loveweary11 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I say almost exactly what you said in the OP. "I have 6 pics in my profile, including a full body one. Your turn." That usually shuts them down. Often they will follow up with, "I want to be sure it's you, that's all." At this point, I can see they really, really dumb and simply say, "How does sending one mre fake pic of the person I am pretending to be prove I'm real?"Then I don't respond anymore because they're idiots. 1
loveweary11 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Reading some of the other conversation here..... No full body pic = no more conversation for me. Without exception. I have no free time to talk to people who I may not be attracted to. I have a lot of Love Shack posts to make!! :lmao:
h0000 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 When guys ask you to "send me a pic" they mean nudes, no??
Toodaloo Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 When guys ask you to "send me a pic" they mean nudes, no?? Most of the time yes. I asked a chap why he wanted more pictures and he basically admitted it was to frap to... fully clothed or not he didn't mind. 1
katiegrl Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 1) In reality, romance develops after you've spent time with someone consistently right? So it shouldn't be a factor whatsoever with someone before you meet regardless. 2) From a practical standpoint, isn't it better to find out in a few seconds that you're not attracted to the person, then wasting time getting together with someone you wouldn't want to meet in the first place? 3) People being dishonest speaks negatively on them. Not on whether or not OLD works for the person who's been mislead. I take issue with No. 2. Attraction may be based SOLELY on the physical for YOU, and determuned by an on-line photo, but for many people (or perhaps women), myself included, much of why we become "attracted to" a man stems from what is beneath...mutual chemistry...and just that feeling we get when each other's physical presence. A man I might think is okay and/or merely pleasant looking on line may turn out to be the sexiest man alive TO ME once I meet him in person and feel that *spark* and well...we just cluck! I wonder if you have ever felt that immediate chemistry ff...a feeling that goes way deeper than merely what she looks like on the outside. And I agree with Popsicle re No. 1. Romance starts the second you lay eyes on each other IN PERSON...and you both feel that immediate click, that again goes deeper than what they look like. Another reason why I hate OLD. Too much emphasis on the physical BEFORE ever even meeting in person. Again, someone you might deem average on line (and notcwush to meet)... might turn out to the sexiest hottest chick you have ever known had you met in person and felt that chemistry. The right chemistry makes all the difference and you simply cannot feel that from an on line photo. The photo gives you an idea, but if you are basing how attracted you are to her based on a photo, you might miss out on the perfect girl for you! 1
Brigit Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 This thread should be the sister thread to my OLD Photo Trickery thread..LOL If I had $100 for every woman who claimed to look like her pics that mislead me, I wouldn't have to work for a few years. Now it would be one thing if a guy asked for a naked pic. However, if a guy explains his bad luck in the past and respectfully asks for a recent fully clothed full body pic, what's the big deal? It takes a few seconds to do and shows you have nothing to hide. I agree. If it's someone you're interested in then you might as well do it. But I'd take it one step further if I did OLD I would say "Hey why don't we just Skype for a bit?" I wouldn't trust pictures, with Skype what you see is what you get and I would probably ask them to stand up so I can see what they're wearing. If they were too short I wouldn't want to date them. (It's a good thing I'm married.)
aloneinaz Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I NEVER had an issue if a woman asked me for a dressed selfie while chatting before the first meet. I didn't find it rude what so ever. Clearly, the woman asking had been deceived before and I understood it. I understood that woman (like men) didn't want to waste their time meeting someone who potentially didn't look like the 6 pictures that they were representing themselves with.
lucy_in_disguise Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 When I was on OLD, i would assume the guy had pervy intentions for the additional pics. It never even crossed my mind that there may be a different motive, like wanting to confirm my identity- because I already had a bunch of clear pics up, and like others pointed out, its not like an additional picture proves anything. I would usually stop responding at that point. Imo, a better way to confirm identity is to ask for someones full name. You can usually find their facebook/ linkedin and check the pics for consistency. I think some level of unrealized expectations is part of the game when meetng people from online. If you are that concerned about accidentally going out with a fattie, you can keep the dates casual and convenient so its not a big deal if theres no attraction. A bar or coffee shop on your way home from work, etc. Asking for pics may seem like its saving you time but probably does more harm than good as a lot of women will be turned off by the request. 1
Brigit Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I NEVER had an issue if a woman asked me for a dressed selfie while chatting before the first meet. I didn't find it rude what so ever. Clearly, the woman asking had been deceived before and I understood it. I understood that woman (like men) didn't want to waste their time meeting someone who potentially didn't look like the 6 pictures that they were representing themselves with. Absolutely. If I was single and did OLD I'd be very, VERY careful. LOL. First there would be three Skype dates before there would be any in real life dates. It just makes sense. Why put yourself in an uncomfortable position in real life if you can vett them prior from the safety of your home?
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 When I was on OLD, i would assume the guy had pervy intentions for the additional pics. It never even crossed my mind that there may be a different motive, like wanting to confirm my identity- because I already had a bunch of clear pics up, and like others pointed out, its not like an additional picture proves anything. I would usually stop responding at that point. Imo, a better way to confirm identity is to ask for someones full name. You can usually find their facebook/ linkedin and check the pics for consistency. I think some level of unrealized expectations is part of the game when meetng people from online. If you are that concerned about accidentally going out with a fattie, you can keep the dates casual and convenient so its not a big deal if theres no attraction. A bar or coffee shop on your way home from work, etc. Asking for pics may seem like its saving you time but probably does more harm than good as a lot of women will be turned off by the request. As a guy I'd rather give out another pic than give my full name. There are a ton of crazies out there... This one Tinder girl turned out to be a freaking white ghetto girl and she wouldn't stop messaging me, then got her "boyfriend" to start harassing me via text. Do I want them having my full name? Nooooooo.....
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 (edited) Most of the time yes. I asked a chap why he wanted more pictures and he basically admitted it was to frap to... fully clothed or not he didn't mind. And when you have 10 guys a week asking, it's just not something you want to put out there to strangers. I already have full body pics up. Edited June 8, 2015 by Popsicle
aloneinaz Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Asking for pics may seem like its saving you time but probably does more harm than good as a lot of women will be turned off by the request. I think like everything else, it's all in the presentation when you ask. I only asked a couple of times and was never once told no. I was asked only a handful of time and never so no to the request. To me, it's not a big deal and there are far more important things to get myself twisted over.
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