Seeker12 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Maybe you guys are transferring your bad feeling about your exes onto me. I got dumped and cheated on, I'm just moving on here team, nothing wrong with falling in love again. Took me a few months to get back on my feet and not feel like I was going to suffer forever, I don't see what the big deal is that I moved on and fell head over heels, I was single and miserable for 4 months after break up. I was also single for a year before I met my ex, I broke up with the boyfriend before that because his visa expired and he had to go back to Ireland. Hardly jumping from man to man, but who cares if I did? Get a grip people Hey Tarot, my comment wasnt in relation to you at all honestly, i dont know your story/background so i wasnt going to comment, its just what he said reminded me of what my ex started doing thats all. Hey i wish you all the best, only thing that came into my head for you was that take easy and slow, dont jump in two feet. I can completely relate to your 4 months of misery and singleness, i met someone of interest 5 months after i went into NC after a 6/7 year relationship, but, here 6/7 months later i still get flashes of my ex, have periods of obsession, and have to convince myself again that i am and i will move on. But its not about me, its about you, take it easy, enjoy yourself and know what you want, and maintain standards for yourself, there is always hope so im happy you got yourself out there and keep your emotions in check, know how you feel okay. Edited July 16, 2015 by Seeker12
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 Hey Tarot, my comment wasnt in relation to you at all honestly, i dont know your story/background so i wasnt going to comment, its just what he said reminded me of what my ex started doing thats all. Hey i wish you all the best, only thing that came into my head for you was that take easy and slow, dont jump in two feet. I can completely relate to your 4 months of misery and singleness, i met someone of interest 5 months after i went into NC after a 6/7 year relationship, but, here 6/7 months later i still get flashes of my ex, have periods of obsession, and have to convince myself again that i am and i will move on. But its not about me, its about you, take it easy, enjoy yourself and know what you want, and maintain standards for yourself, there is always hope so im happy you got yourself out there and keep your emotions in check, know how you feel okay. I hear ya, I tried to meet other guys and it just sent me into a spiral of misery and made me want my ex more, they haunt you! Its horrible. Thanks for your sweet words and I wish you the best Xo 1
ravfour4 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 If you're really happy, get outta here and go have fun! No need to defend yourself to random folks online if you met someone you love. Come back and let us know if it goes sour, otherwise we'll assume it's going well. 2
Seeker12 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 I hear ya, I tried to meet other guys and it just sent me into a spiral of misery and made me want my ex more, they haunt you! Its horrible. Thanks for your sweet words and I wish you the best Xo Oh wow, the haunting is just crazy im not even joking, everywhere you go youre reminded of them. Hopefully if this guy is different then thats a definite plus/improvement. I remember with the girl i met at 5 months after NC, her company was just awesome, id forget about everything. But slowly i kind of got to a realisation that i wanted to be single for a little bit longer, after i spent time completely away from her (the past month). Im bringing this up because just make sure youre in control of yourself and you dont let things spiral too quickly and you jump in the deep end, emotional attachment is a massive bugger! Ravfour said it the best, we will definitely be wishing you all the best, if it goes well let us know, if it doesnt we will be here for you to unload your woes on!
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 If you're really happy, get outta here and go have fun! No need to defend yourself to random folks online if you met someone you love. Come back and let us know if it goes sour, otherwise we'll assume it's going well. Ok, you're right, I'm just a helpful person! I volunteer constantly. I'll move on my way and I wish all of you the best, I mean that! Man oh man did that break up killed me, sometimes I honestly thought I'd prefer a punch in the face rather than the emotional turmoil, confusion, and all the other treacherous things that come with the territory.. Keep well everyone, be happy if you can xoxo
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Oh wow, the haunting is just crazy im not even joking, everywhere you go youre reminded of them. Hopefully if this guy is different then thats a definite plus/improvement. I remember with the girl i met at 5 months after NC, her company was just awesome, id forget about everything. But slowly i kind of got to a realisation that i wanted to be single for a little bit longer, after i spent time completely away from her (the past month). Im bringing this up because just make sure youre in control of yourself and you dont let things spiral too quickly and you jump in the deep end, emotional attachment is a massive bugger! Ravfour said it the best, we will definitely be wishing you all the best, if it goes well let us know, if it doesnt we will be here for you to unload your woes on! Yes exactly, I had to stop listening to music with lyrics- happy, sad, angry, nostalgic, everything reminded me of him- how pervasive is that?!!! No more music! Movies were the same, the only genre I could watch was horror, I worked my way through the horror section on netflix.... It is fast with my new relationship, but sometimes life works that way. I was in Transylvania for 3 weeks alone with no internet, tv, phone, friends, movies, car and music. Only me. I stayed in the mountains and went hiking all day everyday, a couple times I took the train to a city to eat pastry and gelato. Why Transylvania? I was heartbroken when I booked the trip, I needed to get away and there was no way I was going to some romantic beach; so I chose the most miserable creepy, dark history place I could find haha. I highly suggest Transylvania to anyone going through a break up, go to castles, read Dracula, get your tarot cards read by a gypsy, eat pastry stuffed with cheese. I came back and was still madly in love with my new honey, and I had all the time in the world to think about it. Before that I went to Los Angeles to visit my best friend, I got wasted and hit on a gay cuban guy all night, spent the day at venice beach. Get away if you can xx Edited July 16, 2015 by Tarot777
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 This song has lyrics, but it helped me through. It was one of the only lyric songs I could listen to
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Omg! so the thread after mine was essentially the same thing, just worded differently, the response to my thread was I'm a b1tch, have parental issues, am just like everyones ex, I'm moving too fast, get a grip, I use men and on and on. The responses directly after were the exact opposite, no wonder I study soci, people are ludicrous Really?!! Y'all don't know which way you're coming and going. No wonder you're single losers and you exes left you. I'm not even sure why I'm writing this or why I bothered to stop in and try to help, best of luck with your personality disorders, thats why you're alone and taking a year to get over someone who is disgusted by you. They don't love you or like you, thats why they left, get over your ****, because everyone else is going to leave you too, its not just them... Its YOU, thats why you've been left, you're horrible, fix it. Jesus christ. Edited July 16, 2015 by Tarot777
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