KSCHV Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I'm trying the online thing again, mostly out of boredom and just to see if anything has changed. I have a love hate with this kinda thing personally. It's an easy avenue obviously if some of these women/accounts are legit. In the last week I've managed to get two to reply. First one fell off fast and the new the second one started last night, and went here and there throughout the day till the afternoon/evening. She said she had stuff to do ect in one of her last messages, I replied back with no response. No biggie I don't live for this stuff and what not. Maybe she will send me another GOOD MORNING message tomorrow, if not maybe I should? Now with that being said we just had small talk, didn't get deep and I tossed some humor out here and there. I don't want to come off strong, not my intentions at all. More so what I'm curious is how some of you go about this? How much do you really tell said person? It's just words, there no real interaction like saying the same thing in person and feeling it out. But... How far do you go on with this messaging before you swap numbers? What's your limit before you say F it and throw in the towel before you ever even meet them? This isn't my first rodeo and have tried different approaches, being a nice guy and a couple of them figured out I wasn't trying to get in their drawers they really wanted a text/talk buddy. This happened once big time with I gal I met on Facebook and I never got to meet her in person. Couple weeks went on before I told her to pound sand. Gave her my number probably to quick, casual texts turned into her wanting a text a thon, which led to her wanting to call me all the time. When is answer she would want to talk for hours and it just went farther downhill from there. I think you have to draw the line somewhere before you get to far into it and the actual interaction could become always due to the fact you could have told your damn life story already.
Author KSCHV Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Online etiquette? Oxymoron. Lol well you might be right, I've had mixed feelings here and there with this. Just seems like an easy low/no risk potential high reward. That is as long as I don't encounter some gal figuring out sure I live and work and staking me. Or end up in a bathtub of ice with a note saying you've been roofied, I took a kidney.
aloneinaz Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Ok, here's a couple of things I did when I was OLD last. When you send an email and get a reply, the best thing to do is simply HAVE A CONVERSATION with them via the email. If it seems like there's a connection and you seem to hit it off, throw your cell number out there at the end and say I'd love to text/chat with ya. If they send the digits then text her the next day. If the texting goes good, then have a phone conversation with them. If that goes good then ask them out during the call. I had no patience for women that wanted to drag out conversations via email. If I got a reply to my hello email, I'd then reply back. Most times women will get back to you and you can get a convo going. If a girl takes a day to reply to each email then I'd gauge her interest as low. Everyone has smart phones and can reply in a couple of hours. At least that is what I experienced. My point is, If things went well emailing/texting and the phone call, I'd usually lock down a date within 48 hours of the first contact. I met my current GF on there. I sent her a wise ass email. She replied on later that afternoon. We went back and forth a bit before I left to go out. I then saw her online and we emailed for about 10 minutes. I then thru my cell number out and asked her if she wanted to take it off line and text. She sent her number over and we continued texting. I really enjoyed texting with her and after an hour, I simply called her and we chatted for a solid hour. We had great chemistry. It was about noon. I asked what she was doing that night. She said she was free, so I asked her to meet for a drink. The rest is history. Ok, I'm rambling but.. my point is I didn't want to find a new emailing texting friend for days after the first email was sent. I was on the site to meet people on dates while looking for my next relationship. So many women I met or know complain about guys seeming to only want to email or text w/out ever calling them or asking them out. Probably the number one bitch women shared. I felt the same way. So, it was rare that I didn't have a phone conversation with someone who replied to me within 48hours and if that went well, we'd meet. This approach worked well for me.
Author KSCHV Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Ok, here's a couple of things I did when I was OLD last. When you send an email and get a reply, the best thing to do is simply HAVE A CONVERSATION with them via the email. If it seems like there's a connection and you seem to hit it off, throw your cell number out there at the end and say I'd love to text/chat with ya. If they send the digits then text her the next day. If the texting goes good, then have a phone conversation with them. If that goes good then ask them out during the call. I had no patience for women that wanted to drag out conversations via email. If I got a reply to my hello email, I'd then reply back. Most times women will get back to you and you can get a convo going. If a girl takes a day to reply to each email then I'd gauge her interest as low. Everyone has smart phones and can reply in a couple of hours. At least that is what I experienced. My point is, If things went well emailing/texting and the phone call, I'd usually lock down a date within 48 hours of the first contact. I met my current GF on there. I sent her a wise ass email. She replied on later that afternoon. We went back and forth a bit before I left to go out. I then saw her online and we emailed for about 10 minutes. I then thru my cell number out and asked her if she wanted to take it off line and text. She sent her number over and we continued texting. I really enjoyed texting with her and after an hour, I simply called her and we chatted for a solid hour. We had great chemistry. It was about noon. I asked what she was doing that night. She said she was free, so I asked her to meet for a drink. The rest is history. Ok, I'm rambling but.. my point is I didn't want to find a new emailing texting friend for days after the first email was sent. I was on the site to meet people on dates while looking for my next relationship. So many women I met or know complain about guys seeming to only want to email or text w/out ever calling them or asking them out. Probably the number one bitch women shared. I felt the same way. So, it was rare that I didn't have a phone conversation with someone who replied to me within 48hours and if that went well, we'd meet. This approach worked well for me. Thanks for the reply bud! If she doesn't message me back in the morning I'll send her a friendly hey good morning later on and go from there.
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