alex434 Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Hello, I'm 15 years old and going on 16, yes i am young.... I've know this girl for almost 4 years and we just started going out, we have gone out before but have broken up because of her personal issues, and at last her ex . about a year ago she broke up with her ex who she had been with for 8 1/2 months. When she broke up with him i was there to provide love and support for her and help her along the way. However i feel i was used as a rag doll sort of speak... because she told me she loved me (i always loved her ) but then i found out later she was lying as dumb as i am, i believed her and she hurt me, yet i still stayed and waited for her to get over her ex so she could be with me. She hurted me a few times more on the way... but yet i stayed. Its been about a month since we been together when about a week ago her ex popped up, immed her. She was honest, she showed me the conversation which was nothing bad. After then she "blocked" him ( stupid aim ) And i made her promise that she would never talk to him, and even made her swear on ME. She assured me that they were over and that she loved me and wanted to be with me which i can believe, however i know not all her thought and attention is on me and when we would talk, she would sometimes bring him up or mention him.. i got quite tired of this... I asked her over and over if she felt nething for him or anything relating to him and she told me no. Come to find out after swearing on me, she talked to him again. I figured to insure my on safety i played a trick. I created a sn with just like her ex's however the L in it was replaced with a I and those of you who use aim should now that a captail I looks like a lower case L so i created the sn and ( i know the password to her aim ) i blocked his ( it wasent blocked and deleted like she had said, another lie ) and deleted it and added mine signed off her sn. Now she created a new one for me but added his sn so he has never recieved an im from her new sn. Well last night i was talking to her when i decided to link the fake sn and sign on. I did and for about 10 minutes she didnt do nething, then on the fake sn she immed me thinking it was him. "************: hey just wanted to let u know i had to change my sn byeee" i had to change my sn? byeee? im no romanticst but i think i know this means something, i replied shortly after but she had blocked me.. I confronted her saying he immed me and told me what she had done, she said she didnt mean it and it was a mistake and that she was sorry. And that he is "forgotten" MY question is , is if she has "forgotten" him why does she still relate things to him, attempt to talk to him, and have thought on him? I feel that in order for us to have a successful relationship that she should have 100% of her love, care, attention and thought on me like i have always given her, i feel i deserve that. If not i think she needs to "get the stepping" cause im sure i can do better. She says i have 100% of her love but hasent mentioned how much exactly i have of her attention , care and thought, i always figured if you didnt care or think about someone that you wouldnt think of them or talk about them or attempt to contact them. What should i do? i've confronted her about this all about her having feelings and caring for him and such yet she denies the claim and says he is "forgotten" i gave her a choice already to either put all eyes on me, or im leaving. Am i right to do this? I've checked her sn since last night and have found that "his" ( my fake sn ) is unblocked now i shall see what happens the next time she signs on however she claims she will no longer sign on so she doesnt talk to him ever again? i feel she should be able to do this on her own. No this isnt a internet relationship and when it comes to us discussing this face to face, well lets just say she isnt good at this at all. What should i do? I feel im going to be hurt in the end and fear for my own safety Should i dump her or see if she can actually be honest this time and honestly "forget" him once and for all? I hate the fact that she mentions him and gives her attention to him, it just makes me wanna $!$!%$!%#%@^@%@ Help is appreciated!!! thanks, ~one pissed and confused boyfriend~
Becki Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Firstly, you're fifteen! I know age isn't really anything, but don't get hung up on this girl who obviously does not care for you. She is also young and by the sounds of it is finding it hard to get over her ex. If your life goes to plan you have around 65 years left to learn to love someone who loves you back! don't expect to get who and what you want first time! Plus if i were you, while youre young have fun! even if you did get in a relationship with her, what then? I doubt still she would 100% commit herself to you!
Author alex434 Posted April 27, 2005 Author Posted April 27, 2005 i agree, but i just feel different for her, i've been with plenty of other girls i think she is confused im not sure.... if it were that easy for me myself, i would have left her already and sadly, im already in a relationship with her...
iamyouranswer Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 i would say it is a time to BYE BYE her. You will waste your money and time on a person whom you really like. never fight a battle that doesn't belong to you. i had the same problem as yours when i was young. It tooks me a few days to figure out and finally have a courage to say BYE BYE. i was a happy person since then.
