KindlyUnspoken23 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Or does it? Everything I've read online contradicts everything that's happening to my life right now. Then again, the past 10 months of my life with this guy have contradicted all the "norms". Two weeks ago, the guy I thought I had been seeing for 10 months now and I went public. He told everyone at shows we worked at together that we were "together", we took pictures and posted them on facebook, and we spent a day at an amusement park with a bunch of his co-workers which he invited me to. That night I questioned this girl we talk crap about and how he added her on facebook. Apparently, that was one insecurity too many. The following Thursday he completely ended things with me. He told me we were not together, and never will be. He told me he's sick of this happening and said, and I quote, "I'm so glad I'm done with you". He immediately blocked me from facebook, and told me he was going to delete my number so to give me any last chance to say what I need to say. It really didn't matter what I said, so I didn't waste my time. I felt really hated, used, useless, and unwanted after EVERYTHING I did for this guy. I gave him my heart and soul and this is what I get in return. He kept texting me saying he'd see me at shows, and I just didn't answer. The VERY next night he texted me like nothing happened. Just said hi and asked what was up. I was very cold and very distant and he ended the conversation quickly. On Sunday after this happened, he texted and wished me a Happy Birthday. I said thanks, and left it at that. He texted me Wednesday to tell me he was having a procedure done the next day. Then,the next day, we faught again. The convo started fine, and he said he was actually going to ask if I wanted to come over and talk. But, when I told him I felt used and useless after our fight he started playing the pity me card. He said he never intended to see me again and was going to quit shows. On Friday? He texted.. "hey". He ended up telling me his medication side effects from were making him scared and nervous and he didn't want to be alone. I suck, and have a big heart, so I ended up going there. Unfortunately, I fell asleep and we didn't get to talk too much but everytime I woke up, he was staring at me lovingly and would just smile. When I asked if he wanted to talk Saturday he said he kind of just wanted to be alone, so I respect that. My question for all of you is, is me having hope that it's not really over just me being a hopeless romantic and stupid? There's sometimes a part of me that thinks he's really crazy about me and has feelings for me and he is just scared and doesn't know what to do. I am still SO angry and SO hurt about the words that were said when we were fighting though, that I can't even consider a friendship until we talk and I get an apology. I guess all I can do is live my life and focus on me, and let him talk when he's ready. But, it always helps to get others' opinions.
Yummm Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I'm so sorry this has happened to you. Please don't cling onto hope, it will only hurt you more. I'm 1 month post break up and I still wonder 'what if she really wants me back, what if she is thinking about me and just can't tell me' etc etc but it's not healthy. Today I finally deleted her from everywhere after unnecessarily hurting myself and giving myself a set back. NC is the way forward! Stop contact with him, it will allow you both to heal - it will be torture in the beginning but it WILL get easier. You don't want somebody in your life who can drop you so easily. 1
DexterLS Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 This is a very tricky situation to be in. Are you together right now or he has officially ended things? 1
Author KindlyUnspoken23 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 This is a very tricky situation to be in. Are you together right now or he has officially ended things? According to him we were never together, despite telling other people we were. I thought he officially ended things, especially by blocking me on facebook, etc. But then he's texted me multiple times since then & even wanted to see me the other day. So I really don't even know.
DexterLS Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 According to him we were never together, despite telling other people we were. I thought he officially ended things, especially by blocking me on facebook, etc. But then he's texted me multiple times since then & even wanted to see me the other day. So I really don't even know. He is playing games with you. Do not be his doormat and go No Contact asap. 1
erklat Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Do you want a relationship with someone that unstable? 1
Tarot777 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Tell him to be a man about it... Jesus, scared of his feelings. Find someone who will love you freely and treat you right! Xoxo 1
kendahke Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 According to him we were never together, despite telling other people we were. I thought he officially ended things, especially by blocking me on facebook, etc. But then he's texted me multiple times since then & even wanted to see me the other day. So I really don't even know. You are done. Block him and quit making room for him. There is something seriously wrong with him to act as he does and then turn around and act like nothing is wrong. He is going to end up driving you crazy with that because you never know who is going to be inhabiting his body--Dr. Jekyl or Mr. Hyde. 1
Satu Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 The relationship lacks a firm foundation, so even if you get back together, every little puff of wind will blow it over, and you will hop from upset to upset. Go to Natalie Lue's blog for lots of useful information about Mr Unavailable. No contact is your very good friend. *No direct contact in either direction. No sending or receiving of messages. No replies. Block any means he might use to contact you. *No indirect contact through third parties. *De-friend or delete from all social media. *No monitoring of him on social media. *No 'little birds' feeding you news. *Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he is doing or saying. 2
mystikmind2005 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Well, breaking up for a trivial matter is a red flag. How will he prove to you that he understands what commitment means? He should say that commitment is the solid foundation that you hold on to despite the ups and downs and emotions and incidents that will occur in any relationship, and you both agree to this and trust each other to actually stick to it. Have your fights have your incidents and situations, even have your time outs, but never betray your commitment. This is what he needs to prove, i don't know how? How many chances has he had already? too many i think.
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