Country_Girl Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 My biggest pet peeve with OLD is the random "send me a pic" text. I promise I look like my pictures, you have 6 to look at. I've never been a selfie taker, that **** annoys me. So no, I'm not sending you one. Is there a polite way to say "no I'm not sending a selfie?" So annoying. I'd be happy to send group pics of recent events but these guys want in the moment selfies. Sorry, got better things to do. 2
Author Country_Girl Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 I found it annoying too, such a turn-off. What did you reply with?
Gary S Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 You have pics on your profile. I'd just ignore the request, it's stupid.
aloneinaz Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 What did you reply with? You send a picture of an obese woman at Wal-Mart rocking one of those great outfits. You then follow up with, can't wait to meet you in person! 5
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 You could do like my daughter does. She put 2 pencils in her nose, cross her eyes and stick her tongue out. That's the selfie they get. She gets her sense of humor from me :-) 5
abby_tx Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Guys like this turn me off and I usually never reply to them in the first place.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I'll ask for more photos if a girl is being deceptive. Aka playing the angles, no full body shots, etc. Most girls have good enough photos so I don't need to ask though. Women if you're being asked, maybe you need to reevaluate the quality of your photos, and how well they represent you? 2
Phoe Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 A man on OLD did this to me once and I simply told him no, that I did not want to send him photos, and that was the end of the conversation. I have no interest in proving myself to a strange man. 4
Mrin Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I used to get this every now and then from women when i was active in OLD. Never bothered me. I would just snap a head selfie. Not 100% sure why they would ask but I figured it was something either to do with making sure I was who I said I was or just wanting to make a stronger connection. No biggie.
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Just tell him that he will have to suspend his doubts and mistrust until you meet because it's unromantic. Then arrange to meet with him as soon as you can if you like him. Don't draw it out by texting/chatting/messaging forever.
Author Country_Girl Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 I'll ask for more photos if a girl is being deceptive. Aka playing the angles, no full body shots, etc. Most girls have good enough photos so I don't need to ask though. Women if you're being asked, maybe you need to reevaluate the quality of your photos, and how well they represent you? No I have 3 full body shots, no misrepresentation here.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 This thread should be the sister thread to my OLD Photo Trickery thread..LOL If I had $100 for every woman who claimed to look like her pics that mislead me, I wouldn't have to work for a few years. Now it would be one thing if a guy asked for a naked pic. However, if a guy explains his bad luck in the past and respectfully asks for a recent fully clothed full body pic, what's the big deal? It takes a few seconds to do and shows you have nothing to hide. 2
katiegrl Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 You could do like my daughter does. She put 2 pencils in her nose, cross her eyes and stick her tongue out. That's the selfie they get. She gets her sense of humor from me :-) LOL :bunny:
abby_tx Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 The pic I use is a profile shot of just my head. Oddly enough, the guys I go out with haven't asked for more. It's actually kind of surprising and a bit unfair. haha. I workout 4-5 days a week and am in shape. Didn't occur to me til just now that they might think I'm heavy.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 The pic I use is a profile shot of just my head. Oddly enough, the guys I go out with haven't asked for more. It's actually kind of surprising and a bit unfair. haha. I workout 4-5 days a week and am in shape. Didn't occur to me til just now that they might think I'm heavy. In my experience women who claim to be "curvy" or "athletic" that only show head shots are MUCH heavier in person most of the time. However there are times when I've been pleasantly surprised like I would be with you. Haha
Phoe Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 The pic I use is a profile shot of just my head. Oddly enough, the guys I go out with haven't asked for more. It's actually kind of surprising and a bit unfair. haha. I workout 4-5 days a week and am in shape. Didn't occur to me til just now that they might think I'm heavy. Same, I only had a headshot up. If it weren't for LoveShack, I never would've had a clue that all those men on OLD thought I was hiding something, lying, being deceptive, etc. Then again, if it weren't for LS, there are a LOT of things about the dating world I wouldn't know, haha. 1
