Mjones34 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 First off, I'm 17. I dated this girl for a little over 6 months, and I noticed something didn't seem right in the relationship. I tried working things out, but they didn't. She dumped me 3 weeks ago over lost feelings "things don't feel like they did when we started dating". I was angry, and said some things I shouldn't have. Although, I apologized multiple times and made sure she knew I meant my apology. She said to leave her alone forever and to not contact her. She became really cold. I sent her a text message last week thanking her for all she's done and wishing her good luck in the future, and she thanked me and said the same. Its now been a week of NC, and I'm wondering what to do in order to get this girl back. I'm doing fine myself, and I know she's happy. What steps should I take in order to click those feelings back to her? I asked her if there would be a slight chance of us being together in the future and she said no.
minime13 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 First off, I'm 17. I dated this girl for a little over 6 months, and I noticed something didn't seem right in the relationship. I tried working things out, but they didn't. She dumped me 3 weeks ago over lost feelings "things don't feel like they did when we started dating". I was angry, and said some things I shouldn't have. Although, I apologized multiple times and made sure she knew I meant my apology. She said to leave her alone forever and to not contact her. She became really cold. I sent her a text message last week thanking her for all she's done and wishing her good luck in the future, and she thanked me and said the same. Its now been a week of NC, and I'm wondering what to do in order to get this girl back. I'm doing fine myself, and I know she's happy. What steps should I take in order to click those feelings back to her? I asked her if there would be a slight chance of us being together in the future and she said no. You can't do anything. She broke up with you, and told you to leave her alone and not contact her. It's out of your hands now. If she decides on her own that she wants you back, she'll contact you. Don't wait for it, though, just move on with your life. 2
Author Mjones34 Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 Is it worth contacting her after NC is up?
minime13 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Is it worth contacting her after NC is up? That question invalidates itself. NC is used in order to move on and get over a person. You're trying to figure out how to get her back, but you can't. It will never be your decision to win her back - only to accept her back in your life if she ever decides to contact you. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Is it worth contacting her after NC is up? Why would NC be up? You stay NC until you have no romantic feelings or expectations. 2
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Boy do I wish I was 17 with everything I know today! The LLLAAASSSTTT thing I'd want is a girl friend! I would show those HS girls what a PLAYA is all about!! My man, she dumped you. Said she doesn't want to see you anymore. Respect her wishes and leave her alone! Not to be mean but.. you look seriously weak, needy and clingy by sending that last text. Girls don't like dudes that are being any of those things. Your only chance w/this one? Leave her alone. Vanish.. In the mean time, your 17 my man, you have to have a target rich environment at HS. Find someone new to experience. You having a new girl on your arm might have a ancillary benefit of making you look attractive to this other girl again. Have fun and enjoy your youth!
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