BronHater Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 (edited) Early last year I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years. It had been long distance the last year and she wanted more of a commitment if you catch my drift. I was not in a position to move back or oblige however so we decided to part ways and have not had any contact since. Since then I've dated a ton of women, and while I'll generally be excited within the confines of the first few dates the hype will die down pretty quickly. I'll always have a place in my heart for my first serious gf but I'm not in love with her anymore. What I have realized though is that I'm still very much in love with the concept of her, a lot of her general personality aspects, she way her mind worked. Inevitably I get to the point with who I'm dating where I'll compare and realize she just doesn't measure up, really unfair to the person I'm dating at the time. I'm almost to the point to where I do wish our relationship ended on a much more poor note than it did, feels like ending it with the love we still had is handicapping me. Anyone gone through the same? How to best cope? Edited June 8, 2015 by BronHater
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 It's normal, I think we all do that to a certain point, then time goes by and the feeling dissipate, you meet someone new that blows your mind and you forget about the ex and all those little things that made her endearing.
toscaroscura Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I really wish I knew. I have a long distance BF/not-BF. We love each other but he is young and gun-shy and for various life reasons, we are unable to be together at any point in the near future. I too compare other men to him and dating has been disappointing. Nobody gives me even a fraction of the connection he did. He too, has been unable to date other women. Sometimes, I feel like he "ruined" me in a way. Maybe we ruined each other... I hope Gaeta is right and that these feelings will dissipate over time.
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