Tarot777 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Hey guys and girls! I'll make this brief, I had a break up, was doing fine, thought I was over my ex. Broke no contact, found out he had another girl 2 days after we broke up ( not a real break up I suppose, just a heat of the moment one) He blocked me, called me names etc Its was because he needed to get rid of me because of new girl. We were about to move in together, planning to get married. Anyway, broke no contact, he rubbed new girl in my face, was a total jerk. I sunk into the pits of despair for a few months, last month had a one night stand which helped, then went online dating, have fallen madly in love with the man of my dreams. I did not think I would get over it, I was utterly devasted. I just wanted to stop in and let you all know it gets better and there is new and better love out there for you
Lizrd3000 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 You had a 1 night stand a month ago, then went dating online. Assuming you didn't already meet ''the man of your dreams'' before your one night stand, we can safely assume that 2 weeks are necessary for you to get to know this dude. So you're *probably* in a new relationship for 2 weeks, and this dude is immediatly the man of your dreams? You were devestated 2 weeks ago.. Sounds like you're rebounding, but good luck nontheless. 5
Author Tarot777 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 You had a 1 night stand a month ago, then went dating online. Assuming you didn't already meet ''the man of your dreams'' before your one night stand, we can safely assume that 2 weeks are necessary for you to get to know this dude. So you're *probably* in a new relationship for 2 weeks, and this dude is immediatly the man of your dreams? You were devestated 2 weeks ago.. Sounds like you're rebounding, but good luck nontheless. K, thanks for the timeline.... stick in the mud! I'm happy. Don't be so petty, I'm assuming that since you spent that much time calculating a strangers romance, you probably did the same thing in whatever relationship you were in. Have some fun.
Lizrd3000 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 K, thanks for the timeline.... stick in the mud! I'm happy. Don't be so petty, I'm assuming that since you spent that much time calculating a strangers romance, you probably did the same thing in whatever relationship you were in. Have some fun. I'm happy that you're happy, I think you misunderstood me. I'm just trying to make you see something which might *probably* (very much) be the case. I spend one second calculating 4 weeks minus 2 weeks equals 2 weeks, which isn't *that* much really. Either way, I wish you all the best. No ill feelings. 5
aloneinaz Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 Hey guys and girls! I'll make this brief, I had a break up, was doing fine, thought I was over my ex. Broke no contact, found out he had another girl 2 days after we broke up ( not a real break up I suppose, just a heat of the moment one) He blocked me, called me names etc Its was because he needed to get rid of me because of new girl. We were about to move in together, planning to get married. Anyway, broke no contact, he rubbed new girl in my face, was a total jerk. I sunk into the pits of despair for a few months, last month had a one night stand which helped, then went online dating, have fallen madly in love with the man of my dreams. I did not think I would get over it, I was utterly devasted. I just wanted to stop in and let you all know it gets better and there is new and better love out there for you First of all, good for you to heal and move on vs. staying home having a pity party about your previous relationship for months and months and months... Now, I have to point out that you appear to be getting the cart in front of the horse. It's kind of concerning that you've "fallen madly in love" after what, less than a month of knowing this person? All I'm suggesting is you don't move to quickly in trying to move on from your last relationship as you could set yourself up for failure and more hurt if this new relationship fizzles out. Take your time and don't put undue expectations or pressures on this new relationship. 2
Lizrd3000 Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 I find it funny how you're immediatly so aggresive towards me aswell. I'm sure you realize I'm right, but you're in denial. There was no need to attack me.
