Jadey Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Ok so heres the story. I have known this guy Joe for a couple of years but before i never really spoke to him he wos just one the guys in my science class. But then one of my best friends started to date one of his friends and we started to all hang out together. After about a week i looked at joe in a different way and fell in lust with him. He seemed like he liked me too and we constantly flirted with one another. I kept it to myself for afew days but then told my 3 best friends and one of them decided to tell all the others in our "group" Before i could blink joe knew i liked him. We continued to flirt and that while our friends tried to get us together. He looked abit frustrated with this. By the end of the next week i asked fot his number and he gave it willingly and asked for mine. That weekend i txt him and we were tcxting allll day and night till like 3 in the morning for 2 days and a night. Things were great. I asked him out and he said hed think about it. So i said ok then. But secretley i wos VERY frustrated and just wanted to know lol The next monday i saw him my friend asked him out for me and he said yeah. Hes a pretty shy/quiet guy and i can be when it comes to things like that so we didnt really do much. Then the next week wos a school holiday and he asked if he wanted to meet up, i said yes. So we hung out everyday for 2 weeks, were having GREAT fun, and i know he wos too. We hung in the mall, he babysat my nephews with me, slept round, the whole lot. He told me how he wos so happy and that he loved me. Then the next week he had to stay at his nans and he wos pissed cos he said hed miss me. We txt eachother most nights that week saying "miss you" "love you" etc. Then the tuesday we ent back to school i could tell something wos up. He wos pratically ignoring me. I didnt ask why instead i got really upset and spoke to my buddies about it while Joe went elsewhere (at lunchtime)Nobody knew why. I didnt bother to txt or call him cos i wos just so hurt with him for ignoring mr. He ignored me for 3 days untill my best friend literally got him in a corner and asked why he wos ignoring me. He just looked at me and said "i dont think we should be together anymore" and when i asked why he said its cos he didnt see me for a week. I cried. He walked off. I shouted some mean things. The next day i didnt go to school then that night i rang him and tried to get answers but he just wouldnt cummonicate he said that he just dont think we should be together. Then i said how he said he loved me and missed me when he wos away and he didnt answer. So we just shouted at eachother and i got nowhere. For a couple of weeks afterwards he stayed away but then he started hanging with us again and he kept looking at me, with wot seemed like such love. I couldnt understad it. He wosnt talking but just looking and smiling sometimes. He looked really sad. We wouls talk by txt and it consisted of me telling him i love him and him saying he doesnt know why he dummped me. As i got more and more frustrated over the days we argued more and i started to be nasty to him . Now it has turned into me being totally confused as wots going on. At school he looks at me alot and looks really jealous when im with other guys, but he still wont talk to me properly. Just now i sent him a txt asking if he had my top up card and he said no so i just said "how useless" i didnt even say HE is usless i said IT. And he txt back saying "yeah wotever" so i sent one back "somebodies got a stick up their ass" and he hasnt replied. I just dont know how to be anymore. I dont wanna be walked over but i dont wanna be nasty. I really really badly want him back but dont know how and how to go about doing it. I leave school in 2 months and may not see him again unless i do something about it and FAST! I dont understanfd wot went wrong, Is it something i did? Surely it cant really be cos we had a week apart. Cos now its changed to he doesnt knoe why he did. Please dont just tell me to move on cos i NEED HIM BACK BAD. Wot shall i do? Thanks, sorry for rambeling on Jade xxx
Merin Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Jade, Leave him alone... Stop sweating him with the text messages and what not.. it isn't helping and it isn't working. From what I can tell in your thread the 2 of you are pretty young.. and young people can be very fickle when it comes to affairs of the heart... Joe had to be talked into dating you to begin with and in some ways walked through what might be expected of him in the relationship.. the talk of Love You's and Miss You's may have been just too much for him to deal with... and instead of telling you he was feeling scared and not ready for that, he just backed away... which is also not an uncommon thing people will do when they feel uncomfortable.. doesn't make it right, but it does happen. At this point sending him nasty text messages is only going to make him sure he did the right thing in ending things with you... it comes across as needy and for real... just being nasty because you're angry that he isn't wanting a romantic relationship... it comes off as petty. IF you really want to get this Guys attention again... back off! STOP text messaging him, don't make yourself available... when you see him, smile and say hello then move on to talking to someone else... I can just about garauntee IF you continue to sweat him the way you have been he not only won't ever date you again, he may end up not even liking you as a friend again... Good Luck
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