kasop Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Over a month of no contact. I dont keep count anymore i found it useless in me moving on. Today i felt great. Even talking to a new girl. We have a date saturday and im super excited. Ive come along way sense my bu with me ex. Well she texted me today. Funny i wanted to post here and ask yal what i should do. Anyways i didnt.. i texted her back. After the hey how are you? Good? Ya im good to. Ok. Was over. She blamed me for her friend.. whos my best friend.. for hating her. So ya i said it "Maybe because you dumped his best friend over a text msg" .. haha right i just said it. She cursed me out. I wont go into detail. So ya idk what just happened. Obviously im not over her yet because of what i said. And now the pain is right back where it was. Yay! What do you love shakers think? Im kicking myself so hard in the ass right now.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 I'm thinking you should've just ignored her. You have something good on your plate coming up, and she just got the reaction she was probably looking for. Just go NC again. She got a rise out of you. 1
FistOfTheNorthStar Posted June 4, 2015 Posted June 4, 2015 Honestly. You should have blocked her number. Not worth that bull caca. She should have known she would have lost friends and respect from the breakup. It hurts I know but it will take time to heal hermano. With that said. Stay with NC and block it all. Not worth the pain anymore. -F
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 I'm thinking you should've just ignored her. You have something good on your plate coming up, and she just got the reaction she was probably looking for. Just go NC again. She got a rise out of you. Why do people do this? She got what she was expecting. Was it a test? To see if im still available to her or not?
Thecondor1991 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Man this chick sounds like a real piece of work. You already answered her, but from this point on, I wouldn't even dignify her with a response.
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Why do people do this? She got what she was expecting. Was it a test? To see if im still available to her or not? Possibly. Perhaps she found out you were seeing someone else and wanted to test the waters?
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 Possibly. Perhaps she found out you were seeing someone else and wanted to test the waters? She has no way of knowing..and by our conversation there was no sign of it.. btw she has been seeinh someone else ive heard from hear say
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Ok...here's the deal. You screwed up.! You took her call vs. ignoring her. The good news? You've been doing GREAT in NC and you've now learned why veterans always say to block their number and ignore them if they make contact. The other good news is you in a much better place and are able to go out a date other people. That's HUGE. Why did she contact you? 1) To see if you'd answer 2) To see if she still had power over you and could rattle your cage 3) To be a selfish douche bag and was curious since you've given her the best thing ever. SILENCE from you. Now, stay NC with her. She doesn't deserve any of your time and attention and keep on your dating path to find a normal, healthy woman who won't dump you via text. 3
minime13 Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Over a month of no contact. I dont keep count anymore i found it useless in me moving on. Today i felt great. Even talking to a new girl. We have a date saturday and im super excited. Ive come along way sense my bu with me ex. Well she texted me today. Funny i wanted to post here and ask yal what i should do. Anyways i didnt.. i texted her back. After the hey how are you? Good? Ya im good to. Ok. Was over. She blamed me for her friend.. whos my best friend.. for hating her. So ya i said it "Maybe because you dumped his best friend over a text msg" .. haha right i just said it. She cursed me out. I wont go into detail. So ya idk what just happened. Obviously im not over her yet because of what i said. And now the pain is right back where it was. Yay! What do you love shakers think? Im kicking myself so hard in the ass right now. Just like smoking - breaking no contact will always put you back at square one. Now you know.
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 Its really starting to sink in. I keep making mistakes no matter how hard i try. Ive been so nice to this person and she still taunts me. I feel used. Like our whole relationship she just used me. I thought all she wanted was somone to be nice to her sense so many other people have craped on her. So now its like shes getting her revenge on me. I wasent that bad of a boyfriend?
