amandalepi Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 My sister and I are very close, we've always been close and she trusts me very much. A few weeks ago her and her boyfriend got into a terrible breakup and she was very hurt. The other night I saw her ex and we hooked up, I regret it very much and I feel very guilty and I want to tell her but I fear she won't forgive me, what do I do?
ravfour4 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Damn, your sis will prob be mad as hell and you just gave that dude a huge ego boost "screw you ex gf, I'm gonna sleep w your sister". Prob shouldn't have done something you were going to regret. Probably best to own up to it, but expect her to hate you for the near future. Or you can just hold it as an evil secret, which will likely distance you from your sis.
jen1447 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I'm all for honesty but sometimes the truth just unnecessarily blows things to bits. IF you can resolve to NEVER AGAIN have anything to do w/the ex, I'd just let it go, suffer your internal shame, and let it die off with time. Spare your sister the heartache of that short betrayal. But, you know, don't actually have anything to do with the ex ever again. ANYTHING. At all. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 My sister and I are very close, we've always been close and she trusts me very much. A few weeks ago her and her boyfriend got into a terrible breakup and she was very hurt. The other night I saw her ex and we hooked up, I regret it very much and I feel very guilty and I want to tell her but I fear she won't forgive me, what do I do? Oh boy.. Personally, you need to confess to your sister before her ex throws this act in her face. She's going to be wicked pissed but less so if it comes from you and not him. You may want to do it on the phone so it can't get physical if she still cares about him. 1
Mrin Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Epic bad move. What were you thinking??? Only a couple of weeks after they broke up too. Better fess up to it though. She'll hear about it one way or the other and better if it comes from you. 1
ManyDissapoint Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Tell your sister the truth. Confront your demons. What you did is really like top 5 or so worst human behaviors.
Fleur de cactus Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Tell you sister, she may know soon or late. better to hear it from you than from her ex or someone else since you ex is now proud of sleeping with 2 sisters and may not keep that secret for a long time.
imbax Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 i would tell your sister and let the consequences sort themselves out
DexterLS Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 First of all, WTF? Second, It's better she knows it from you than the ex. You messed up, time to own up to it. Good luck. 1
mystikmind2005 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Forbidden sex, i get it, but i don't do it, yet! Probably best to wait until your sis finds someone new she is happy with before telling her.
Morro72 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 OP - what makes you think the ex won't tell your sister, or tell somebody who winds up telling your sister? 1
Chi townD Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you tell her, she's going to be pissed. If she finds out from a third party, she's going to be pissed. You don't think her Ex is going to be talking? Bragging that he was able to nail two sisters? You're probably going to have to tell her. But, I would wait until she' completely healed and moved on from this break up. Right now, it's too raw and she's still in a lot of pain. She probably still has romantic feelings for her Ex. So, now is not a good time. But, sooner or later, you're going to have to fess up.
dumbass2 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Tell your sister right now = She hates for time being and will get over it Don't tell her and let her hear it from someone else = Hates you for life and disowns you and NEVER forgives you 1
Tarot777 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Your sister will probably find out, these type of things have a nasty way of coming to light. Plus it'll hang over your head and you'll become paranoid she's gonna find out, it'll drive you nuts. I'd tell her :/
Latino4Lyfe Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Ayy Yi Yi, what have you done??? I'm going to go with the rest here and suggest you fess up to what you did, hell I'll even add that while it may get a little physical it would be better if you straight up tell her in person. Even though it's horrible, you will feel a lot better in the end. I remember I was somewhat in a similar situation with my ex a while back...her older sister tried to hit me up to see her behind my ex's back one day basically wanting to take my ex's place as she and basically my ex's entire family knew, my ex was making a mistake in leaving me and they didn't want to see me go. While a part of that was a little flattering, I declined knowing that it would cause a lot of issues and the fact that her sister had tried to do that was just wrong as well.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 If this is real, you just fulfilled every guy's breakup fantasy and gave him scoreboard in the breakup. And honestly, what the hell is wrong with you for doing that? Assuming this is real (not sure because of the hit-and-run nature of the OP), you better fess up and resolve not to do it again. You showed a shocking lack of loyalty.
Latino4Lyfe Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 If this is real, you just fulfilled every guy's breakup fantasy and gave him scoreboard in the breakup. And honestly, what the hell is wrong with you for doing that? Assuming this is real (not sure because of the hit-and-run nature of the OP), you better fess up and resolve not to do it again. You showed a shocking lack of loyalty. Come to think of it....She has not even responded to what any of us has said either....wow .
wizer Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 trolling around You're not supposed to post that here. I got as close as I could on the second post of this thread.
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