starts being defensive- shes clearly hiding something I mean its insanely obvious. Stuff like this is trivial at first but it is a big deal if shes hiding it so only she can see it. Basically shes keeping you on the side. shes being shady as F
organizedchaos Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Let it be. You talked to her about it, then she updated it, and it still didn't show up. Sometimes FB does malfunction. Sometimes a new phone setting or update can switch certain things to private. Sometimes privacy settings will revert things to where they are hidden. If it is just an honest mistake, then watching it and asking her to look into it every time is going to make her think you don't trust her. If you don't trust her, then maybe you should break it off. Otherwise, let this issue be and if something else comes up to make you feel that something isn't right, then you'll have justification. These settings don't just change themselves. That doesnt happen without the user making the change and fb doesn't reset privacy settings automatically. At least when it comes to a relationship status update in the past few days.
kendahke Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 These settings don't just change themselves. That doesnt happen without the user making the change and fb doesn't reset privacy settings automatically. At least when it comes to a relationship status update in the past few days. No, actually they will change and every now and then a post gets circulated on the fact that facebook implemented something that changed settings and that you have to go in and reset your privacy settings. I have made relationship posting on my page and have had it disappear some time later without me doing anything to it. Quite frankly, OP, who is it that you want to see that you and she are in a relationship so badly? In the grand scheme of things, announcing that you and she are in a relationship is of no matter---you can tag her in a post saying the same and it will show up on her wall, so I don't get why you're exercised over this.
Lois_Griffin Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 So how do I handle this? We got into a relationship about two months ago, but a week ago I go on her Facebook and noticed that she's hidden her relationship status, and hid the post that also goes to your wall if you get into a relationship. Anyways I asked her about it, she said she didnt know what happened, and put the status back up. Tonight I noticed it was down again and questioned her about it. She blew up on me and said I need to trust her, she's a loyal person, and that maybe she should just get rid of her facebook all together. I told her not to, she went into her settings and told me it was switched to where she could only view the status. I really could care less about Facebook but I feel like something's up with her...why keep hiding it? maybe I'm over reacting but I don't understand why you would keep hiding it unless you're up to something. Thoughts?? You must be young if you're actually putting stock in some LAME Facebook status. What did people DO before Facebook was invented? What was the 'standard' back then that validated one's relationship status? How did we all survive without a lame 'Facebook" verification of our relationships? And yet...somehow...we all did. Maybe it's a 'huge red flag' if you're a teenage kid. Sheesh. 1
elaine567 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 So how do I handle this? We got into a relationship about two months ago, but a week ago I go on her Facebook and noticed that she's hidden her relationship status, and hid the post that also goes to your wall if you get into a relationship. Anyways I asked her about it, she said she didnt know what happened, and put the status back up. Tonight I noticed it was down again and questioned her about it. She blew up on me and said I need to trust her, she's a loyal person, and that maybe she should just get rid of her facebook all together. I told her not to, she went into her settings and told me it was switched to where she could only view the status. I really could care less about Facebook but I feel like something's up with her...why keep hiding it? maybe I'm over reacting but I don't understand why you would keep hiding it unless you're up to something. Thoughts?? You have known her 8 weeks, she is not your property. It is up to her how she presents herself to the world on her own FB page. Forcing her into putting "in a relationship" on there, will not make her any more committed to you. By making a scene about it, I guess she now feels less committed. Sort yourself out, before you push her away.
blackcat777 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 It doesn't take a tech wizard to deduce she's keeping her status hidden. How old are the two of you? In the light of giving someone the benefit of the doubt, is it possible the status would generate some kind of familial conflict?
Gaeta Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Post some pictures of both of you together and tag her.
Gaeta Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 You must be young if you're actually putting stock in some LAME Facebook status. What did people DO before Facebook was invented? What was the 'standard' back then that validated one's relationship status? How did we all survive without a lame 'Facebook" verification of our relationships? And yet...somehow...we all did. Maybe it's a 'huge red flag' if you're a teenage kid. Sheesh. It is young people's reality today and telling them to ignore it is not the answer. It would be like my parents telling me I should do well without running water cause back in the days they did well without it. FB status is important to all young generation so this girl hiding her status speaks loudly that she prefers some people do not know she is now officially dating someone.
empresario Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I get it...this isn't about the status at all. This is about her lying about changing it and seemingly hiding something. I can tell you from my experience people lie about FB exposure because they don't want people to know about the relationship. Shoot, I've done it, albeit for good reasons. One girlfriend I didn't even add to FB for 6 months under the guise that "I use it professionally". It was a lie. Basically, I had my prior girlfriends family, friends, etc still on my friends list and I didn't want them flipping out that I had moved on so fast (even though we HAD broken up...before people try to call me out). I loved my ex, she just wasn't right for me or my future and that's why we broke up. Hurting her feelings wouldn't have been fair to her. It was a situation where I moved on while in the relationship then broke up with her. She was grieving, I wasn't. I mean, I guess it's not a "good" reason, but it seemed like a good idea at the time. My point is, she has her reasons for hiding it. It may have nothing to do with you or a negative reason. But ultimately you can trust her or not.
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