pa888 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Hi everybody! So I'm feeling a little bit low today. Which really blows since today is my special day I've been making progress and I'm proud of myself for it, but I'm feeling a huge setback in that rather than enjoying my bday all I can think of is whether or not my ex is going to wish me a happy birthday. I think the reason I'm sad is that I feel like I went all out for his, but our relationship didn't last long enough to reach mine, so he never had to do anything for me in the same way. And in all honesty since I unfriended on FB him after break up I doubt he even knows it's today. Since he was my first bf I guess I realized I have never had a bday to spend with a significant other. Or maybe the bigger problem is that my day keeps falling on finals week and everyone's too busy studying and I should be too. Any tips?
jen1447 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Aw hon, happy birthday. There'll be plenty others to spend with someone. If it makes you feel any better, my BF got dumped by his last ex on his birthday. There's always someone somewhere who has it worse than you. 1
Jonp219 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Hi everybody! So I'm feeling a little bit low today. Which really blows since today is my special day I've been making progress and I'm proud of myself for it, but I'm feeling a huge setback in that rather than enjoying my bday all I can think of is whether or not my ex is going to wish me a happy birthday. I think the reason I'm sad is that I feel like I went all out for his, but our relationship didn't last long enough to reach mine, so he never had to do anything for me in the same way. And in all honesty since I unfriended on FB him after break up I doubt he even knows it's today. Since he was my first bf I guess I realized I have never had a bday to spend with a significant other. Or maybe the bigger problem is that my day keeps falling on finals week and everyone's too busy studying and I should be too. Any tips? Hey, Happy Birthday! I'm sorry you feel this way, but like Jen said it could be worst. Take it from me, it wouldn't mean a thing if he wished you a Happy B-Day. My ex said happy b-day to me and never reached out to me again after that. To make matters even worst she dumped me on the 6th of February. Valentines Day is on the 14th, my birthday was the 19th, and our anniversary was the 27th. That was probably the worst month in my life, the pain was insurmountable. I hope you can find someone (friends or family) to spend your special day with. I wish you the best! 1
Mr Scorpio Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Looks like I'm late to the party (pun semi-intended). It is natural to be disappointed that he didn't reach out to you on your birthday. Events like birthdays and holidays offer a glimmer of hope ("well, I know we broke up, but c'mon! It's 'Secretary Appreciation Day'!"). It is fool's gold in the end. Ask yourself, if he had wished you a happy birthday, would that have been the end of "it"? Would you have been satiated? Or would you then move on to waiting for the next glimmer of hope? No. Best to leave it be. Study for your finals. Maintain discipline. And then? When finals are over? Pamper yourself. Find something that you really want or want to do and get it/do it (just be reasonable, don't go overboard and buy a dinosaur or anything). 4
DinnerForOne Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 I get you, I totally do. My B-Day was on Sunday and the ONLY person who remembered was my mother. I too was wishing for that text from my Husband..... but Alas! It never came. He moved out less than two weeks ago, so I was kind of hoping for a breadcrumb or two. But really - what would it have done? How would HIM wishing me Happy Birthday serve ME. Truth is, it wouldn't. Breadcrumbs hold us back. As heartbroken as I am, it is a clear indication that I have to move forward and forget all hope of reconciling. When people show you who they are - believe them. He showed that he is a narcissitic (sp?) uncaring, jelly fish, so consumed with his own life to give a second thought to someone he spent the last 10 years with.
Author pa888 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Thanks for the replies and wishes everyone! Well as I anticipated it he didn't end up contacting me, and I guess it's a good thing. I was still pretty hurt about it last night, but I think it was probably more the stress of finals and the fact that everyone was busy studying. I have decided though that I'm going to throw a small dinner party at my place close to the end of the week when most of us will be done with school to celebrate. I've invited my closest friends and most said they can come and are really looking forward to it!
Mr Scorpio Posted June 10, 2015 Posted June 10, 2015 I have decided though that I'm going to throw a small dinner party at my place close to the end of the week when most of us will be done with school to celebrate. I've invited my closest friends and most said they can come and are really looking forward to it! Make some hummus! It's cheap and healthy and trendy.
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