kabadee Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Is it possible to maintain a friendship with an ex PA/EA for the sake of not completely losing them, if you still have feelings for each other?
FusionCutter Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Of course you can, if you don't mind destroying your own emotional well-being. 8
whichwayisup Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Is it possible to maintain a friendship with an ex PA/EA for the sake of not completely losing them, if you still have feelings for each other? No. It's impossible. 1
Neveragain2013 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I thought I could, but I cried myself to sleep every night. It's not worth it. 3
lookingforclosure Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 It is emotional torture...that's for certain:( 3
Rainbowlove Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Is it possible to maintain a friendship with an ex PA/EA for the sake of not completely losing them, if you still have feelings for each other? I don't believe so. I would never ever want my spouse to ever feel second fiddle again to anyone. Practice putting your spouse first... 2
Alebo Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I was also asking myself the same question, even tried, didnt work... 1
MissBee Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Is it possible to maintain a friendship with an ex PA/EA for the sake of not completely losing them, if you still have feelings for each other? Nope. Not possible. It's very unlikely. If they are working on their marriage it makes no sense and would be disrespectful to their spouse for one thing and even if that's not the case, it's difficult if not impossible to remain "just friends" with someone you have feelings for. The "friendship" will never be platonic by default. It will either slip back into an affair, either EA or PA, or it will be a case of unrequited love. It's not gonna work. Unfortunately, breaking up sometimes means you lose the person altogether. Add the affair element, that makes it worse. Maybe with non-affair relationships there is more of a chance that a friendship could be salvaged (after some time of totally getting over romantic feelings) but with an affair that almost always precludes it. 3
minnesotagirl Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Ask yourself what your true intentions are here. Is this person really your friend? Can you call them anytime without worry, paranoia, or emotional stress? Can you help each other openly, platonically, in times of need? Is there sexual tension still? Be honest about whether this is going to be a friendship or just a lowkey emotional affair. Stay out of the latter, it's just torture and will only cause stasis in your life. 6
LovelyBrown Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Is it possible to maintain a friendship with an ex PA/EA for the sake of not completely losing them, if you still have feelings for each other? No, plain and simple. You only end up hurting yourself 2
Josmatjes Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 It's not possible! You just open yourself up to another kind of hurt. I tried to be friends but I found the dynamics were different than before. You need to just say goodbye. If its meant to be it will be... 1
m4p Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Nope. Unless your definition of "friendship" actually means "intimate contact with opposite sex that needs to be hidden from spouse". I too, was tempted to venture into this friendship thing. But at the end of the day, all you get is disrespecting yourself as well as xAP's spouse. The hardest part is also when you realised things will NEVER go back to how it was, and you have to settle for a less regular/affectionate contact schedule, while still having full-fledged feelings for your xAP. This will never work, so please don't bring more grief to yourself... Unless there is a innate intention to re-start the A.. 1
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