Bobbi7 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 If people know that you're single and they make this statement, "Its not good to be alone," is it something that someone should get pissed off at? In a way they are trying to make you feel bad about you're relationship status, but are they telling you the truth in someway? Because in reality-there just comes to a point in time where people have to settle down-find their life long partner...Even though someone might be surrounding with friends/family-its not really the same as having someone by your side/kissing/waking up to them in the morning, etc, etc...
newmoon Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 i don't think people mean it in a bad or harsh way. being alone is fine, but it can also lead to other issues - emotional and physical. lots of people slip into depression, loneliness and isolation, not caring about themselves and how they look, give up friends, stay in, etc. i interpret it that someone is saying .. for your own health and well-being you might not want to be alone. i don't think they mean to go get married and find someone as obviously not everyone does that, but to maintain social contacts and dating, and etc
hotpotato Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 No, I don't think you should get mad at it. They are probably trying to goad you into dating. No one has to date or be n a relationship. There are pros and cons either way. 1
Keenly Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Being alone is actually pretty awesome. You can do whatever you want and not have to worry about pleasing / offending anyone. 2
Author Bobbi7 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 Being alone is actually pretty awesome. You can do whatever you want and not have to worry about pleasing / offending anyone. So, its ok to be single forever? I sometimes think that I'm ok with it, but as I get older, I start to panic...more because who will take care of me...when I hit 50, and I get sick or need to go to the hospital for whatever reason-who is going to take me? I don't have friends I can count on, I do have an older sibling, but he's married with kids and has his own life.
Author Bobbi7 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 Extroverts will usually say that... Well, I guess the co-worker that said this to me was trying to piss me off ONCE again. She has been constantly nagging at me wondering why I don't have a boyfriend, so I lied and told her that I had one, the other day, she asked me how he was and I replied it was all good. Then she made the comment, "its not good to be alone." Then I said that we will be moving in together-then she said, "He needs to make a commitment." Her constant remarks is still getting under my skin even if I told her I had a bf! And she's only 6 years older than me, so its not like she's some 65 year old lady giving me grandma advice.
hotpotato Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 So, its ok to be single forever? I sometimes think that I'm ok with it, but as I get older, I start to panic...more because who will take care of me...when I hit 50, and I get sick or need to go to the hospital for whatever reason-who is going to take me? I don't have friends I can count on, I do have an older sibling, but he's married with kids and has his own life. LifeAlert? jk It's ok...maybe you'll make more acquaintances by then? Or maybe have a system by which you and your neighbors check on each other. I'm sure there are ways around this, besides dying at home and not being discovered for 5 years. Why can't your bro or nieces/nephews give you a quick ring or check on you via fb, if fb is around when you're old? Assisted living home?
No Limit Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 It depends on how you interpret it. Being alone - like really alone, living like a hermit in the most remote area and seeing no other people at all for years at a time - that could indeed become unhealthy. But being single isn't damaging at all, in fact there are many people in relationships who would do better with some time for themselves instead of developing new issues they can't deal with making their partner suffer from them as well.
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