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Phoe Established Member

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If you've got nothing to hide and want to be completely honest/have full disclosure, sending one fully clothed pic isn't a big deal IMO. Also, I've got news for you. Every guy, whether he sees a picture before hand, or sees you in person is judging you initially based on your body and the rest of your physical features. To claim that physical attraction should have no part at all in initial selection is living in denial Phoe. Also, I am really shocked you're so gunshy to be honest. With how into health/fitness you are, you should take pride in showcasing that hard work. ;)

 

I wasn't trying to "hide" anything but just wasn't particularly interested in interacting with men who might've written me off if I was 20-30 pounds heavier. Nor was I interested in being contacted by men who might see my body and feel inclined to send nasty messages. I can imagine my OLD experience might have been different if my large breasts were visible in photos. I quite intentionally put neck up only.

 

I wanted to be contacted by men who were interested in me due to personality, not by men who were interested in my body. The fact that I'm into fitness and health should just be a pleasant bonus, rather than a main factor.

 

While there's no denying that the effects working out has on my appearance are pleasant, working out is far more so about the mental effect it has on me. It creates a lot of positivity for me. I like the way I feel, WAY more than I like how I look.

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Cowboysnation Member

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well I don't have this issue because I don't have a body preference only a woman with a cute face.

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Heh, when I did OLD I didn't put a body pic, just one clear headshot.

 

I simply put "average". I didn't want to be judged based on my body. I figured I was better off by not being messaged by the men who would judge based on my body, or the men who assume lack of pic and "average" is code for "yep she's overweight".

 

The one man who asked for more pics before continuing to talk with me got politely declined and the talking ended there.

 

Either a man can trust that "average" literally means average and can meet me at least knowing my face and having talked to me, or he can move along.

 

I have always 100% refused to engage in being judged for my body when it comes to romantic prospects, and any exes who made unpleasant comments to me about my body got themselves permanently dug into some deep sh** for it.

 

Yea, I'm kind of similar. That's why I don't want to put my best pic up. At this point in life, I really don't want to be judged for my looks. I'm lenient with women's looks and I favor a similar mentality. If that means OLD is not for me, well then I guess that may be the case. We'll find out in 6 months. :p

 

I also see profiles of women who have their profiles pics which are really dolled up pics which I know are much better than what they really look like and feel kinda bad, because I know some guys are just gonna rip them apart. But then again, they're probably doing the same, so maybe I don't feel so bad.

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Yea, I'm kind of similar. That's why I don't want to put my best pic up. At this point in life, I really don't want to be judged for my looks. I'm lenient with women's looks and I favor a similar mentality. If that means OLD is not for me, well then I guess that may be the case. We'll find out in 6 months. :p

 

I also see profiles of women who have their profiles pics which are really dolled up pics which I know are much better than what they really look like and feel kinda bad, because I know some guys are just gonna rip them apart. But then again, they're probably doing the same, so maybe I don't feel so bad.

 

I thought about doing that so I can undersell myself but on the flip side it would take me forever to get a message. lol

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Phoe Established Member

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Yea, I'm kind of similar. That's why I don't want to put my best pic up. At this point in life, I really don't want to be judged for my looks. I'm lenient with women's looks and I favor a similar mentality. If that means OLD is not for me, well then I guess that may be the case. We'll find out in 6 months. :p

 

I also see profiles of women who have their profiles pics which are really dolled up pics which I know are much better than what they really look like and feel kinda bad, because I know some guys are just gonna rip them apart. But then again, they're probably doing the same, so maybe I don't feel so bad.

 

My OLD photo was just my everyday makeup, hair straight, super clear definition, brightly lit. I think I looked decent in it, and I looked like myself. Sure, I have pictures that I like better, but to me it was the most authentic.

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Im a heavy girl I have a face shot, and a body shot both dated, no cleavage at all, and I never msg I only reply. I'll show cleavage once asked out.

 

Ive never had an issue I don't msg so when I get a msg its usually from men who find me attractive this prob so wont work for guys.

