Heatemyheart89 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 I was debating whether to go no contact with my ex( forever) and it seems I have been forced to. I got into some small talk on facebook, which ended up getting nasty and insults were thrown . I told him the truth as to why I feel he was a bad boyfriend and he said I was brutal and no one had ever made him feel that bad, he was glad I was out of his life. He had never had a proper girlfriend before me (25) but 'saw' girls and ended anything before it got serious. During our relationship he would kick up about doing normal bf things like calling me, letting me know about his life etc. His friends told him he needed to change but he didn't. He has now blocked me on everything , partly I feel relief but I also feel so bad. I feel guilty for telling the truth. I wanted us to get back together, I don't know why when I think about it. I feel quite sad it's ended on this note. But is is better we dislike each other/ he dislikes me?
StalwartMind Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 I wouldn't feel guilty about telling the truth. Often when people fight, their most inner evil side pops out, with the pure intent of hurting and often resulting in things being said that perhaps isn't meant. I'm sure some people feel great disliking people and things, for justified or unjustified reasons. I don't feel that it actually benefits you to do so. Rather end up being at peace with what happened eventually by accept it. If things are meant to be then they will happen, forcing results may gain you temporary success but it is more prone to collapsing at a later stage.
Mr Scorpio Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 While it hurts, I think it might be better that he dislikes you. Admittedly, I'm not familiar with: (1) who broke up with who or (2) the odds of reconciliation. Nevertheless, this way you should be less tempted to: (1) attempt a reconciliation that may likely fail (they seem to more often than not from what I've read here) or (2) hold out hope that you will reunite. Beyond that, I wouldn't feel guilty for telling the truth, so long as you did it in a factual tone ("you never asked how my day was, etc") and not in a purely insulting one "you're a rotten bastard". Keep healing.
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