Fitgirl2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 This member of the gym where I work acts like he likes me. He flirts with me, opens up to me, stares at me always seeks me out & asks the front desk girls for me. I was in my office one time On the phone & didn't see him but everyone saw him trying to get my attention by jumping up and down, kicking his leg waving him arms ect. I told him one time that I love chocolate and since then he's surprised me with chocolate 3 times now, once was chocolate from another country when he was on a trip. Couple of weeks ago he asked the front desk girl to get me and from there he got his friend to ask tons of questions about me and was talking this guy up. I even asked the friend how he was and he just said "fine but John over here is the interesting one" it felt like a wingman deal. Everyone thinks he likes me & says he looks at me differently. He gets in my space, comes up to me, winks, touches the small of my back ect. He's always excited to see me. He ONLY behaves that way with me & the other front desk girls are 100% convinced he likes me. He's single btw. My friend who works at the gym told him me & her want to celebrate his birthday with him by grabbing drinks. He loved this idea but wants to do more than drinks his idea is to take us out for a really nice dinner & he wants to wear a suit bc he told my friend that he looks good in one. He knows an expensive place he can get us into. So he came up to me a couple times asking when are we hanging out? We decide on last Saturday & the days leading up to that he was super flirting he would show me pics with kids and cute animals. He said he's great with kids and they love him & How he'll make a good father. Halfway through the week he had to schedule back surgery and we had to cancel the dinner he was planning. He was out of the gym for two weeks & he came back yesterday. He came up to us saying "So my doctor said I can't come to the gym for 3weeks but I told her there are these girls at the gym who probablt really miss me and I have to see them lol" we joked around after that. Then he worked out. Right before he left he came up to me and said "So how was it here without me, did ya miss me was the vibe different, it was boring wasn't it? HE was babbling. I joked and said yes it was boring it sucked and i think you should come everyday and we laughed and he got really excited and started being funny and showing off and being cutesy. His friend comes over and we all start talking and laughing then his friend says something about Seinfeld and how he thought about setting him up with a girl like Elaine and how disastrous that would be lol. The guy I liked then said no I'm so done with all the women here. I'm going to have to go to a third world country and save a girl in need if I want a wife" I said "I'm sure you can find someone here" he said "no Im done with all women in NYC they suck and don't want me" I said "all women" he said yes they're all crazy here and then he looked at me and said sorry but they are and then elevator came and they left. HUH?! He's done? With me too? What was all that?
katiegrl Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 His doctor told him he can't go to the gym for three weeks? I hope that doctor is a psychiatrist cause frankly he sounds a bit whacked. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 His doctor told him he can't go to the gym for three weeks? I hope that doctor is a psychiatrist cause frankly he sounds a bit whacked. Was just wondering the same thing... I'd think with back surgery he'd be out a heck of a lot longer than a month or so. Sounds a bit off to me.
katiegrl Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Was just wondering the same thing... I'd think with back surgery he'd be out a heck of a lot longer than a month or so. Sounds a bit off to me. Not only that but he ended up working out! Suffice it to say he did not have back surgery......
ExpatInItaly Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Not only that but he ended up working out! Suffice it to say he did not have back surgery...... Precisely. OP, I wouldn't get involved with this guy. Clearly he postponed the dinner and then was gone/will be gone for some other reason he doesn't want to share.
Author Fitgirl2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 No guys I can see where you think that but he did it was a minor procedure and his Instagram posts talking to his guy friends about it proves it. Trust me he didn't lie, it WAS NOT an excuse. His trainer at the gym was talking about it with him. I over heard them so please stop.
Lois_Griffin Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Quite honestly, he sounds like a social misfit. Over-eager, socially awkward, and extremely immature.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 No guys I can see where you think that but he did it was a minor procedure and his Instagram posts talking to his guy friends about it proves it. Trust me he didn't lie, it WAS NOT an excuse. His trainer at the gym was talking about it with him. I over heard them so please stop. Why can't he work out again for another three weeks? If he worked out when he visited, I don't see why he can't again for a while. Anyway. He still sounds odd. How old is he? The comment about being done with all women and then just leaving would put me off. I wouldn't bother. If he wanted to see you again, he'd have set up another time now that this back procedure is finished. Him not being at the gym for another few weeks shouldn't exclude re-arranging dinner. Either that or he likes playing strange cat-and-mouse games.
katiegrl Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 No guys I can see where you think that but he did it was a minor procedure and his Instagram posts talking to his guy friends about it proves it. Trust me he didn't lie, it WAS NOT an excuse. His trainer at the gym was talking about it with him. I over heard them so please stop. Okay so he did have back surgery. So what? He STILL sounds whacked. You can't see it? It's clear as day to me. What exactly do you like about him? Has he asked you out? If not, then he is playing you..... Sorry.
fitnessfan365 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Him showing pictures of himself with kids/animals, saying he'd make a good father, etc is kind of weird. Especially since you two have never even had one date. Also, him jumping up/down, waving his arms, etc to get your attention sounds a bit over the top. Plus bringing you chocolate, etc. It would be on thing if you were his girlfriend. But a romantic gesture towards a complete stranger? Not to mention getting in your space and being overly touchy at your work. Don't get me wrong. As a guy I am all for being confident, approaching, and going after a woman I want. But this guy sounds off and a bit on the desperate side. Guys with standards that are well adjusted, don't come on over the top strong with a woman they haven't even gone out yet.