Author Tarot777 Posted June 6, 2015 Author Posted June 6, 2015 I find it funny how you're immediatly so aggresive towards me aswell. I'm sure you realize I'm right, but you're in denial. There was no need to attack me. You're right xx I hope things turn out for you! There was no reason for me to be mean! Xx
quattrob Posted June 6, 2015 Posted June 6, 2015 When you said you felt better after your one night stand, that speaks alot about you.. And this person that's supposedly the man of your dreams, you've known him for what? less than a month? Anyways my point is that you're using someone else to make you feel better and once/if it doesn't work out you'll realize the truth, which is you're in denial. You can call me mean but I'm just saying how it is, but I hope I'm wrong for your sake. 3
Author Tarot777 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Posted June 7, 2015 (edited) When you said you felt better after your one night stand, that speaks alot about you.. And this person that's supposedly the man of your dreams, you've known him for what? less than a month? Anyways my point is that you're using someone else to make you feel better and once/if it doesn't work out you'll realize the truth, which is you're in denial. You can call me mean but I'm just saying how it is, but I hope I'm wrong for your sake. Ha! What?! Because I felt better after a one night stand that speaks a lot about me? Alright, I'll dig right in. After my break up from hell, I tried everything I could do move past it. I did yoga, lost 10 lbs, started painting and writing again, kept a journal, drank minimal alcohol... After four months of that and very little progress ( I thought I was over him at one point, but I think I was more hoping). Anyway, after very little progress moving on I was starting to lose it. I told my best friend I was just going to do the opposite of what I was doing and keep at it until the booze and the men ran out, perhaps that would work better than my " healthy way". That same day my car got stolen and a few other series of unfortunate events occured. So I called up a guy I had met and asked him to come over for wine by the river and sex, I actually really like this guy, he knew my whole situation about my ex blah blah. He came over, rocked my world and I felt soooo much better, a million times better, we had such a fun, cool night together. So yes, the one night stand was fantastic. I enjoy them and always have, not gonna apologize for that. They're not for everyone, but I like them. As for man of my dreams. First date we met, it was fireworks, we took off 3 hours away to a blues music festival and slept in the back of his truck all weekend, danced, had a blast. We are very similair, neither of us have facebook or any social media, both us don't own a TV, we are both big time travellers, I backpacked across Asia, central and south America over 2 years alone, he did the same except it was south and central america as well as Europe. He tells me tales of boat trips and dengue fever up the amazon, I regale him with my tales of wild nights nights in Shanghai, and hiking tiger leaping gorge. He's hilarious, has me laughing constantly, he's gorgeous,and he's incredibly creative building things in his shop that are so amazing. We're both musicians, we are both writers. He's kind to me, he's as free spirited as I am, and we both believe in the beauty of love, we are both interested in setlling down after our wild youth and having a family. We both want to continue travelling the world with our family if we have ine together I own a business and I study sociology sub group/ criminology with my centration focused on human trafficking, its a very dark choice of study. He brings me out of this by taking me for walks out in nature, bringing me home lilacs. On our first date he brought me a gift, a book I had mentioned some time back in conversation the phone and a fish he had caught the day erlier for me to cook- ironically I also brought him a gift, a leather bound writing journal, we hadn't planned on gifts, yet we were both the type of people to be thoughful enough to bring one. I'm leaving in 2 weeks for another backpacking trip alone, I promised I would write him letters for each day I am gone, and mail them as I can along my trip, I intend to keep that promise. It may or not work out with this man of my dreams, but I'm feeling like we have a damn good chance. And yes I've known him less than a month, but I was feeling this way within the first hour I met him. You have your opinion, and that's fine, I go about life in a different way than you, and to be honest I'm having a blast, i am unuaual and my life is unusal, but its an amazing life that I'm proud of, regardless of whether I enjoy one night stands or not. Edited June 7, 2015 by Tarot777 1
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 I have to say, both my H and I knew we were in it for the long haul about a week after we met.... 11 years later.....and here we are! 2
DexterLS Posted June 7, 2015 Posted June 7, 2015 Nothing anyone will say on here will get into your head anyway. So let me wish you a very good luck for your backpacking trip and whatever you have with this new guy. All the best. 1
Author Tarot777 Posted June 7, 2015 Author Posted June 7, 2015 Nothing anyone will say on here will get into your head anyway. So let me wish you a very good luck for your backpacking trip and whatever you have with this new guy. All the best. Thank you. I will come back at some point to update, if y'all are right, I will say so, I don't have a problem with being wrong. But if I'm right then this is awesome!