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 This thread should be the sister thread to my OLD Photo Trickery thread..LOL If I had $100 for every woman who claimed to look like her pics that mislead me, I wouldn't have to work for a few years. Now it would be one thing if a guy asked for a naked pic. However, if a guy explains his bad luck in the past and respectfully asks for a recent fully clothed full body pic, what's the big deal? It takes a few seconds to do and shows you have nothing to hide. It's unromantic to have to deal with someone's mistrust (and from the first moment). I could easily say to you, what's the big deal for you to wait until you meet? At some point, if a guy is having to deal with that much fakery, then perhaps online dating is not for him.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 It's unromantic to have to deal with someone's mistrust (and from the first moment). I could easily say to you, what's the big deal for you to wait until you meet? At some point, if a guy is having to deal with that much fakery, then perhaps online dating is not for him. 1) In reality, romance develops after you've spent time with someone consistently right? So it shouldn't be a factor whatsoever with someone before you meet regardless. 2) From a practical standpoint, isn't it better to find out in a few seconds that you're not attracted to the person, then wasting time getting together with someone you wouldn't want to meet in the first place? 3) People being dishonest speaks negatively on them. Not on whether or not OLD works for the person who's been mislead. 1
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 1) In reality, romance develops after you've spent time with someone consistently right? So it shouldn't be a factor whatsoever with someone before you meet regardless. 2) From a practical standpoint, isn't it better to find out in a few seconds that you're not attracted to the person, then wasting time getting together with someone you wouldn't want to meet in the first place? 3) People being dishonest speaks negatively on them. Not on whether or not OLD works for the person who's been mislead. 1) Not really. It starts from the moment you say hello. Your heart starts to flutter, you get excited, you are hopeful, etc.. 2) I suppose but they could always send you another misleading picture. I've been asked before for extra pics (it's annoying) so I just keep one ready to send, but who's to say that it's even accurate, or even of me for that matter? 3) My point was that it's the nature of meeting people to date who are initially behind a screen that there is [what's supposed to be a brief] period of not knowing what you're getting. This can not be avoided. If you want to avoid it altogether than just meet women the old fashioned way out and about.
Popsicle Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 And OLD does ATTRACT dishonest people. It is fertile ground for dishonesty. It is inherently risky.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 1) Not really. It starts from the moment you say hello. Your heart starts to flutter, you get excited, you are hopeful, etc.. 2) I suppose but they could always send you another misleading picture. I've been asked before for extra pics (it's annoying) so I just keep one ready to send, but who's to say that it's even accurate, or even of me for that matter? 3) My point was that it's the nature of meeting people to date who are initially behind a screen that there is [what's supposed to be a brief] period of not knowing what you're getting. This can not be avoided. If you want to avoid it altogether than just meet women the old fashioned way out and about. 1) There should be no expectations whatsoever going into an online first date/meet IMO. When people get attached to emails, texts, etc they're setting themselves up for disappointment based on expectations they create. Romance happens in person over a countless number of dates. 2) I will agree with you here. When I've been sent "recent" pics before meeting, there are times where they still don't match up. But there are still plenty of times where the recent pic, looked vastly different than the profile pic. So based on the amount of bad dates that it saved me, I'd still rather do all I can not to go in completely blind. 3) I used to cold approach IRL all the time. For years that's how I got all my dates. But my life is much different now. My best friend moved to the EC, and my other best friend spends as much time as he can with his girlfriend. So I'm much more of a homebody. I do see women I am attracted to out and about during the day. But since I meet women/get dates online regularly, the idea of meeting even more women gets to be exhausting. Dating in general is a grind.
Jessie1231 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I hate selfies too. I just feel silly even taking them. My profile for OLD always had head shots and a few full length body shots, so I never understood why someone would want even more before we meet. I do understand guys wanting to make sure a woman isn't tricking them with her online photos, but it seems that if she's using angles and maybe even photo shop to look slimmer on her profile, she's going to keep doing the same thing to any selfies she might send the guy. So it probably defeats the purpose of even asking for additional pics.
candie13 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 what's fair is fair. I'm sending selfies only if he is, first. this is so silly, what you can do is prepare a good stock of silly selfies and keep them on your phone, just in case. I've got nothing to hide and I like to show my playful nature.
Toodaloo Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 My biggest pet peeve with OLD is the random "send me a pic" text. I promise I look like my pictures, you have 6 to look at. I've never been a selfie taker, that **** annoys me. So no, I'm not sending you one. Is there a polite way to say "no I'm not sending a selfie?" So annoying. I'd be happy to send group pics of recent events but these guys want in the moment selfies. Sorry, got better things to do. I am with you honey all the way. I loathe having my picture taken and the thought of taking a picture of my body to attract a person makes me feel nothing short of a self obsessed hooker. Neither of which I wish to be. I just say no. I tell them if they want more pictures then they can meet me and take them themselves. I am not wasting my time being self absorbed idiot and sending them stuff to show round their mates and frap to. Pic a girl with Daddy issues or pay for it if you want that... The only way to ever know if you are going to be attracted to someone is to meet them in real life. 1
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