emagdnim Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Is this a bad idea? When they go hot/cold. Tell you they're busy but seem to have time for everybody else. I get "fit in" at convenient times and sometimes not even then. Only really show interest when they're drunk, etc. I'm not sure if I should just completely cut the cord or just call her out straight up for being wishy washy and figure out if she wants to get to know me better or not. She texts me 24/7 and snapchats me 24/7 and Im tired of seeing all the fun things shes doing when she apparently had no time to see me and won't reschedule other than to say "ill let you know" Thank you
losangelena Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 It probably couldn't hurt. She may come around because of it, or if not, then you're really in no different a position as you were before.
LifeExperiences Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Terrible idea IMO. if she's not into you, it won't make her suddenly like you. if anything, you'll only appear desperate and clingy and make her like you even less. if she's into you (unlikely), then this will again only reduce your value in her eyes the best option is to cut contact with her. this way, you'll keep your dignity and self-respect. at worst this'll remove her from your life, which is okay because you'll be able to swiftly move on. at best, she'll realise that she misses you and use this opportunity to actually be more proactive herself. in any case, calling her out will only make you seem desperate and has ZERO benefit to you
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Some girls expect a guy to call them out on their ****. Can't hurt.
misspond Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Don't call her out, just delete and block her. Sounds as though she likes the attention she gets from you but she's playing a pretty nasty game if she's letting you see what she's up to and texting you but not making time for you.
aloneinaz Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 You have to know you're her 2nd, third or even fourth choice on her social schedule. If she liked you, trust me, she's be spending ALL her time with you. When I was dating, if I got this feeling from someone, I'd simply vanish and they'd never hear from me again. I can read between the lines that I wasn't their cup of tea. No biggie. I'm certainly not going to waste my time asking them if I'm right or not.. Sometimes they may text me again (and I wouldn't reply) but the majority of the time I never heard from them again. I didn't them to confirm they were not into me.
Rejected Rosebud Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 yeah just block her! You are not going to make her like you more and obviously you are bugged by all the contact so make it stop!
candie13 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 i think it'll make you feel better if you call her out. However, be very clear that she will not change as a person, nor will she change her behavior towards you. the only thing you'd be gaining is throwing your nerves on someone and never speaking to them again - and if you do, there are high chances she won't be all polite and smiley, if you get what I mean if you don't give 2 cents, just ignore her from now on. She's an attention whore, her fix from you is attention. So stop giving it to her, it'll bug her out. At least until she finds another "victim".
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