snailz Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 Im getting myself in a right state over some guy. we were friends for a couple of years, then we started sleeping together, both of us decided we didnt want a relationship but over time i started to get feelings for him, i told him but he said he didnt want a relationship as he liked his freedom, fair enough- i started seeing someone else and stopped sleeping with him, then he started to get really jealous and made more of an effort to be around me, we started sleeping together again. For some reason its all gone wrong, he says we have to stop because its been going on for too long. I miss him so much, i wish things could be different and im not sure how he feels, when i go out and see him, he watches me all night which makes me feel really weird, he tells my friends he misses me yet when i try and talk to him he doesnt show any interest, what can i do? should i move on? or give it a bit more time and effort. i love him so much and dont want to lose him, id do anything to be with him but he's confusing me. thanks x
westernxer Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 He's possessive to the point of stalking, yet he doesn't want to commit? Drop him as of yesterday. He's a drain on your life force.
BrotherAaron Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 Seriously... jealousy is overbearing enough when the other person is actually willing to give you a reason that they deserve to be jealous. If he's not even going to bother to call himself your man, he needs to leave you alone and stop acting like he is your man. You need to stop giving him what he wants (sex) without getting what you want (commitment). I vote you go find yourself a real man and ditch this jerk.
Author snailz Posted April 28, 2005 Author Posted April 28, 2005 Thanks for the advice guys, i think ive known for a long time that it just isnt going to work, i tried talking to him last night, i told him that although its all gone weird between us that i hope we can still be friends at the end of it all (this isnt really what i want but it will save more hurt in the long run), he then turned round and said that i didnt understand him and that he didnt want to be friends, i dont understand how he cant hurt me so much when he says he really cares. In all the time ive known him ive never seen him in a relationship- he has very few friends too, im starting to see why. how can i stop thinking about him? i always go out and meet different lads but then i think about him, why cant i just move on? thanks again evryone x
westernxer Posted April 28, 2005 Posted April 28, 2005 You have to start by avoiding all contact with the ex. Forget friendship, unless you can withstand the emotional swing that comes with it. No contact. Starting now.
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