ColdandLonelyinAK Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 You probably weren't bad to her. People say mean things during breakups to project their insecurities and guilt onto the other. It took me awhile to realize this. Don't feel guilty. Block her from everything, including your phone. Out of sight, out of mind does wonders. 1
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Its really starting to sink in. I keep making mistakes no matter how hard i try. Ive been so nice to this person and she still taunts me. I feel used. Like our whole relationship she just used me. I thought all she wanted was somone to be nice to her sense so many other people have craped on her. So now its like shes getting her revenge on me. I wasent that bad of a boyfriend? This whole reply is you admitting she's totally in control of you STILL. You have to take charge and say ENOUGH. We can't figure out why people do $hitty things to us. What we can figure out is they are $hitty people we can flush from our lives. She's clearly toxic w/other issues as well. Seriously, VANISH from her life. You'll feel completely back in control and regain your confidence. We've all had relationships with damaged people. My last ex I'm quite certain suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. I was a great boyfriend to her and I allowed her to treat me like ****. Nothing I did was enough. I was great to her and her kids. It didn't matter. She thought she could continue to treat me like **** and ended us when I told her I had enough of her BS. I got the ultimate revenge. I VANISHED from her life, met my now LT GF and couldn't be happier. I also got the satisfaction of telling her NO THANKS when she came back almost 6 months later asking for another chance. I honestly think about her occasionally and think about the hell she putting guys she seeing now thru. People don't change.. They just don't.
Fleur de cactus Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 I hope you listened to friends here and you already blocked her number. The good news is that one day she will find out that you blocked her and this will eat her. By contacting you she only wanted to verify is she is still in charge, good or bad. She does not care about your friend, or you she only thinks your are something to her she owns. It make her happy to blame you, disrespect, discard, devalue, insult, because she feels superior and cannot do anything wrong. Be strong, you are in the right track, focus on your life. Block her.
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 This whole reply is you admitting she's totally in control of you STILL. You have to take charge and say ENOUGH. We can't figure out why people do $hitty things to us. What we can figure out is they are $hitty people we can flush from our lives. She's clearly toxic w/other issues as well. Seriously, VANISH from her life. You'll feel completely back in control and regain your confidence. We've all had relationships with damaged people. My last ex I'm quite certain suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder. I was a great boyfriend to her and I allowed her to treat me like ****. Nothing I did was enough. I was great to her and her kids. It didn't matter. She thought she could continue to treat me like **** and ended us when I told her I had enough of her BS. I got the ultimate revenge. I VANISHED from her life, met my now LT GF and couldn't be happier. I also got the satisfaction of telling her NO THANKS when she came back almost 6 months later asking for another chance. I honestly think about her occasionally and think about the hell she putting guys she seeing now thru. People don't change.. They just don't. My ex is diagnosed bi-polar. On top of alot of other things. She has alot of insecurities. Lots of redflags i ignored. She was a happy person around me but didnt last wrong. Now its like shes the ice queen from ****.
mightycpa Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Why do people do this? She got what she was expecting. Was it a test? To see if im still available to her or not? She simply assumed that when she told you to jump, you'd ask How High? and you did, just like she expected you would. Of course, the correct response is **** you. Leave me alone.The polite response is silence and blocking.
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 My ex is diagnosed bi-polar. On top of alot of other things. She has alot of insecurities. Lots of redflags i ignored. She was a happy person around me but didnt last wrong. Now its like shes the ice queen from ****. All these things you state should only reinforce that you're so better off w/out her. She's not going to change nor will me BPD ex. They say all the right things (words) but their actions do the talking. My ex apologized all over herself when she wanted me back. Sorry, I already bought that ground sweetie. She actually once admitted she was on "her best behavior" before the honeymoon ended and I saw the real her. I truly feel sorry for folks with BPD or Bi-polar. In some cases they simply can't help how they treat people.
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 She simply assumed that when she told you to jump, you'd ask and you did, just like she expected you would. Of course, the correct response is The polite response is silence and blocking. Really crushes your self esteem you know
aloneinaz Posted June 5, 2015 Posted June 5, 2015 Really crushes your self esteem you know Only when you let it. 1
Author kasop Posted June 5, 2015 Author Posted June 5, 2015 All these things you state should only reinforce that you're so better off w/out her. She's not going to change nor will me BPD ex. They say all the right things (words) but their actions do the talking. My ex apologized all over herself when she wanted me back. Sorry, I already bought that ground sweetie. She actually once admitted she was on "her best behavior" before the honeymoon ended and I saw the real her. I truly feel sorry for folks with BPD or Bi-polar. In some cases they simply can't help how they treat people. She may be this way..but she is a beautiful person and ive seen her happy. Shes allready got another bf. Shes to afraid to be alone. But i hope the best for her
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