Athena Posted May 3, 2005 Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Sylviaguardian The funny thing is that going to counselling has helped me get some power over the situation. I am starting to see things about me and our relationship that my H doesn't. That makes me feel very empowered, because whatever happens now, I know I will be the one doing the choosing. Yes, when your spouse is the one cheating, lying, and controlling what you do or don't know, then IT DOES feel like you have no power, and no choice -- in what they do. Yip, when counseling opens your eyes to significant events, choices, and patterns, it allows you to LEARN from your past, and thereby to feel more empowered, because knowledge is power... I will definitely continue with counseling... I never want to be weakened by such a betrayal, ever again. I, unlike some others on this board, do not think that these A's my H has had has made me stronger... and I really wish he had never betrayed me like he has. His actions have hurt me and broken me, and I rather wish I was the strong, secure, happy, confident person I was before he dragged me through his mess. Nobody would have stood in his way, had he chosen to leave me, and to sleep around... but no, he wanted both the wife, and the affairs...
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