ThisisIt606 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I met this guy on Tinder and we've been on 3 dates. He's paid for each of them although I offered (enthusiastically saying I'll get this, you got the other one and reaching for bag) but he insisted on paying. We kissed at the end of each date and some sitting close to each other, guiding me with his hand when we walk but nothing more (taking it slow physically), lots of talking and dates lasting for hours. He would initiate a lot of texts and text me for hours. However texts have gotten less this past week. He knew I was busy certain nights and I’m assuming didn't want to bother me. Tonight and tomorrow he has plans with a friend to see some shows. For our last date we went to an outdoor festival then got food/drinks. It was an afternoon date and I wanted it to last longer but there wasn’t a good reason to extend the date into the night as we got an early meal. I really wanted to text him after we parted ways but couldn’t think of anything to say. I was happy when HE texted me shortly after we parted, joking about something from earlier that day. He mentioned earlier a movie that we could see together. I took this opportunity to ask him if he wanted to go to the movie next week after he recovered (his words he used earlier) from his 2 events. He said That would be great and said he was available all the later half of next week. I picked Friday and said I can get discounted movie tix through work he said that sounded good would work for him. Tonight I know he's going to show with a friend. So I texted: ME: Enjoy the show tonight! HIM: Ha thanks.I actually just got to it and my friend who had my ticket will not be here for a couple hours. HIM: We had a bit of miscommunication. ME: haha oh no! Well maybe the (local sports store) is open to kill some time HIM: haha yeah I'll figure something out. My texting instinct is usually haha to something, weird idk. But now reading it back does it seem too insensitive? He seemed frustrated with the situation/his late friend. But I hope I didn't rub him the wrong way by laughing? I tried to be helpful by offering him an interesting thing to do in the meantime. I found it a little strange he didn't text me more/ ask how my day was if he seemed to have hours to wait for his friend. I may be over reacting but it's just because I do like him and we are taking things slow (physically) so I don't want him to think i'm a jerk. Did I sound to mean/insensitive? Should I say anything else or just wait until he texts me again?
smackie9 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Just wait for his text. Don't worry, it's not your responsibility to make his situation better, that is up to his buddy to make it up to him. No you didn't sound mean, let it go. He's a big boy he can deal with his situation/amuse himself. 4
katiegrl Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I met this guy on Tinder and we've been on 3 dates. He's paid for each of them although I offered (enthusiastically saying I'll get this, you got the other one and reaching for bag) but he insisted on paying. We kissed at the end of each date and some sitting close to each other, guiding me with his hand when we walk but nothing more (taking it slow physically), lots of talking and dates lasting for hours. He would initiate a lot of texts and text me for hours. However texts have gotten less this past week. He knew I was busy certain nights and I’m assuming didn't want to bother me. Tonight and tomorrow he has plans with a friend to see some shows. For our last date we went to an outdoor festival then got food/drinks. It was an afternoon date and I wanted it to last longer but there wasn’t a good reason to extend the date into the night as we got an early meal. I really wanted to text him after we parted ways but couldn’t think of anything to say. I was happy when HE texted me shortly after we parted, joking about something from earlier that day. He mentioned earlier a movie that we could see together. I took this opportunity to ask him if he wanted to go to the movie next week after he recovered (his words he used earlier) from his 2 events. He said That would be great and said he was available all the later half of next week. I picked Friday and said I can get discounted movie tix through work he said that sounded good would work for him. Tonight I know he's going to show with a friend. So I texted: ME: Enjoy the show tonight! HIM: Ha thanks.I actually just got to it and my friend who had my ticket will not be here for a couple hours. **** HIM: We had a bit of miscommunication. ME: haha oh no! Well maybe the (local sports store) is open to kill some time HIM: haha yeah I'll figure something out. **** My texting instinct is usually haha to something, weird idk. But now reading it back does it seem too insensitive? He seemed frustrated with the situation/his late friend. But I hope I didn't rub him the wrong way by laughing? I tried to be helpful by offering him an interesting thing to do in the meantime. I found it a little strange he didn't text me more/ ask how my day was if he seemed to have hours to wait for his friend. I may be over reacting but it's just because I do like him and we are taking things slow (physically) so I don't want him to think i'm a jerk. Did I sound to mean/insensitive? Should I say anything else or just wait until he texts me again? Haha.. :) Well it might have been better not to add the haha... but it's probably not that huge of a deal. Yes he noticed as he responded back with haha ...but let it go...again it is not a huge deal. Your haha's sound like a little quirk you have (we all have quirks!)...he might think it's cute! 1
Versacehottie Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Well i think it's fine in this situation. He said "bit of miscommunication" so that sounds like he's planting a seed for a story he will tell you in future. Light-hearted or something funny complaint about his friend or self-deprecating so haha is appropriate. If he was super serious type, then maybe not so cool to use. However, most importantly you want to be yourself and if it doesn't mesh well with him, best to know now. I also think at this stage it's best to be light-hearted. If some guy was too serious or overreacted to your haha, I probably wouldn't want to date him. Meaning it's been 3 dates and he should be putting his best foot forward, which means keeping things fun and presenting himself in a good light. It's not that a miscommunication isn't sometimes annoying but someone would lay that heaviness or their annoyance on someone they are trying to impress is just showing you more of what's to come. Lastly, on that note, you may just for your own sake want to be a little careful of overusing haha's because how they might interpret it is that it's immature or sometimes insensitive when used at wrong moment--i don't think this was it though.
abby_tx Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I thought your response is cute. You made light of it then offered a suggestion of how to pass time. Nothing to worry about. 1
fred123 Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 I thought it was cute. And its cute you really like him and are scared to mess it up! Do girls think like this?! I over analyze everything as a guy but its cute to know when a girl does it and likes a guy. If i liked you id think it was cute what you sent and also that you are frettinf over this:)
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