Mary3 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Get OUT ! You wont win in a 3 way relationship. You will ALWAYS LOSE !@ Get out of it....and move on....I dont want to see 20 more letters from you saying how she is continuing to HURT you. You are young....NC is in order here.....Move on ASAP
Author alex434 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 what does NC mean im not sure i'm kind of new lol.. well she hasent mentioned him and i know a way if shes been talking to him and she hasent so i think shes kept her promise i dunno... im not expecting good at least not yet so we will see... if she does something dumb it wouldnt be the first time, and it wouldnt surprise me i have a hard thought of her being with someone else, we always claimed eachother to lose our virginity with and i just cant bare the thought of her being with another guy otherwise, i would have left already... well... thanks for the help all, cya around
bamaguy20 Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by alex434 Hello, I'm 15 years old and going on 16, yes i am young.... I've know this girl for almost 4 years and we just started going out, we have gone out before but have broken up because of her personal issues, and at last her ex . about a year ago she broke up with her ex who she had been with for 8 1/2 months. When she broke up with him i was there to provide love and support for her and help her along the way. However i feel i was used as a rag doll sort of speak... because she told me she loved me (i always loved her ) but then i found out later she was lying as dumb as i am, i believed her and she hurt me, yet i still stayed and waited for her to get over her ex so she could be with me. She hurted me a few times more on the way... but yet i stayed. Its been about a month since we been together when about a week ago her ex popped up, immed her. She was honest, she showed me the conversation which was nothing bad. After then she "blocked" him ( stupid aim ) And i made her promise that she would never talk to him, and even made her swear on ME. She assured me that they were over and that she loved me and wanted to be with me which i can believe, however i know not all her thought and attention is on me and when we would talk, she would sometimes bring him up or mention him.. i got quite tired of this... I asked her over and over if she felt nething for him or anything relating to him and she told me no. Come to find out after swearing on me, she talked to him again. I figured to insure my on safety i played a trick. I created a sn with just like her ex's however the L in it was replaced with a I and those of you who use aim should now that a captail I looks like a lower case L so i created the sn and ( i know the password to her aim ) i blocked his ( it wasent blocked and deleted like she had said, another lie ) and deleted it and added mine signed off her sn. Now she created a new one for me but added his sn so he has never recieved an im from her new sn. Well last night i was talking to her when i decided to link the fake sn and sign on. I did and for about 10 minutes she didnt do nething, then on the fake sn she immed me thinking it was him. "************: hey just wanted to let u know i had to change my sn byeee" i had to change my sn? byeee? im no romanticst but i think i know this means something, i replied shortly after but she had blocked me.. I confronted her saying he immed me and told me what she had done, she said she didnt mean it and it was a mistake and that she was sorry. And that he is "forgotten" MY question is , is if she has "forgotten" him why does she still relate things to him, attempt to talk to him, and have thought on him? I feel that in order for us to have a successful relationship that she should have 100% of her love, care, attention and thought on me like i have always given her, i feel i deserve that. If not i think she needs to "get the stepping" cause im sure i can do better. She says i have 100% of her love but hasent mentioned how much exactly i have of her attention , care and thought, i always figured if you didnt care or think about someone that you wouldnt think of them or talk about them or attempt to contact them. What should i do? i've confronted her about this all about her having feelings and caring for him and such yet she denies the claim and says he is "forgotten" i gave her a choice already to either put all eyes on me, or im leaving. Am i right to do this? I've checked her sn since last night and have found that "his" ( my fake sn ) is unblocked now i shall see what happens the next time she signs on however she claims she will no longer sign on so she doesnt talk to him ever again? i feel she should be able to do this on her own. No this isnt a internet relationship and when it comes to us discussing this face to face, well lets just say she isnt good at this at all. What should i do? I feel im going to be hurt in the end and fear for my own safety Should i dump her or see if she can actually be honest this time and honestly "forget" him once and for all? I hate the fact that she mentions him and gives her attention to him, it just makes me wanna $!$!%$!%#%@^@%@ Help is appreciated!!! thanks, ~one pissed and confused boyfriend~ dude your 15.......you sound liek your rambling to your friends out by the monkey bars.....theres so much more to life than some 15 year old girl.....having a girlfriend at 15 is the stupidest thing you can do in my book...i didnt really start dating anyone till iwas about 18.....made high school all that much more fun..dont let any 9th grade girls hold you down...lol....
Author alex434 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 hey!! 10th grade and thank god for me she doesnt go to my school lol i know what u mean, but the only main reason why i do date NOW is because i dont like the sense of feeling lonely at those certain "times"
Author alex434 Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 Originally posted by Skullcrusher Grow up. I'm working on it, things take time sorry i dont have as much wisdom as you
bamaguy20 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 Originally posted by alex434 hey!! 10th grade and thank god for me she doesnt go to my school lol i know what u mean, but the only main reason why i do date NOW is because i dont like the sense of feeling lonely at those certain "times" yes thats why high school is for having a lot of friends, and going out and finding other high school girls to fill those "times" you dont need a high school girlfriend for that......high school girlfriends are purely physcial they are too immature for anything else.....you can find any girl that you dont need to be tied down to, to be physical with.
Mary3 Posted April 29, 2005 Posted April 29, 2005 NC means No Contact of any kind so you can get your head back on straight and think without her drumming in your ears...
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