 

When I first started OLD I had issues with many men showing up with rotted teeth now I just wont reply to men without 1 picture somehow showing teeth, a facial clear enough to see features and 1 body picture. Well thought out profiles usually have all of these and I haven't had issues with men not looking like their pics again.

 

I don't think girls photo shop but there are angles, lighting and stance methods to take better photos for example when you see a celeb walking a red carpet when it's time to do a stop and pose they will lift the chin, turn sideways slightly and very often cross the leg over the other as if taking a step to look more thinning, any experienced selfie taker has played with angles and lighting and that's prob what you're getting a picture selected out of maybe 50 shots they took playing with angles and they pick the best one, yes they really do this.

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I do believe ff is a fitness snob! Lol. :bunny::bunny::bunny::eek:

 

Hahahaha.. This made me laugh! :D

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Hahahaha.. This made me laugh! :D

 

Good it was meant to! :p:lmao:

Omei Established Member

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btw I ment I don't think all girls Photoshop obvy im sure there's some here and there.

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An accurate photo is an easy way to weed out people who can't accept your physique. Why do these women want to waste their own time?

 

 

I'm half tempted to put a worse-looking photo up there lol.

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I look like my pics. I am thin in my pics and thin in real life. What I do see, though, is men who do photo trickery with things like very dimly lit, dark pictures (why?), pictures taken from a far distance away, and every picture wearing a hat/cap. They do post very clear pictures of their motorcycles, dogs and cars though.

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I look like my pics. I am thin in my pics and thin in real life. What I do see, though, is men who do photo trickery with things like very dimly lit, dark pictures (why?), pictures taken from a far distance away, and every picture wearing a hat/cap. They do post very clear pictures of their motorcycles, dogs and cars though.

 

I have thinning hair and never posted a picture with a hat. lol I decided to feature my thinning hair in my profile so it won't be any surprises

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I have thinning hair and never posted a picture with a hat. lol I decided to feature my thinning hair in my profile so it won't be any surprises

 

No one wants surprises. Honesty is appreciated.

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No one wants surprises. Honesty is appreciated.

 

Yeah I don't see the point of hiding something that someone will notice as soon as they see you.

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Popsicle Established Member

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Part of this is because guys suck at taking pictures. I know I do. Not only that, but I don't like taking pics of myself, but I love my car. You'll find better pics of my car on my Facebook than you will pics of me. My best pics online are the ones that my GF takes. I know I had crappy pics when I used OLD. That's what happens when you don't take 50 pics from different angles and then adjust the filters on your camera phone to get rid of any blemishes. Every woman I know does that.

 

I don't, but of course, you don't know me....

 

I suck at taking pics too, but it must be done if you're going to OLD, right? (and yes I'm talking about men too)

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"Please, no fatties"

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Most women who have a nice rack will show it off and have np display photos in their profile.....the ones who don't just avoid them.

 

Not true... I have what's considered by most to be a nice rack (I'm a UK size 10 but DDs) and I would feel really uncomfortable ever posting a photo where my boobs were clearly the object of attention. I don't mind a hint of cleavage if the clothing happens to fall that way but I'd never walk around with more than that on show. No judgment to women that do, just to me it feels really weirdly intimate to be displaying and kinda inappropriate cos I know when I'm talking to a woman (as a straight chick) and her boobs are obviously pushed together and as exposed as possible, it's so distracting and awkward not to find yourself glancing at them so I can't imagine how annoying it is as a straight guy!

 

I think there are a lot of women like that. Most of my friends have similar builds/bra sizes and would probably think it was seriously trashy if we took a picture for OLD that focused on our breasts.

 

As for the original point, re heavier women misrepresenting themselves online, it's lying. I would expect a recent full body shot before I went out with someone (inc guys) unless their photos clearly showed they were slim, and if I met with someone who misrepresented themselves I'd probably leave pretty quickly and if they asked why later, tell them. Its not even the weight, I went on a couple dates with one guy who was actually morbidly obese but tall and a really great person and I admit, I wasn't into him (if his personality had clicked I could have looked past it but we were just more friendly vibe) but his weight didn't stop me meeting. If he had portrayed himself as being slim and then really wasn't, I would feel misled.

