LarukuRocks Posted April 27, 2005 Posted April 27, 2005 I've known this guy for over 2 years now, of which around 1 he always treated me like his girlfriend. He always called, sent a message by cellphone or emailed me when i didnt go to school n stuff. He's really shy and he's never had a gf before (and ive never had a bf before either) and we have so much things in common and i really love him. But then recently he started to act really distant, and i asked why he'd been like that and he said "... wow... i didnt know i got distant, but what do i know... look i havent been doin that consiunsly.. or whatever... and im sorry if i ever made you sad... the reason i coudnt talk to you on vacations is well... you had no phone.. and when i talked the answering mashine poped up, or my phone was missing, and when i found it i didnt have any credit and stuff... anyways theyre all excuses and if i ever do it again (wich i wont.. ill try anyways) you can come and kill me... so im sorry if i made you sad... you can hit me if you want..." A while after i told him i liked him as more than a friend but he just said "oh, so you like me? well that isnt a big deal..is it? well i dunno about relationships so could you tell me what to do?" and we actually didnt talk about that till i brought it up later on and he said he's got planns to move to Japan in like in around a year or so and he said he didnt wanna get into a relationship with me cuz he wouldnt wanna leave me even more but he cant dump his plans for anyone. And he ended up saying we should start things and se where it goes. I was still a bit confused so later on i asked what he had meant and he said he had meant that we should be friends and when he got some load off (homework and stuff) itd be nice to be my boyfriend (and i never even asked him to be my bf). And i told him i really wanted to be with him but if he didnt wanna be with me he should tell me and he said he doesnt know if he wants to or not and i told him i didnt wanna wait forever for him and he said he knew and we talked normally for some time about other stuff and i havent talked to him since (yesterday). I dunno if i should just try to move on or wait and see what happens or what! please help!
Pocky Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 I would interpret his evasive response as lack of interest and I would end the discussion and move on. If he is interested in you, he'll approach you. You've made your interests very clear and he knows where you stand.
clynn Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 I think he IS interested. But also like he said, he is moving away and doesn't sound like he knows much about relationships or has much experience with it....and that he takes things like this seriously. Hence, a an affair and then heading off to Japan ... he isn't sure he wants to be responsible for making you sad when he leaves. So, I think you could just see if he comes around after the load is off his plate.....relax until then and be good friends. you never know what might happen over the years of a good friendship!
Brandi Renee Posted May 6, 2005 Posted May 6, 2005 i jsut joined and woudl like to start a new thread, help!
simplyconfused Posted May 7, 2005 Posted May 7, 2005 oh in the column where people are asking for advice there is a "button" called "new topic" at the top. Just press it, write about you prob or whatever that is, write the title of the thread underneath in the line provided, press "submit the thread and there we go
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