OLD Photo trickery / heavyset women

June 7, 2015

All the full body pics I come across online always make a woman look at least 8-10 sizes smaller than she actually is. Are they starting to offer college courses in photo trickery for heavyset women that use OLD?

I'm able to see the humor and irony since I'm passionate about fitness and a personal trainer. But after awhile it does get frustrating when 85% of the women I meet from OLD wind up being size 18-24. I mean these are all women who claim to be "athletic", "curvy", and heavily into fitness. It's funny because my ideal woman physically would be a size 10-12 carrying 15-20 extra lbs of boobs, hips, and ass in a healthy way. But huge difference between that and obese.

Is there a somewhat polite and tactful way to take precaution? When I try to ask for a recent full body pic before meeting, a woman either gets offended because she thinks it's sexually motivated or it's more of the same photo trickery. So aside from asking for a woman's dress size straight out, I am at a loss at what to do.

June 7, 2015

ff....I don't know if there is anything you can do, other than make the first meet (sorry, I know you don't like to call it a meet)...real short... like a 15 minute coffee or something.

That way, at least you are not obligated to spend a lot of time with her....if you find she lied and is not who she claimed to be (weight wise).

That is all I got....sorry!

June 7, 2015

Video Skype.

June 7, 2015

If I arranged a date and turned up to find she was much bigger than she claimed/lead on I'd walk off after explaining to her why.

June 7, 2015

Most women who have a nice rack will show it off and have np display photos in their profile.....the ones who don't just avoid them.

June 7, 2015

I know what you mean, makes no sense and its not like you won't find out eventually if you go to meet them.

June 7, 2015

I was always suspicious when women only posted chest up photo's or only head shots. I learned early on to not meet anyone with just those photos. This one gal had a nice chest, pretty face, great teeth and marked "athletic and toned"..

She walked in and I about $hit myself. She had a large ass and thighs and clearly hid those from her profile. I wasn't there more than a drink..

After that, I had no problem asking women why they didn't have any full length photo's on the site. Hell, women expected me to have them. Some would get pissed about it (cause they were probably heavy) and they were disqualified while others didn't realize they should have them and understood why. I was lucky in that all the time I dated, most women I met didn't miss-represent themselves. Most looked like their photos.

June 7, 2015

I was always suspicious when women only posted chest up photo's or only head shots. I learned early on to not meet anyone with just those photos. This one gal had a nice chest, pretty face, great teeth and marked "athletic and toned"..

She walked in and I about $hit myself. She had a large ass and thighs and clearly hid those from her profile. I wasn't there more than a drink..

After that, I had no problem asking women why they didn't have any full length photo's on the site. Hell, women expected me to have them. Some would get pissed about it (cause they were probably heavy) and they were disqualified while others didn't realize they should have them and understood why. I was lucky in that all the time I dated, most women I met didn't miss-represent themselves. Most looked like their photos.

Yeah but what about the chicks who DO post full body..but photoshop to make them look thinner?

That is what is happening with ff.

I think it might be easier to just meet real quick and walk out if she misrepresented herself...rather than Skype though.

Skyping comes later after you've been dating awhile .....IMO anyway. If at all. Many people don't have access to Skype anyway

June 7, 2015

Yeah but what about the chicks who DO post full body..but photoshop to make them look thinner?

Thankfully I never experienced that!

I think it might be easier to just meet real quick and walk out if she misrepresented herself...rather than Skype though.

Skyping comes later after you've been dating awhile .....IMO anyway. If at all. Many people don't have access to Skype anyway

I wouldn't be HAPPY at all if a girl posted pictures of herself and photo shopped them to look thinner, just like if she posted pictures of herself that were when she was 30lbs lighter.

I did meet one girl who did miss-represent herself with an old photo. She was short and at least 20lbs heavier than her pictures. I met her for lunch cuz I was suspicious. I ended up eating a sandwich then leaving 45 minutes later. She texted me 20 minutes after I got home asking what I thought about the date. I was honest and told her I didn't feel a connection. She texted over a naked picture of herself (again, 20+lbs lighter) and said I'll never get to have her body!