katiegrl Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Him showing pictures of himself with kids/animals, saying he'd make a good father, etc is kind of weird. Especially since you two have never even had one date. Also, him jumping up/down, waving his arms, etc to get your attention sounds a bit over the top. Plus bringing you chocolate, etc. It would be on thing if you were his girlfriend. But a romantic gesture towards a complete stranger? Not to mention getting in your space and being overly touchy at your work. Don't get me wrong. As a guy I am all for being confident, approaching, and going after a woman I want. But this guy sounds off and a bit on the desperate side. Guys with standards that are well adjusted, don't come on over the top strong with a woman they haven't even gone out yet. Thank you fitnessfan....you just explained to a tee what I meant by *whacked*. But you forgot to mention after doing all the above..he suddenly switches gears and wants nothing to do with any of the chicks in the city....which I would venture to guess means Fitgirl as well... Screwy....
devilish innocent Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I find it odd that he hasn't asked you out on a one-on-one date by now. Everything else seems to point to his interest, except for that one thing. It makes me wonder if he's afraid there hasn't been enough interest on your part. Up until the very end of your last conversation, it sounded as though he was complaining that girls were never interested in him. Then it seemed like he might be saying you were too odd for him. Since it's just one comment, it may have come off the wrong way. I'd try to joke with him about it next time you see him, and then see how he responds.
katiegrl Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Just wanted more responses that's all. More opinions the better I can get a more comprehensive majority. Okay, I am not a man, but why not ask him out? I think a guy did suggest that perhaps he does not think you are interested in him? Could that be possible? I dunno, don't make it sound like a formal date or anything.... something low key and casual, like say, hey Xxxxxx, feel like grabbing a bite to eat with me after I get off work? That type of low key approach always worked for me. Just a suggestion since he is so hard to read....his behavior quite puzzling.
Redhead14 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 This member of the gym where I work acts like he likes me. He flirts with me, opens up to me, stares at me always seeks me out & asks the front desk girls for me. I was in my office one time On the phone & didn't see him but everyone saw him trying to get my attention by jumping up and down, kicking his leg waving him arms ect. I told him one time that I love chocolate and since then he's surprised me with chocolate 3 times now, once was chocolate from another country when he was on a trip. Couple of weeks ago he asked the front desk girl to get me and from there he got his friend to ask tons of questions about me and was talking this guy up. I even asked the friend how he was and he just said "fine but John over here is the interesting one" it felt like a wingman deal. Everyone thinks he likes me & says he looks at me differently. He gets in my space, comes up to me, winks, touches the small of my back ect. He's always excited to see me. He ONLY behaves that way with me & the other front desk girls are 100% convinced he likes me. He's single btw. My friend who works at the gym told him me & her want to celebrate his birthday with him by grabbing drinks. He loved this idea but wants to do more than drinks his idea is to take us out for a really nice dinner & he wants to wear a suit bc he told my friend that he looks good in one. He knows an expensive place he can get us into. So he came up to me a couple times asking when are we hanging out? We decide on last Saturday & the days leading up to that he was super flirting he would show me pics with kids and cute animals. He said he's great with kids and they love him & How he'll make a good father. Halfway through the week he had to schedule back surgery and we had to cancel the dinner he was planning. He was out of the gym for two weeks & he came back yesterday. He came up to us saying "So my doctor said I can't come to the gym for 3weeks but I told her there are these girls at the gym who probablt really miss me and I have to see them lol" we joked around after that. Then he worked out. Right before he left he came up to me and said "So how was it here without me, did ya miss me was the vibe different, it was boring wasn't it? HE was babbling. I joked and said yes it was boring it sucked and i think you should come everyday and we laughed and he got really excited and started being funny and showing off and being cutesy. His friend comes over and we all start talking and laughing then his friend says something about Seinfeld and how he thought about setting him up with a girl like Elaine and how disastrous that would be lol. The guy I liked then said no I'm so done with all the women here. I'm going to have to go to a third world country and save a girl in need if I want a wife" I said "I'm sure you can find someone here" he said "no Im done with all women in NYC they suck and don't want me" I said "all women" he said yes they're all crazy here and then he looked at me and said sorry but they are and then elevator came and they left. HUH?! He's done? With me too? What was all that? He just likes to flirt with woman and enjoys the attention but doesn't really want to date them. Halfway through the week he had to schedule back surgery and we had to cancel the dinner he was planning. -- A person just doesn't suddenly have to schedule back surgery, it's been coming for a while. Why would he try to schedule a date know that back surgery was imminent? He was toying with you and/or others. And, so what? Even if a man has been flirty with me, I don't think about him very much at all until he starts calling and seeing me consistently. When his intentions are clear, then I'll give him the time of day.
Neville107 Posted June 12, 2015 Posted June 12, 2015 (edited) Fitgirl - His problem is he has no game and doesn't know what he is doing. He thinks by steam rolling you with attention and chocolates you will fall head over heels for him. He believes what he sees in the movies and on TV. Don't be surprised if he shows up at your work holding a radio over his head playing a Peter Gabriel song His spiel never works, that's why he's done with all the women - they know better and can see through his BS. Here is my advice - if you really like him and would like to get to know him - work out a way to have lunch with him. Don't do dinner because then you're stuck for the whole evening. Lunch for an hour and see how he behaves then - away from everyone. This guy is seeking validation, hence all the theatrics. See if he gets real with you and lowers his front - you may be surprised to find an interesting person underneath. Best of luck to you. Edited June 12, 2015 by Neville107
xcupid Posted August 9, 2015 Posted August 9, 2015 Sounds to me like he wants you to chase him. That's why he gave you his number. That's being lazy. He should be chasing you and showing you how much he's into you. Not the other way around.
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