Author treznik Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 You're a fool, not for not moving in with her but for letting it get to the point she dumped you. She made you out for a fool, she was right because you think it's your fault in the end. She manipulated you, but she's doing you the favor that you should be given yourself a long time ago and that was leave her... Of course im blaming myself... Looks like i was not a man enough for her - reason for the lack of attraction and therefore the lack of sex... She is almost 28 so i kinda understand her disappointment when she found out im not considering her to move in with me. Everyone in her family expected me to do so. I know that was not bulls*it or excuse. I have a feeling deep down that I fu*cked up, but at the same time she didnt communicate with me - was quiet and her resentment built. maybe thats part of the reason she didnt want to have sex. What do you mean about manipulating me? How?
Author treznik Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Can i get more responses/opinions please? tnx to everyone who did that already...
sandylee1 Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 Can i get more responses/opinions please? tnx to everyone who did that already... I think the breakup is for the best . You both need to find more compatible partners to be happy with. It seems you both didn't click and that's just life sometimes. Time to move on.
Phoenician Posted June 9, 2015 Posted June 9, 2015 What does LD mean? Tnx for replies, i hope ill see more of them! LD is a low desire person to an extent that they would tell you go ahead continue your intercourse while they are watching an episode of turkish or hindi series. they never masturbate. They never enjoy satisfying really their partner . they prefer always vanilla . and finally if they can do sex in a night they even claim that their hands hurts too.
Heracles Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 You're a fool, not for not moving in with her but for letting it get to the point she dumped you. She made you out for a fool, she was right because you think it's your fault in the end. She manipulated you, but she's doing you the favor that you should be given yourself a long time ago and that was leave her...now you will probably chase after her degrading yourself even further. Have some self- respect and salvage any dignity you have left by simply walking away rather than falling for thus trick...nothing would've gotten you more sex at the end of the day, she is in it for nearly every woman out there is in it for...commitment, if it wasn't for that she'd have no interest in you whatsoever. To add to this, and in response to the OP, your sole purpose in all of this was to serve as a beta provider. She was reaching a certain age, felt the clock ticking, saw you and probably thought: «I need to hurry up and find somebody to have children with. I don't have much time left. I guess he will do.» She was playing you from the start. Her behaviour as you have described it demonstrate that has no respect for you. NONE. I cannot recall any couple where a woman desired sexually a man that she did not respect. She had sex with you just enough to keep you around and probably ramped up the sex to get you to think : «Oh my ! The sex is so good, plus i love her; I am going to ask her to move in with me. Lets get married, have children and live happily ever after.» When you did not have the expected reaction, she decided to change tactics and withhold sex. Maybe that would frustrate you and drive you crazy enough to want to do anything to appease her meaning: ask her to move in etc. Anyways all the details and reason does not matter. I hate to tell you this but I don't think she ever loved you or cared about you. She found every excuse to avoid being with you in situations that could potentially lead to sex, which means: She didn't want to have sex with you. It was probably a chore for her. It probably has nothing to do with your skills or inexperience either. She did not desire you sexually. If you manage to learn a few lessons and gain some understanding about male - female relationship dynamics, you will improve your quality of life. Most of all, you need to get some self respect man! Seriously, you tolerate to much bull*****. If you are not willing to walk away when disrespected, things like this will always happen.
mystikmind2005 Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 So your sex life (or lack thereof) is basically conducted in your boyhood bed at your parent's house? I don't understand how that could not be a huge aphrodisiac for her. Secondly, you say you're inexperienced sexually. Sorry, but it probably just sucks for her and she's avoiding it any way she can. You said it yourself - after the first time she was falling all over herself trying to find excuses to avoid it after that. That's your CUE that you need to get some education on how to please a woman and for the love of God, don't get it watching ignorant porn. There is actually allot of great porn that can teach you allot, but how to find it in the haystack of garbage is a different question! Tantric and Yoni massage is something i learnt this year, very well received by my girlfriend by the way and i found the video on YouPorn. So long as you type in the right search term it is amazing what you can find.
Author treznik Posted June 11, 2015 Author Posted June 11, 2015 To add to this, and in response to the OP, your sole purpose in all of this was to serve as a beta provider. She was reaching a certain age, felt the clock ticking, saw you and probably thought: «I need to hurry up and find somebody to have children with. I don't have much time left. I guess he will do.» She was playing you from the start. Dont know what to think about this. I was UNEMPLOYED when we met and she knew it from the 1st date... I got a job like few months later... 1
autumnnight Posted June 11, 2015 Posted June 11, 2015 Dont know what to think about this. I was UNEMPLOYED when we met and she knew it from the 1st date... I got a job like few months later... treznik, "be a better partner/lover" and "be an alpha" are the 2 little stock answer boxes everyone who has no clue what a sexless relattionship is like throw out as the cure-all. Women typically harp on how perfect you have been to her. Men tell you to get aggressive and beat your chest. In the real world of sexless relationships, it is much more complex, and to be honest, it really - after a point - isn't on the shoulders of the person who wants sex (which is normal btw). It is on the shoulders of the selfish person who won't meet the most intimate need of their partner. 1
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