Un-believable!

June 7, 2015

Thankfully I never experienced that!

I wouldn't be HAPPY at all if a girl posted pictures of herself and photo shopped them to look thinner, just like if she posted pictures of herself that were when she was 30lbs lighter.

I did meet one girl who did miss-represent herself with an old photo. She was short and at least 20lbs heavier than her pictures. I met her for lunch cuz I was suspicious. I ended up eating a sandwich then leaving 45 minutes later. She texted me 20 minutes after I got home asking what I thought about the date. I was honest and told her I didn't feel a connection. She texted over a naked picture of herself (again, 20+lbs lighter) and said I'll never get to have her body!

Un-believable!

Did you post about that experience? I think I remember reading that!!

I know unbelievable is putting it mildly! Some people are just whacked....that is the only explanation! Lol

June 7, 2015

I just deleted my one OLD account because 95% of the men I met on the site misrepresented their appearance, weight, and age, whereas my profile was 100% true and accurate. Today I went on a date with a man I met elsewhere, and it was the best date I've had in years. We had such a good time that we're going out again tomorrow, to the beach

June 7, 2015

Heh, when I did OLD I didn't put a body pic, just one clear headshot.

I simply put "average". I didn't want to be judged based on my body. I figured I was better off by not being messaged by the men who would judge based on my body, or the men who assume lack of pic and "average" is code for "yep she's overweight".

The one man who asked for more pics before continuing to talk with me got politely declined and the talking ended there.

Either a man can trust that "average" literally means average and can meet me at least knowing my face and having talked to me, or he can move along.

I have always 100% refused to engage in being judged for my body when it comes to romantic prospects, and any exes who made unpleasant comments to me about my body got themselves permanently dug into some deep sh** for it.

June 7, 2015

I know what you mean.... the duck pictures are outa control!

All you can do is meet more women. Most of your time in online dating is wasted, it's the endless search for a needle in a haystack.

The good news is, you only need to find one good one.

June 7, 2015

It's funny because I prefer curvy women. But "curvy" is a gamble with OLD because heavyset women in denial describe themselves that way online.

Also, I want to say for the record that hiking IS NOT REAL EXERCISE. Are you moving? Yes. Does it get your heart rate up a little? Sure. But it's mainly for the scenery. One common trend with all these "fit" women that I encounter is that their only form of exercise winds up being hiking.

So buzz words to watch out for "curvy" and "hiking".

June 7, 2015

I got in contact with this new man a couple of days ago. He told me I am one of the few women online that has several head to toe pictures in her profile.

Him and I met this afternoon, after 5 minutes he told me: I am so happy you look exactly like your pictures!! You wouldn't believe how many times I've been fooled.

I don't understand these women. Just show yourself as you are and someone will like you just the way you are.

FF: Ask them to send you selfies. Make it a game. If she gets self conscious then drop her. The man I met today had asked me yesterday morning if I send him a picture of how I dressed for work that morning. I'm not stupid, I knew it was his way to request a recent picture and I played along and sent it to him.

Now that being said: it's not women's monopole to cheat on their profile. I have met my share of men with big gut and they didn't have any on their online pictures.

June 7, 2015

Heh, when I did OLD I didn't put a body pic, just one clear headshot.

I simply put "average". I didn't want to be judged based on my body. I figured I was better off by not being messaged by the men who would judge based on my body, or the men who assume lack of pic and "average" is code for "yep she's overweight".

The one man who asked for more pics before continuing to talk with me got politely declined and the talking ended there.

Either a man can trust that "average" literally means average and can meet me at least knowing my face and having talked to me, or he can move along.

I have always 100% refused to engage in being judged for my body when it comes to romantic prospects, and any exes who made unpleasant comments to me about my body got themselves permanently dug into some deep sh** for it.

In all fairness though, it's not like IRL where a guy can see what you look like. It's online where it's all based on personal perception and photographs which can mispresent.

