Am I nuts?

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Dating my gf for 3.5 yrs, taken her ring shopping, she's expressed how much she wants to marry and live with me. We both work a lot and live at home so we see each other Friday nights and Saturdays and that's about it. She recently started her new career as a nurse 6 months ago. Previously she worked in an office full of women. About 2 months ago she got lip injections without telling me. We discussed it and I asked that she just be up front with me going forward if she contemplated anything like that in the future. It worries me that she was doing it in order to get attention or an ego boost from someone other than me even tho she assures me that's not the case and it was just something she had wanted to do since she was younger. Not to be cocky but she is drop dead gorgeous/model type looks and down to earth to boot. I've found myself lately feeling like she is no longer getting the spark or desire for me that we once had and that I am chasing her/expressing my desire to marry her. I guess you could say I am acting towards her the way she acted towards me when we first started dating. I have been finding myself becoming jealous and paranoid about what she does at work since this is the first time in our relationship where she has been surrounded by men, doctors, single guys who see her on a daily basis and who I have no idea their intentions. I trust her, she's never cheated on me or given me reason to think she has. But I can't shake this feeling that something is off. She's been improving on her already stunning looks with the lip injections, new gym membership to a popular gym where I know many good looking men go where as before she belonged to an all women's gym or had a personal trainer, she's gotten her hair done more regularly and is working overtime 3-4 days a week. Should I be worried? I'm usually confident and sure of myself and my relationship but after 3.5 years I feel like I'm losing her interest. I want her to be as head over heels with me as when we first started dating and electric as I feel for her more and more every day. Is this all in my head? She tells me I have nothing to fear and my stress will end once we get engaged (planning to do so this coming fall). What can I do until then? I'm driving myself crazy every day. Any suggestions are much appreciated, thank you!

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Dating my gf for 3.5 yrs, taken her ring shopping, she's expressed how much she wants to marry and live with me. We both work a lot and live at home so we see each other Friday nights and Saturdays and that's about it. She recently started her new career as a nurse 6 months ago. Previously she worked in an office full of women. About 2 months ago she got lip injections without telling me. We discussed it and I asked that she just be up front with me going forward if she contemplated anything like that in the future. It worries me that she was doing it in order to get attention or an ego boost from someone other than me even tho she assures me that's not the case and it was just something she had wanted to do since she was younger. Not to be cocky but she is drop dead gorgeous/model type looks and down to earth to boot. I've found myself lately feeling like she is no longer getting the spark or desire for me that we once had and that I am chasing her/expressing my desire to marry her. I guess you could say I am acting towards her the way she acted towards me when we first started dating. I have been finding myself becoming jealous and paranoid about what she does at work since this is the first time in our relationship where she has been surrounded by men, doctors, single guys who see her on a daily basis and who I have no idea their intentions. I trust her, she's never cheated on me or given me reason to think she has. But I can't shake this feeling that something is off. She's been improving on her already stunning looks with the lip injections, new gym membership to a popular gym where I know many good looking men go where as before she belonged to an all women's gym or had a personal trainer, she's gotten her hair done more regularly and is working overtime 3-4 days a week. Should I be worried? I'm usually confident and sure of myself and my relationship but after 3.5 years I feel like I'm losing her interest. I want her to be as head over heels with me as when we first started dating and electric as I feel for her more and more every day. Is this all in my head? She tells me I have nothing to fear and my stress will end once we get engaged (planning to do so this coming fall). What can I do until then? I'm driving myself crazy every day. Any suggestions are much appreciated, thank you!

 

She thinks that she's going to be engaged soon - you've been ring shopping - and she's getting herself in shape to look stunning for a wedding. That would be my best guess on her self-improvement. Ring shopping will set that off.

 

Sure, she probably should have discussed the lip injection with you, but she probably didn't think it was that big of a deal. I guarantee she did it more for herself than anyone.

 

If there are no additional signs of her maybe trying to attract other men, and she has assured you of your questions, then be happy. Most likely she's prepping herself to look gorgeous for her wedding day.