acapelo_dp Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 So I have known of this guy named Daniel through a mutual friend of ours named Rob. Rob is older and I know him through my work. Anyways Rob was kind of like a father figure to me and he is a great person, and always talked about this young man named Daniel who he worked with and said how he was a great guy and we would get along well. However, this was around December 2014 and I was in a relationship at that time. Around January I added Daniel to snapchat, and only met him in person once and said a quick hello and that was it while I was working. We would snapchat each other pictures sometimes. My ex and I broke up in February, and about a month ago Daniel responded to a snapchat I had posted and asked for my phone number. We started texting each day, he would send one or two per day but long in context - he admitted he was a bad texter and he is extremely busy - he is only 21 and is in the middle of starting his own business and doing a lot of work projects. He would ask my questions about myself, my goals, what I like to do for fun etc. A couple Friday's ago he said he was going out downtown and told me to let me know where I was going out and maybe we could meet up. I ended up going out with a girl friend of mine and I met up with Daniel. We talked and he bought me a drink, I asked to go get food and he came with me. We held hands as we walked and the conversation was flowing naturally - I felt chemistry with someone for the first time since my break up over three months ago. Daniel ended up coming up to my apartment, and we talked for about an hour. We did end up having sex that night and I had to politely tell him he had to go home a bit after because my friend was with some douche guy and needed to stay with me. I walked Daniel downstairs, waited for a cab with him and gave me a hug. Daniel knew this friend was staying with me beforehand anyways and I didn't want to ditch my girl friend. Daniel texted me the next morning enthusiastically, and would send me one text a day for the next week. Then the weekend came and he didn't text me for about 3-4 days. He was working that weekend I believe. He would still send me snapchats and he has texted me this week, and he has been flirty with me. Once or twice I have initiated a conversation. The thing is he is a VERY busy guy - even Rob has said this and typically Rob will be in his snap chat pictures with him doing some work projects, and most weekends he goes away to another town to go boating on the lake with family or friends. It appears Daniel is interested in me as he has been in communication and has been flirting, but I have also heard from Rob that he is pretty shy with girls. Should I just go all out and ask him to hang out sometime? He doesn't actually make any plans with me which is kind of discouraging - however I feel like I should pursue something because we seemed to have a good connection together. However, I also don't want to come on too strong and scare him away. Any thoughts or advice?
d0nnivain Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Well this limbo business is no fun so you have choices: 1. Ask him out. 2. Do nothing as you have been doing & continue to be frustrated 3. walk away Of those # 1 sounds like the best choice to me.
aloneinaz Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 As a guy, I see nothing wrong with sending him a text and suggesting meeting up again. Something, "hey, how's your schedule this weekend, interested in meeting for a bite?" Pin him down and see what he says. Maybe he is shy. If he says he's busy and offers no replacement day or time to meet, then he simply may not be interested.
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