If you've got nothing to hide and want to be completely honest/have full disclosure, sending one fully clothed pic isn't a big deal IMO. Also, I've got news for you. Every guy, whether he sees a picture before hand, or sees you in person is judging you initially based on your body and the rest of your physical features. To claim that physical attraction should have no part at all in initial selection is living in denial Phoe. Also, I am really shocked you're so gunshy to be honest. With how into health/fitness you are, you should take pride in showcasing that hard work.

FF: Ask them to send you selfies. Make it a game. If she gets self conscious then drop her. The man I met today had asked me yesterday morning if I send him a picture of how I dressed for work that morning. I'm not stupid, I knew it was his way to request a recent picture and I played along and sent it to him. .

That's the problem though. Most women I meet do send me full body selfies before hand, and they don't accurately represent what they look like in person.

June 7, 2015

A lot of women have some kind of body shot, it doesn't have to be sexual in nature of course so I don't see the problem with a fully clothed woman having a picture of herself online...but I do understand the harassment that can occur over the slightest boob curve or cleavage.

"Curvy" has been abused for a long time in OLD, you can no longer trust that word. In fact anything in the profile has to be taken suspiciously, but that's just the nature of online dating.

If you just see head shots, it's not your fault for being suspicious, lots of women do take those "ideal" head shots and then post them in their profile and other places on the internet, where they look the thinnest and prettiest making it hard to determine what they would look like IRL. I've seen plenty of situations where a woman posted 3 photos and I didn't even recognize them as the same person.

Lots of women though post a variety of pictures, I'd just stick with the ones that give you a better idea of what you're going to meet or just ask them for pictures directly.

If you're looking for really quick dates though and just asking for quick photos without having any kind of conversation or anything like that...I wouldn't expect them to send them out like candy, and if you're in a hurry you're going to have to take your chances.

You sound new to OLD though, cause this ****z been going on for a loooong time now.

June 7, 2015

I tried OLD once (if you consider POF). This was before I lost about 35 lbs. a couple of years ago. I met a guy and I was honest with my pictures and description from the get go. He was all that's fine and let's meet up. He was STILL an ******* to me the entire date after he saw me. Wouldn't even pay for the date, and tried to get me to have sex with him after. He then texted me and said "You're not my type."

After that date I was so horrified that it encouraged me to work out and diet, and when I saw him months later with my weight loss he tried to pursue me. I was like "Yeah, eff you buddy!"

I no longer wish to engage in OLD after that experience. I would rather go out and endure the awkward small talk when you meet someone for the first time at a get together or bar, than to talk to someone for days or weeks and then meet them in person and be disappointed by their behavior. To be honest, that guy wasn't even as cute as his pictures suggested either. Sometimes, it really IS hard to figure out how others will perceive you in person from your pictures. I think a lot of people look different IRL (not just with weight) from pics. I even read an article one time that said there was scientific proof that some cameras make you look slightly different.

I won't criticize people who use OLD, but it took that one bad experience for me to be done with it. I also find it so much more rewarding and flattering to meet someone IRL and accept you for you, in the flesh right there in front of them. Sort of cuts out a lot of headaches.

June 7, 2015

All the full body pics I come across online always make a woman look at least 8-10 sizes smaller than she actually is. Are they starting to offer college courses in photo trickery for heavyset women that use OLD?

I'm able to see the humor and irony since I'm passionate about fitness and a personal trainer. But after awhile it does get frustrating when 85% of the women I meet from OLD wind up being size 18-24. I mean these are all women who claim to be "athletic", "curvy", and heavily into fitness. It's funny because my ideal woman physically would be a size 10-12 carrying 15-20 extra lbs of boobs, hips, and ass in a healthy way. But huge difference between that and obese.

Is there a somewhat polite and tactful way to take precaution? When I try to ask for a recent full body pic before meeting, a woman either gets offended because she thinks it's sexually motivated or it's more of the same photo trickery. So aside from asking for a woman's dress size straight out, I am at a loss at what to do.