ZiggyZoo Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 You seem awfully defensive, quite quick to take offense to the opinion of a stranger on an internet forum. I wonder if somewhere your gut is telling you that this new relationship isn't quite right, or too fast, and you're trying to ignore it. Otherwise, I'd think you could just brush the criticism off, if you were positive this is what's right for you. I think the backpacking trip by yourself would be a great time to reflect on the nature of love and examine this new relationship from a bit of a distance. 1
Author Tarot777 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 You seem awfully defensive, quite quick to take offense to the opinion of a stranger on an internet forum. I wonder if somewhere your gut is telling you that this new relationship isn't quite right, or too fast, and you're trying to ignore it. Otherwise, I'd think you could just brush the criticism off, if you were positive this is what's right for you. I think the backpacking trip by yourself would be a great time to reflect on the nature of love and examine this new relationship from a bit of a distance. Haha, wonder all you want what my gut is telling me, that has nothing to do with why I was defensive. I was defensive because I'm a human being, we tend to get that way sometimes, even with internet strangers. Anyway, I'm happy, I stopped by here because I know how horrible it can be to have a broken heart, its so devastating. I found new love and I'm absolutely thrilled, with him and the whole experience, I just wanted to drop by and offer a little kindness to others when they were feeling down. I probably won't use my backpacking trip to analyze my new love from a distance, I'll probably just wander around castles, drink coffee at cafes, drink wine with locals and other travellers, and write love letters to my darling back home. Good luck out the everyone! It does get better! Thanks I guess for all your opinions.... If I listened to what other people told me I wouldn't have travelled alone around the world for 2 years, and had the experience of a lifetime, one that will be with me throughout the course of my life. I also wouldn't have used all my inheritance to open a business on a whim that I've had for years now, a business that funds overseas travel every month or two, and pays all my university tuition without loans... I think I'll keep my own counsel, it has served me well so far. I don't think I'll be back! Too many negative Nancy's ha! Have some fun people
ZiggyZoo Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Good luck! We all think we're the exception, don't we?
Latino4Lyfe Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Don't mean to be one of those "negative nancy's" lol, but this has hardcore honeymoon phase written all over. But hey best of luck with your life and travels and hopefully this relationship works out and is not a rebound... We'll be here when you come back. 2
Author Tarot777 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 Don't mean to be one of those "negative nancy's" lol, but this has hardcore honeymoon phase written all over. But hey best of luck with your life and travels and hopefully this relationship works out and is not a rebound... We'll be here when you come back. Thanks haha, and I may be back, who knows! I don't really think he's a rebound, I tried to rebound about 2 months after break up and ended up in tears as the guy was getting a condom out, that must have been sexy! Haha, poor guy :/ Plus I don't think about my ex when I'm with him, all the other attempts I did.
Author Tarot777 Posted June 8, 2015 Author Posted June 8, 2015 And when I say I don't think I'll be back, it's not because I don't think there's a chance we will break up, I just don't think we'll break up badly, he's really kind. I needed loveshack last breakup because my ex was so evil and cruel, and I was so confused, I've had break ups before and move through them pretty well, this last one was a nightmare though xx
ephemeralme Posted June 8, 2015 Posted June 8, 2015 Ha! What?! Because I felt better after a one night stand that speaks a lot about me? Alright, I'll dig right in. After my break up from hell, I tried everything I could do move past it. I did yoga, lost 10 lbs, started painting and writing again, kept a journal, drank minimal alcohol... After four months of that and very little progress ( I thought I was over him at one point, but I think I was more hoping). Anyway, after very little progress moving on I was starting to lose it. I told my best friend I was just going to do the opposite of what I was doing and keep at it until the booze and the men ran out, perhaps that would work better than my " healthy way". That same day my car got stolen and a few other series of unfortunate events occured. So I called up a guy I had met and asked him to come over for wine by the river and sex, I actually really like this guy, he knew my whole situation about my ex blah blah. He came over, rocked my world and I felt soooo much better, a million times better, we had such a fun, cool night together. So yes, the one night stand was fantastic. I enjoy them and always have, not gonna apologize for that. They're not for everyone, but I like them. As for man of my dreams. First date we met, it was fireworks, we took off 3 hours away to a blues music festival and slept in the back of his truck all weekend, danced, had a blast. We are very similair, neither of us have facebook or any social media, both us don't own a TV, we are both big time travellers, I backpacked across Asia, central and south America over 2 years alone, he did the same except it was south and central america as well as Europe. He tells me tales of boat trips and dengue fever up the amazon, I regale him with my tales of wild nights nights in