sad123 Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Is timing really that important in a relationship?
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 It depends. Generally speaking, if someone really, and I mean really wants to be with you they will be. The worse the "timing", the lower you are on their priority list. When someone says "I love you, but the timing is wrong" then what they are really saying is that "you are so low on my emotional priority list that I simply can't see bumping you up a few notches in order to make the timing right. I have too much above you that I simply can't and won't make room for you in." It sounds like you are in a really horrible situation - maybe hanging on to someone who can't give you what you need emotionally? Are you having sex with him while he's keeping you at an emotional distance? You've been broken up with this guy for over a year, but I can't help wondering if you are still trying to push for reconciliation, and he is treating you really badly. Your posts are always so sad sounding.
Ty Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 It depends. Generally speaking, if someone really, and I mean really wants to be with you they will be. The worse the "timing", the lower you are on their priority list. When someone says "I love you, but the timing is wrong" then what they are really saying is that "you are so low on my emotional priority list that I simply can't see bumping you up a few notches in order to make the timing right. I have too much above you that I simply can't and won't make room for you in." Brilliant. God knows I needed to hear that. So true.
ltomlinson81 Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 I think timing can be crucial in a relationship. But it can make for a really good excuse, too.
Author sad123 Posted April 27, 2005 Author Posted April 27, 2005 well, i guess your right. I broke up with him and he just doesn't want me around....not even as a friend. I have asked him why can't we just be normal friends and he says normal? i am not going to be like that with you for a long time....i wonder why...
ltomlinson81 Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Is it really that hard to figure out? If you just broke up with the guy and he doesn't want you around, its probably because he still cares for you and wants to be away from you because you hurt him and he needs to get over you.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Originally posted by ltomlinson81 But it can make for a really good excuse, too. No kidding. I hate excuses, but in all fairness, I have used them to wiggle out of things, too.
whichwayisup Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 well, i guess your right. I broke up with him and he just doesn't want me around....not even as a friend. I have asked him why can't we just be normal friends and he says normal? i am not going to be like that with you for a long time....i wonder why... Some people can't handle being "just friends" after a relationship ends. ....i wonder why... Because either it's too painful for him, and why should he feel that pain everytime you both see or talk to eachother? It's not going to DO any good to be friends when one feels hurt and like crap. That's too negative. And also, he may not have an interest in friendship at all as it's over.
Author sad123 Posted April 27, 2005 Author Posted April 27, 2005 well, its not that we just broke up but we have broken up for a long time. He says that he wants to be friends but sometime I get the idea he doesnt...which i have no idea why. but oh well...i guess it's over. Thanks for your replies though! Especially LucreziaBorgia..you always reply to my posts!
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