If they send you full body pics and it is trickery then there isn't much you can do besides actually meet them and see for yourself.

Unless you ask them to send you a live video of themselves walking or something....

June 7, 2015

It's funny because I prefer curvy women. But "curvy" is a gamble with OLD because heavyset women in denial describe themselves that way online.

Also, I want to say for the record that hiking IS NOT REAL EXERCISE. Are you moving? Yes. Does it get your heart rate up a little? Sure. But it's mainly for the scenery. One common trend with all these "fit" women that I encounter is that their only form of exercise winds up being hiking.

So buzz words to watch out for "curvy" and "hiking".

It is not weird or funny that you like curvy....it is perfectly normal and natural to prefer curvy over skinny.. ..most men do!

I do take issue though with your assertion that hiking is not exercise. OMG of course it's exercise...hiking up a mountain are you kidding me?

No it is not the same as what you might do at a gym, but hell hiking tones your butt, legs, tummy, abs...yes most people hike to experience the beauty of the mountain and outdoors but it's still a form of exercise....

June 7, 2015

It's funny because I prefer curvy women. But "curvy" is a gamble with OLD because heavyset women in denial describe themselves that way online.

Also, I want to say for the record that hiking IS NOT REAL EXERCISE. Are you moving? Yes. Does it get your heart rate up a little? Sure. But it's mainly for the scenery. One common trend with all these "fit" women that I encounter is that their only form of exercise winds up being hiking.

So buzz words to watch out for "curvy" and "hiking".

I'd consider real hiking to be exercise for sure. But yeah in my experience those Women just put it so it looks like they exercise when they really don't.

June 7, 2015

Just Google "MySpace Angle Shots" (should still be around, even though MySpace is gone bye-bye)

I like it when a heavy set woman puts all 7 photos on OK cupid, and it's her face all scrunched up in there. It's like they even crop out the double chin.

All the full body pics I come across online always make a woman look at least 8-10 sizes smaller than she actually is. Are they starting to offer college courses in photo trickery for heavyset women that use OLD?

I'm able to see the humor and irony since I'm passionate about fitness and a personal trainer. But after awhile it does get frustrating when 85% of the women I meet from OLD wind up being size 18-24. I mean these are all women who claim to be "athletic", "curvy", and heavily into fitness. It's funny because my ideal woman physically would be a size 10-12 carrying 15-20 extra lbs of boobs, hips, and ass in a healthy way. But huge difference between that and obese.

Is there a somewhat polite and tactful way to take precaution? When I try to ask for a recent full body pic before meeting, a woman either gets offended because she thinks it's sexually motivated or it's more of the same photo trickery. So aside from asking for a woman's dress size straight out, I am at a loss at what to do.

June 7, 2015

It is not weird or funny that you like curvy....it is perfectly normal and natural to prefer curvy over skinny.. ..most men do!

I do take issue though with your assertion that hiking is not exercise. OMG of course it's exercise...hiking up a mountain are you kidding me?

No it is not the same as what you might do at a gym, but hell hiking tones your butt, legs, tummy, abs...yes most people hike to experience the beauty of the mountain and outdoors but it's still a form of exercise....

It is true there are hiking spots with massive inclines. But when I've talked to local women and they say where they like to "hike", it's mainly low incline terrain with good scenery.

But if we're talking 25-40 incline terrain on a consistent trek, then I'll agree that form of hiking is exercise.

June 7, 2015

It is true there are hiking spots with massive inclines. But when I've talked to local women and they say where they like to "hike", it's mainly low incline terrain with good scenery.

But if we're talking 25-40 incline terrain on a consistent trek, then I'll agree that form of hiking is exercise.

Now you're just splittin' hairs. Yes, hiking is an exorcise, just low-impact. :-)

June 7, 2015

Now you're just splittin' hairs. Yes, hiking is an exorcise, just low-impact. :-)

I do believe ff is a fitness snob! Lol. :bunny:

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