Lois_Griffin Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 She is 30, sad I know. Oh Jesus. I was going to ask what grade you two were in. Never mind.
Toodaloo Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Then I shamed her, cussed her out and belittled her. Should she forgive me? No - you have behaved like a child. You should have just left her to it. Clearly you two are not good together. Stay away. What is done is done. Go to the Break ups section and read about No Contact and how to get over your ex. Post any and all ramblings etc in there. They will help you get over her.
Author phillymoose Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 No - you have behaved like a child. You should have just left her to it. Clearly you two are not good together. Stay away. What is done is done. Go to the Break ups section and read about No Contact and how to get over your ex. Post any and all ramblings etc in there. They will help you get over her. I'm trying to do no contact, like she is doing to me, but I'm finding extremely difficult. I dont even see why her and I cant remain friendly. Im able to forgive and forget but she cant.
deadelvis Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Do you think she took the cowards way out and said, "hell I'll just do this because its unforgivable" to make her mind up for her? Before she revealed all the details, she was saying she was confused, and that she thought of me while on the date. I'm trying to do no contact, like she is doing to me, but I'm finding extremely difficult. I dont even see why her and I cant remain friendly. Im able to forgive and forget but she cant. I would say that's exactly why she did it. It's a way to bring closure when you aren't a very stable person and you still have conflicted feelings. She did it (perhaps subconsciously, perhaps consciously) to burn the bridge and make sure she can never go back. Believe it or not, thats also probably why you yelled hurtful things at her. It's our hearts way of cauterizing the wound so we can stop the bleeding. It hurts because you still love her. But you know deep inside you can never get back together. Not after what's happened. It would always be there inside you, waiting like an infected sliver, trying to poison your life. I would go through your phone and delete all her contact info. That way you can't "accidentally" contact her. I'm sure she'll contact you soon, and you'll recognize the number. I actually delete my girlfriends contact info whenever she needs "space". Then when she texts me I reply quickly and then delete her number again. This helps me to not "blow her up" all day. It's actually worked well for me because otherwise I don't have the self control not to text her every 15 minutes.
Author phillymoose Posted June 10, 2015 Author Posted June 10, 2015 I would say that's exactly why she did it. It's a way to bring closure when you aren't a very stable person and you still have conflicted feelings. She did it (perhaps subconsciously, perhaps consciously) to burn the bridge and make sure she can never go back. Believe it or not, thats also probably why you yelled hurtful things at her. It's our hearts way of cauterizing the wound so we can stop the bleeding. It hurts because you still love her. But you know deep inside you can never get back together. Not after what's happened. It would always be there inside you, waiting like an infected sliver, trying to poison your life. I would go through your phone and delete all her contact info. That way you can't "accidentally" contact her. I'm sure she'll contact you soon, and you'll recognize the number. I actually delete my girlfriends contact info whenever she needs "space". Then when she texts me I reply quickly and then delete her number again. This helps me to not "blow her up" all day. It's actually worked well for me because otherwise I don't have the self control not to text her every 15 minutes. Yeah I think that's definitely what her reasoning was and its a sign of a very weak person, probably why I never fully trusted her. It does hurt as her selfish decisions made it easier for her not to look back, but not so much for me, and because she is so selfish I don't expect to hear from her again. Probably better off, but it sure has messed me up in the meantime.
CarrieT Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 Based on these things you have said: I never fully trusted her. AND she is so selfish I dont even see why her and I cant remain friendly. Because people cannot remain friend(s)/friendly when there are emotions running rampant like distrust and vitriol. Im able to forgive and forget but she cant. With all due respect, you are not forgetting at all. No Contact should be tantamount to these steps. You two shouldn't have anything to say to one another.
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