1Jessie86 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I've been online dating a guy for the past couple months. We usually chat everyday. The only reason we haven't met yet is because he recently left the country for work. And that's totally legit and is not the issue as he'll be back soon. The issue is that after bringing to light the number of messages we've exchanged through Facebook with him, I had mentioned that I "save" our conversations. By "save" I mean just letting them sit in my inbox. He then tells me that his Facebook messages are "automatically"deleted. I didn't even know this was possible. Because it's so easy just to let the messages sit there rather than going to delete them it sounds fishy to me. It seems to me like he's either hiding something, hiding me or he just doesn't care. Am I overthinking this? FYI we're both adults in our 20s.
d0nnivain Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 It's a preference but women are generally more sentimental. Some people also don't like electronic clutter. I clean my computer monthly 1
Keenly Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I save things that usually give me some sort of physical response. If what she said gave me the warm and fuzzies, I'll save it. If it turned me on, I'll save those too.
ThisisIt606 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I've never heard of fb automatically deleting private messages.... you usually have to go in and physically delete them. It just logs all of your convos naturally. The fact that he's deleting seems like he's a bit paranoid that someone will find them and read them. Why he's paranoid? who knows 1
Cowboysnation Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 There is no reason for me to ever add a woman to my Facebook friends list who I met on a dating site.
smackie9 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 there's an option to have your FB messages automatically delete????! hallelujah!
J21 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 lmao the dude just lied to you. Facebook doesn't automatically delete message. I still have messages from 2005 (literally I just checked). The only thing I've ever come across that automatically deletes messages is on ebay. They delete messages if you don't archive them.
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 There is literally no way to automatically delete facebook messages. How stupid does he think you is to try and blag you on something you can find out yourself in two seconds flat? I thought you were gonna talk about actively taking steps to save messages, like screenshot really sentimental texts or I even heard on the radio of one girl who would screenshot then PRINT meaningful facebook messages to stick in her memories box haha. But no, 'saving' them on facebook is just what happened, there's no setting otherwise. I guess you could say I 'save' all of mine. The only time I actively delete is messages with an ex I don't want the risk of being able to go back and read and make myself feel crap after a breakup. 2
guest569 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Perhaps he is talking about them going into am archive box?
Lois_Griffin Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I've been online dating a guy for the past couple months. We usually chat everyday. The only reason we haven't met yet is because he recently left the country for work. And that's totally legit and is not the issue as he'll be back soon. The issue is that after bringing to light the number of messages we've exchanged through Facebook with him, I had mentioned that I "save" our conversations. By "save" I mean just letting them sit in my inbox. He then tells me that his Facebook messages are "automatically"deleted. I didn't even know this was possible. Because it's so easy just to let the messages sit there rather than going to delete them it sounds fishy to me. It seems to me like he's either hiding something, hiding me or he just doesn't care. Am I overthinking this? FYI we're both adults in our 20s. LOL. I know of no option to 'automatically delete messages after xx amount of days." Nor is there an option to automatically 'archive' messages after so many days or weeks, etc. Yeah, methinks lover boy definitely has something to hide.
kendahke Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I've been online dating a guy for the past couple months. We usually chat everyday. The only reason we haven't met yet is because he recently left the country for work. And that's totally legit and is not the issue as he'll be back soon. That is catfish 101 behavior. Have you two skyped/facetimed? This is exactly how my experience with a catfish started. The day he was due to arrive back, I get a text from him saying he'd been detained by customs in the country he supposedly was in. Be very careful in how you proceed with him. You say it's legit, but unless you've at least seen his voice come out of his face via skype/facetime, you don't know if it's truly legit. Google his profile and do a google image search on his photos to make sure he hasn't stolen someone else's identity. Catfish are very adept at this. The issue is that after bringing to light the number of messages we've exchanged through Facebook with him, I had mentioned that I "save" our conversations. By "save" I mean just letting them sit in my inbox. He then tells me that his Facebook messages are "automatically"deleted. I didn't even know this was possible. Because it's so easy just to let the messages sit there rather than going to delete them it sounds fishy to me. It seems to me like he's either hiding something, hiding me or he just doesn't care. Am I overthinking this? FYI we're both adults in our 20s. If there is a feature to delete messages in one's inbox on Facebook, I'd love to know where it is. I've yet to find a feature on there that allows one to delete manually, let alone automatically. Yeah, he's hiding that he's a catfish. You need to investigate and insist upon skype/facetime. If he refuses to do that, then you know all you need to know. There is also one other way to set a trap to find out exactly where they are. If he refuses to skype/facetime, drop me a message in my inbox and I'll let you know how to set it. I dont' want to hijack your thread.
Author 1Jessie86 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 I'm curious as to how you can date someone online? It's not online dating per se, it's meeting people online to date.
Author 1Jessie86 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 That is catfish 101 behavior. Have you two skyped/facetimed? This is exactly how my experience with a catfish started. The day he was due to arrive back, I get a text from him saying he'd been detained by customs in the country he supposedly was in. Be very careful in how you proceed with him. You say it's legit, but unless you've at least seen his voice come out of his face via skype/facetime, you don't know if it's truly legit. Google his profile and do a google image search on his photos to make sure he hasn't stolen someone else's identity. Catfish are very adept at this. His mom is on facebook, along with other family members. I've read his old messages. I've seen old videos of him. I've done my research. He seems legit. He posts pics of the country where he is. He's even used that little map button in facebook chat that shows his location, which was out of the country. I'm not at all worried about being "catfished."
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