Shanghai, and hiking tiger leaping gorge. He's hilarious, has me laughing constantly, he's gorgeous,and he's incredibly creative building things in his shop that are so amazing. We're both musicians, we are both writers. He's kind to me, he's as free spirited as I am, and we both believe in the beauty of love, we are both interested in setlling down after our wild youth and having a family. We both want to continue travelling the world with our family if we have ine together I own a business and I study sociology sub group/ criminology with my centration focused on human trafficking, its a very dark choice of study. He brings me out of this by taking me for walks out in nature, bringing me home lilacs. On our first date he brought me a gift, a book I had mentioned some time back in conversation the phone and a fish he had caught the day erlier for me to cook- ironically I also brought him a gift, a leather bound writing journal, we hadn't planned on gifts, yet we were both the type of people to be thoughful enough to bring one. I'm leaving in 2 weeks for another backpacking trip alone, I promised I would write him letters for each day I am gone, and mail them as I can along my trip, I intend to keep that promise. It may or not work out with this man of my dreams, but I'm feeling like we have a damn good chance. And yes I've known him less than a month, but I was feeling this way within the first hour I met him. You have your opinion, and that's fine, I go about life in a different way than you, and to be honest I'm having a blast, i am unuaual and my life is unusal, but its an amazing life that I'm proud of, regardless of whether I enjoy one night stands or not. Good on YOU! this is awesome and I just love this!! a connection that truly meets each of you much joy to you!!! and , does he have an older brother??? ( you both remind me of me a bit---) take care on your hiking trip!!! wish I was going too! 1
Author Tarot777 Posted June 9, 2015 Author Posted June 9, 2015 Good on YOU! this is awesome and I just love this!! a connection that truly meets each of you much joy to you!!! and , does he have an older brother??? ( you both remind me of me a bit---) take care on your hiking trip!!! wish I was going too! Well I'm glad someone likes it haha! My mom says our energy together is contagious and she's be surprised if he's not "the one" He does have an older brother! But he's engaged Thanks for your kind words xx
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 Still going strong, we're planning a back pack trip in mexico and talking about getting married. Stay strong everyone, new love will come and you'll be happy it ended with your ex Xo
CalvinM Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 You sound exactly like my ex, bouncing from "relationship to relationship" leaving a trail of broken hearts in your wake. I assume you're still quite young, so perhaps it's just a phase. You likely have parental issues as well, which are pushing you to connect on such a "deep" level with complete strangers. It makes for an entertaining read to say the least. 2
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) You sound exactly like my ex, bouncing from "relationship to relationship" leaving a trail of broken hearts in your wake. I assume you're still quite young, so perhaps it's just a phase. You likely have parental issues as well, which are pushing you to connect on such a "deep" level with complete strangers. It makes for an entertaining read to say the least. Well thank you for the psychoanalysis dear Freud, and also thanks for the negative comments about my childhood and parents, that was particularly odd.... I'm actually very close with my family, who are all fabulous people, very kind and interesting. But, to each their own, I'm just happy I'm not dating you!!! I do connect with people quite deeply - friends and lovers, I quite like that aspect about myself, I have very meaningful relationships in my life. I connect quickly because I'm open and friendly, I also spend a few months a year backpacking alone, I make friends fast. I'm not young, well not that young! I'm 31, own a business thats doing well, just opened another, have a degree from a good university. Not doing too bad in life I would say. It's called love and romance, you should try it sometime. Edited July 16, 2015 by Tarot777
Seeker12 Posted July 16, 2015 Posted July 16, 2015 You sound exactly like my ex, bouncing from "relationship to relationship" leaving a trail of broken hearts in your wake. I assume you're still quite young, so perhaps it's just a phase. You likely have parental issues as well, which are pushing you to connect on such a "deep" level with complete strangers. It makes for an entertaining read to say the least. LOL this sound exactly, to the T, like my ex after our break up a year ago.
Author Tarot777 Posted July 16, 2015 Author Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Maybe you guys are transferring your bad feeling about your exes onto me. I got dumped and cheated on, I'm just moving on here team, nothing wrong with falling in love again. Took me a few months to get back on my feet and not feel like I was going to suffer forever, I don't see what the big deal is that I moved on and fell head over heels, I was single and miserable for 4 months after break up. I was also single for a year before I met my ex, I broke up with the boyfriend before that because his visa expired and he had to go back to Ireland. Hardly jumping from man to man, but who cares if I did? I've never been married, no children, only lived with one guy ( irish guy) I'm not mean and I'm not reckless with people Get a grip people I think I'll stop coming here and offering words of encouragement, y'all are too miserable Edited July 16, 2015 by Tarot777 1
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