joe_bing Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 So, I am in late 20s , a graduate engineer and live in a shared house and the owner has assigned me to manage most of the things in it. Recently one new girl has moved into the house. I really like her. How do I go about wooing( is that the right word? Basically impress) her so she likes me back. She has just finished college and almost started with her first off campus job. I have a stable respectful job. I want some help in knowing how to play it. I mean should I be super nice to her. Like the other day she needed an extension cable, to fix her electronic things. I didn’t have it at the moment. But I can easily get her one. I don’t want to be friend zoned or being too easy that she doesn’t gets attracted. She is an American born latin American college graduate girl. She is short but in a cute way. She has taken a summer class and comes back in the evening. Like the other day, she opened the fridge and saw the starbucks coffee can which I drink often. And I offered her that. I asked for wine, she said she only drinks it on the weekends.
Gary S Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Unless helping her is part of your job, don't do it. Do banter with her and make her laugh... girls want to have fun. Make sure she thinks you are fun to be around. But don't smoother her, give her lots of space, leave first, don't ask her out (we date to get the person around us so they might fall in love - you live together, there is no need). Wait and see if she asks you out first. Playing hard to get doubles attraction. Plus, if she's the one sticking her neck out, there is no rejection.
minime13 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 So, I am in late 20s , a graduate engineer and live in a shared house and the owner has assigned me to manage most of the things in it. Recently one new girl has moved into the house. I really like her. How do I go about wooing( is that the right word? Basically impress) her so she likes me back. She has just finished college and almost started with her first off campus job. I have a stable respectful job. I want some help in knowing how to play it. I mean should I be super nice to her. Like the other day she needed an extension cable, to fix her electronic things. I didn’t have it at the moment. But I can easily get her one. I don’t want to be friend zoned or being too easy that she doesn’t gets attracted. She is an American born latin American college graduate girl. She is short but in a cute way. She has taken a summer class and comes back in the evening. Like the other day, she opened the fridge and saw the starbucks coffee can which I drink often. And I offered her that. I asked for wine, she said she only drinks it on the weekends. Play it cool while you're living together. Be flirty, take interest in her and see if you have shared interests. I wouldn't suggest trying to date her while you are living under the same roof, though. In close quarters like that - on the job, in a shared house, etc., - always think about the aftermath if it doesn't work out. If things don't work out, the last person you are going to want to be sharing a house with is your ex. I'm not trying to doom anything before it starts, but that's the reality. Being in such close quarters doesn't allow you to develop a healthy relationship with boundaries, either. Healthy relationships grow because there is a healthy distance between dates and get-togethers. You have space and time between seeing the person to think about them when they're not there, and miss them. Dating someone you are living with hinders that. How long do you expect the two of you to be living under the same roof? There's nothing wrong, right now, with dropping certain hints and letting her know you're into her. However, I wouldn't try to push it further than that while you're still roommates. It has a high potential for getting messy.
PogoStick Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Ask her out for a drink. However, the situation sounds hazardous. 1
smackie9 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I agree to just simply ask her out. Confidence is what actually woos the girl.
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