Jonorum Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Hi, just wanted to share a story, any advice or tips would be great. I was really close friends with a girl, best friends in fact for about 9 months before we got together. The last two months were more like we were already together. After the nine months our relationship lasted a little over 20 months. The main reason it ended was the distance between us as she moved away for university. The first 5 months she was away it was fine, we missed each other but we could deal with it. The last two months weren't great at all though. I went through a tough time were I lost my job and I suddenly had a lot of free time. Two weeks before I lost my job I went up to visit her for 5 days as a Valentine's Day present. We both had one of the best weeks together that week, but with losing my job and having all this free time after a great week just made me miss her so much as I thought about her a lot. I got silly emotionally by being jealous, clingy and argumentative. We would always get passed it but eventually she got sick of it and started to stop caring. She eventually came home but very really wanted to see me. When we did see each other we both always got upset which never happened, but we still were quite physical during this period. I knew the way I was started to drive her to other men. One might we were out and she was saying we were gonna break up but not now coz she wanted to do it privately and not when we were out. There were two times I thought we were gonna break up but she never actually said it but we just talked about how things were. Then she was going on holiday for a week and decided the day before she went we would break up, but after me saying why we shouldn't she sat there for a while thinking. That night we were physical again, she went away and we were still together. The day she came back was the day before she went back to uni and sh was texting me saying we really need to talk. I knew what was coming. She said she thought about it while she was away and decided it was best for us to break up. It felt rash to me because she realised it was the last day she could do it in person. We broke up but it was a clean break up, were so comfortable with eachother we were able to laugh and reminisce. She said she wanted to stay friends and she'd keep all our Instagram photos up. The reason she gave for breaking up was that she didn't love me anymore. A month passed and we barely spoke, I did well at trying not to contact her, but all the times we spoke I was the one to initiate it. I asked if it was okntonstartbteying to be friends now and she said it was too soon. I asked why she thought it was too soon and then she said it's not too soon I just think it would be weird if we spoke. She also started to stealthily start to remove our Instagram photos, every time she put a new one up she would take one down. I asked if she planned to take them all down and she said I know it's harsh but I think it's time to move on. I'm not sure how she feels about us being friends now but she went back on her word over Instagram. Her friend was also in a long distance relationship a year before us and they argued with eachother all the time but they lasted a year. Her friend and ex now hate each other and I think that's because they stayed together so long and I think that's what my ex was thinking about, she didn't want us to end up hating eachother but I don't even know if she wants to be friends anymore. It's weird because we were best friends for 3 years and we were really close. So it's weird of were not friends at all. I have a plan to try and win her back because I think when she sees I'm back to the old me she fell in love with she'll see sense. What do you think? Do you think it's over or should I try? I'm still in love with her and wouldn't even know how to begin to try and get over her nevermind actually doing it. Thank you for reading this and thanks in advance for the comments.
DexterLS Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I think it's too late buddy. To be honest, long-distance relationships are hard to maintain and she seemed to have check out of the relationship long before she broke up with you. I know it's hard but you have to move on. Please read this guide and start NC as soon as possible.
Pastmen Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I agree with Dexter, She seems to have moved on already and she knows that she has made the right decision. When her feelings about you chance there is not much you can do then just accept it. You are who you are and when she feels like you are not the one she has the right to break up with you. But don't forget that she isn't the only girl for you in the world go find someone that really loves you and in the meantime try to forget about her. She told you as well that you should move on because she knows it's not going to happen anymore. Good luck in the process I know it's hard i'm right there with you but the sooner you move on, the sooner you can begin feeling good again.
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