lemonadekiwi Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Me and my bf have been planning our trip to Vegas for a long time. We went out the 3rd night, having been drinking all 3 days and nights so far. I was really drunk. I go to the toilet and we say to meet back where we were. I come back and he's not there. I walk round for ages trying to find him, text him. Still couldn't find him. I admit I got a bit annoyed. It was only us two out. I eventually find him, and he's sitting with this girl and they are in conversation. I walk up and he doesn't even get up, doesn't say anything to me and this girl pipes up "hi" I stormed off. sat somewhere else, he said something to her and came over to me. We ended up having a row. I feel awful for it. It's the first time I've done that over him talking to a girl but I was upset because I had to find him then I see this girl with him. Now he's being dramatic since, saying he can't talk to any girl which is rubbish as he has plenty of girl friends and ive never called him out on this before, and the holiday hasnt been the same. I've said sorry. What do I do?
xpaperxcutx Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Poor communication. Why are you apologizing to him? He shouldn't have left you to talk to another girl and didn't even respond to your texts. The both of you are in Vegas without other friends. Had you been really drunk, who knows what might've happened to you? 1
smackie9 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 I agree he was being disrespectful. I would go back at him and tell him it was upsetting that he didn't wait for you, and left you on your own, which is being neglectful. To add it was insulting that instead of making sure you were safe, he found it more important to wonder off to chat with a girl......that's a fail. It would be different if he stayed put and was chatting with a girl.....that's harmless. He owes YOU an apology not you. 2
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 He was free to talk to whomever but not to move far from where you were supposed to meet him. You need to talk & make that clear. It seems like a stupid drunken fight which can be over come.
katiegrl Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 (edited) I agree he was being disrespectful. I would go back at him and tell him it was upsetting that he didn't wait for you, and left you on your own, which is being neglectful. To add it was insulting that instead of making sure you were safe, he found it more important to wonder off to chat with a girl......that's a fail. It would be different if he stayed put and was chatting with a girl.....that's harmless. He owes YOU an apology not you. Absolutely HE owes YOU the apology! I love the way he *flipped the script"...and blamed YOU for being upset for the fact that HE behaved like a total asshat for essentially abandoning you to chat up another chick while you were on holiday! And that you are actually falling for it taking the blame. He is manipulating you....and no you do NOT owe him an apology. In fact, YOU should be furious that he left you to chat up another chick! Why are you not furious about that? Totally disrespectful! In what world do you live in that you believe what he did was even remotely acceptable? If it were me, I would tell him firmly that no you are not apologizing, you do not owe him an apology, that HE owes you the apology for leaving you while you were on holiday TOGETHER (not to meet others)...while he chats up another chick! Then walk out and don't speak to him until you get that apology! That is how you teach your boyfriend to RESPECT you....NOT by allowing him to twist things, and manipulate you into believing that him behaving like a douchebag was okay and then taking the blame for being upset about it. You had every right to be upset, most women would be upset and do NOT allow him to convince you otherwise. Manipulating douche!! I would never tolerate that crap....knowing me I would just walk. That way he is free to chat up whomever he wants ...whenever he wants. And you are free to meet a man who actually gives a crap. Edited June 7, 2015 by katiegrl
ExpatInItaly Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 I agree he was being disrespectful. I would go back at him and tell him it was upsetting that he didn't wait for you, and left you on your own, which is being neglectful. To add it was insulting that instead of making sure you were safe, he found it more important to wonder off to chat with a girl......that's a fail. It would be different if he stayed put and was chatting with a girl.....that's harmless. He owes YOU an apology not you. Totally agree, Smackie. This whole situation is ass-backwards. OP, you don't need to make anything up to him. He behaved inappropriately by just wandering off and then being unresponsive when you were looking for him. And then he had the cojones to turn it on you? How long have you been together, and has this type of gas-lighting happened before? 2
Vercetti Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Hey honey I want to take you on a trip to a city full of drunks, gamblers, and showgirls...you'll have a great time! Spending that money on anything else would be a waste. Why you mad I abandoned you in a dangerous predatory city while chatting with other women while on a trip with you?
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