mort Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Hello- I find myself in an interesting mental conflict and I am looking for suggestions. About eight years ago, before I was married, I was introduced to a young lady through some mutual friends. We hit it off, but never got together after that. We were both in and out of relationships at the time. About a year later, I got married and she eventually married about three years afterwards. We would occasionally see each other when our mutual friends would have get togethers and we would talk, see how things were going, etc. About a year and a half ago, she had a baby and when I first saw her with the baby, I am not sure how to explain it, but she had this wonderful aura about her. It was like she was almost a different person, more beautiful, vibrant, etc. Within the last year, she had gotten divorced; the guy was cheating on her. Since she has gotten divorced, I see her more often, mostly because she and my wife are good friends and we all hang out together. What I am struggling with is that we have so much in common and I feel this strong attraction to her. There are times throughout the day when this is all I can think of. When we are alone, I can feel the same attraction, or interest from her, but I do not know what to do. For now, I keep telling myself that she is a good friend, I would like to get to know her better and the best way to do it is to be a good friend. Who knows, in the long run, it may be better to have the good friendship than to try out a relationship and if it goes sour, it would affect any kind of relationship for the rest of our lives, not to mention my marriage. Any suggestions or comments?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Stick with the good friends suggestions. You will hurt many people if you try to pursue a relationship. The only problem is that you will always have an attraction toward her if you continue being her friend. Which isn't avoidable since she is good friends with your wife. Do you know if she shares this attraction? Plus if you were to start a relationship think of all the excess baggage YOUR picking up. A kid and an ex husband. If your life is going good now then stick with it. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. I'm sure its normal to have an attraction toward other when your married. Just try not to act upon them if many people will be hurt along the way. Good luck hunny.
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