TunaCat Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 I had known my ex since we were kids, and 5 years ago his fiance died while waiting for a heart transplant. We got involved 2 years after her death and it was hard for me because he had loved her so much, and I felt like I'd never be able to compete with the memory of her. I struggled with feeling like I was good enough, and comparing myself to her. A friend of mine flat out told me that I would ruin the relationship if I let her memory ruin the relationship. For the first six months of the relationship, I would constantly wonder if she were still alive, would he still be with her? Overthinking things is my specialty. Of course I had to see pictures of her. Some were in his wallet, some were in his parents' house. He finally removed the pictures from his wallet and his parents (out of respect for me & the relationship I was building with their son) moved their pictures from the common area of their house. I didn't rush him though. I let him decide when he was ready to move the pictures into his closet. I didn't mind him keeping them because she was such an important part of his life. 2
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