 

Ask for full body shots, only the women with something to hide would refuse or be offended and no loss in that case if you don't want to meet heavier women.

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A hole above ⚠ cough cough

I vote that ff snob ? just kidding g hon asks Phoenix out love how she kind of put him In his

Place.

As for me never been happier since I stopped using online websites Including FB for meeting people or talking to them.

This site is something else....

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I've been there... I remember a couple years ago going on a mid morning date with this girl whom I thought was out of my league. Alot younger, beautiful hair/eyes, and the pictures didn't look bad at all. She looked "chubby" but like you, I like that in all the right places and thats what her pictures looked like.

 

I pulled into the parking lot just as I saw her walking towards the entrance. I said to myself "holy ****, thats her!" She was so damn fat, I didn't want to think it was the same person, and I didn't really want to be seen with her either. Part of me wanted to just continue driving out of the parking lot, and then the other part of me felt what would it hurt just to sit down and talk, which I did. Sitting across the table from her, I could see how clever she was taking those pictures. Her face WAS really pretty, I wanted to ask her how the hell she managed to take those pictures and hide the rest of her in such a way that you could see it, yet not see it.

 

Let me know when you find the answer.

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This happens to ladies as well. The guy says he is well-built and then turns out to be 280 lbs !

 

As katiegirl says, the only answer is to make the first meeting a daytime coffee date with something to go onto afterwards. If you like each other you can always make another date for another time.

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Not true... I have what's considered by most to be a nice rack (I'm a UK size 10 but DDs) and I would feel really uncomfortable ever posting a photo where my boobs were clearly the object of attention. I don't mind a hint of cleavage if the clothing happens to fall that way but I'd never walk around with more than that on show. No judgment to women that do, just to me it feels really weirdly intimate to be displaying and kinda inappropriate cos I know when I'm talking to a woman (as a straight chick) and her boobs are obviously pushed together and as exposed as possible, it's so distracting and awkward not to find yourself glancing at them so I can't imagine how annoying it is as a straight guy!

 

I think there are a lot of women like that. Most of my friends have similar builds/bra sizes and would probably think it was seriously trashy if we took a picture for OLD that focused on our breasts.

 

Ditto to that, I'm a UK'er a size 8 with DD's and I never post up boob shots either.

 

I know of one woman who used OLD who photo shopped her double chin out and it was quite a shock meeting her at a meet up that a few of us had.

She looked nothing like her pics.

 

Men also have pics up that don't represent themselves though.

I've had guys tell me that they are a 32 waist - perfectly legitimately even - but then you find they do their trousers up underneath their 50 inch belly....

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Yeah I don't see the point of hiding something that someone will notice as soon as they see you.

I also didn't get why so many guys lie about their age. Do they think a normal woman is going to simply overlook it when she finds out? No, they're just so insecure that they think their only hope of getting a woman to meet them is to reel her in with fake bait (lies). Pretty sad, but it's clear to me now that most people on dating sites fall into this category.

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I also didn't get why so many guys lie about their age. Do they think a normal woman is going to simply overlook it when she finds out? No, they're just so insecure that they think their only hope of getting a woman to meet them is to reel her in with fake bait (lies). Pretty sad, but it's clear to me now that most people on dating sites fall into this category.

 

How many years are we talking when you discovered they lied about their age?

GemmaUK Established Member

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How many years are we talking when you discovered they lied about their age?

 

Just to chime in here but usually it's around 10-15 years knocked off their age in my experience.

I did chat with one guy though who said he was 40 and later in mails confessed he was 72 and had posted old photos up.

I was 39 at the time. He got very narky with me when I told him I wasn't willing to meet him.

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Now you're just splittin' hairs. Yes, hiking is an exorcise, just low-impact. :-)

 

Have any of you ever hiked a 14er?!?

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